Who can be an egg donor??

[sarahstarfish]

Hi Ladies

A few of you have asked what sort of age/situation etc to be able to donate eggs.

Bel touched on it in her post but thought a new thread would be easy to find.

Age

Between 21 and 35 for anonymous donation, and up to 38 at some clinics for known donation. However, there seems to be a real shift away from anonymous donation so not all clinics will let you do a completely anonymous donation. And in Victoria and WA your details will be kept on a database for any people concieved from your donation to be able to contact you in the future if they want to,

Your own family

A few donors have donated without having children themselves, or who haven't completed their families but in general clinics like donors to have completed their families. There are some very minor risks and it would be a tragedy if a donor donated and then found they could not then have their own children. They are very minor risks but something you need to think about if you haven't started or finished your own family.

Genetic issues

There are some genetic diseases that will prohibit someone donating - this is all covered in the clinic paperwork but a call to your nearest clinic to talk to their Donor Conordinator will let you know if you have any concerns.

Breastfeeding

You have to wait a couple of cycles after you have weaned to make sure your hormones are all back to normal! A few donors actually start looking for recipients while they are still breastfeeding as they know it takes a while to find someone and get the clinic appointments organised - so if it's something you really want to do, dont' let it stop you. A few recipients continue cycling with their own eggs while they wait out the time so will be more than happy to wait alongside you.

Tubal ligation

If you have had a tubal ligation, you are still able to donate as your ovaries are still intact and functioning.

Miscarriages

It is not uncommon for potential donors to have had miscarriages. This is generally not an isue but talk it over with the Donor Coordinator at your nearest clinic.

Tattoos/Drug use

Because of HIV issues, there are specific questions relating to possible exposure - again, something to talk over with your clinic.


I can't think of anything else at the moment - am sure there is more that others will add or I'll remember!

Love

Cindy

[MumsieMel]

Thanks for the info Cindy.

[xkwzit]

Hi Cindy

Great information as usual. Thanks for posting it :yelclap:

Cheers

[MunnWhanau]

Thanks, that answers my question :yelclap:

[mumma_jessy]

Just a quick question about contraception, i have an implanon, so obviously it would have to be removed, how long do you have to wait after it comes out to start the cycle etc??

[sarahstarfish]

Hey Mumma

I'm not 100% sure on this one so hope others can butt in! I know in some cases hormone function seems to come back very quickly, while in others, can take a while, like the pill I am guessing. Will try and find some more conclusive information for you.

Love

Cindy

[alzah8]

Hi ladies,I am fairly new to bubhub but i like reading everyones stories, mainly because here i am a mum of 8 kids(9 in march) and i have always wanted to help ladies in your situation,but my husband wont let me donate and i am nearly 37 but anyway if anyone wants any advice let me know.

[ogilberry]

Just a quick question about contraception, i have an implanon, so obviously it would have to be removed, how long do you have to wait after it comes out to start the cycle etc??
i donated earlier this year and had the implanon removed two weeks prior the doctor told me that he controls the eggs and the hormones so off we went it was quite easy i feel and hope that more women donate it is the best present you will ever give anyone and it will cost you not a cent...it is a great feeling

if you want to pm on being a donor happy to chat about the whole experience..

fiona
brisbane qld:tree:

[MaKyZaDaMa]

When i stumbled across this thread, i became quite interested to know what is involved. I'm curious to know how the eggs are actually taken away, like what is the procedure? Sorry if i sound really daft here :o.

Hubby and i plan on having our fourth baby in a few years time, so i wouldn't be donating untill after that. But i have discussed this with my hubby, and we both think it would be a great thing to be able to do in the future.

Thanks in advance to any replies :thumbsup:.

[Roxy]

The eggs are removed under either sedation or a general anesthetic in theatre by the fertility specialist.

The basic procedure is that a long, fine catheter is inserted vaginally to your ovaries, and the follicles containing the eggs are pierced with the very fine needle in the catheter and are sucked out into the catheter.

Generally, it takes no more than 20-30 mins.

[hayleysmummy]

HI,i am just curious as to whether or not you have to complete your family before donateing your eggs i would like to but i would also like to have more kids should i wait till my family is complete and i am 19 do you have to be a certain age

[Dea]

I have always been interested in this .. I have completed my family ... WOW .. might have to read up on it a bit more

[Roxy]

HI,i am just curious as to whether or not you have to complete your family before donateing your eggs i would like to but i would also like to have more kids should i wait till my family is complete and i am 19 do you have to be a certain age

Hi there!

You do not have to have completed your family to donate, but it is preferred that you have.

That's for a few reasons:

* there is a very small chance that your own fertility may be affected.
*on an emotional level, if your recipients fall pregnant and then you are unable to again after donating, there coluld be a real sense of loss and resentment on the donor's side....

That said, I have known more donors who have gone on to have babies after donating than I do those who have struggled with their fertility.

You only need to under about 38 to donate, so at 19, you have LOTS of years yet to finish your family before moving on to donating. I was 31 when I did my first donation.

[Kadwil]

I have considered donating eggs before, but was unsure as I am watching my friend undergo IVF and she has to inject herself, etc - she suffers from PCOS so does not ovulate regularly. I thought that is what egg donors have to do, but I guess if I am developing eggs naturally I wouldn't have to do that! Is it painful? Do you have to take hormones etc or 'time' when you are ovulating? I have considered doing this in the past but I would like to finish my family first (I am TTC at the moment).

[wa mum of 4]

Hi Kadwil,

I am a donor, if you want to know all that is involved you can have a look through some of the posts in egg donation issues.

I currently have a tread going with my IP's so you can follow along with the journey if you like.

If you would like a more extensive run down you can PM me and I will answer as many of your questions as possible.

:hugs: to you for considering.

Sarah

[mooter]

I am the mum of four and decided that I wanted to donate my eggs as I was finished my family.

Unfortunately I was 35 and am now 36, and no ones seems to be interested in my eggs. I have given birth to four healthy children, I have no genetic defects, have never suffered a miscarriage.

Its such a shame as I would love to be able to help someone experience the daily joy I feel at being a mum.

With women having their first children at a later age these days its a shame that older womens eggs are not suitable.

My heart goes out to all who are eagerly awaiting a donor to make their dreams come true.

[wa mum of 4]

Hi mooter,
I have PM'd you.

Regards
:hugs:
Sarah

[flib]

I would consider donating and finished my family last year with my 3rd baby at 40. I'm too old to donate which is a pity as I had no problems concieving at 40 and my children are all perfect (IYKWIM).

Cheers

[Mokar]

I have a couple of questions ...

Would you need to go into a Fertility clinic and go through all the paperwork/testing first before finding a family to donate to?

Are you able to not be anonymous?

Is it wrong to request that contact be kept between the family and donor? (Eg. Photo's once a year- like birthdays... as I would like to be able to see the child I helped to create.)

Are you able to choose the family/person I want to donate to? (As in, if you saw an ad that appealed to me- could you donate to them?)

TIA for any answers. :wave:

[Roxy]

Hi Mokar! :wave:

You can go into a Fertility clinic if you would like to be matched with recipients from the Clinic's waiting list. Ifyou'd rather find your own recipients, then it's easier to wait, because you might en up cycling through the recipients clinic anyway.

You can be anonymous if you wish - however your anonymity is conditional. Donor registers are being set up all over Australia now, and any children resulting from donations will be sent a letter from the registers when they turn 18, telling that that they are donor conceived and that there are records that they can access that will identify their donor.

no, it's not wrong - it's called "known donation". I keep in contact with my recipients - we were lucky enough to become close friends so are in very close contact.

Other donors do just get the yearly update (they normally request a Christmas card and pic then).


Yes - you are able to choose the family/person you donate to. If you see an ad (either here or elsewhere) that speaks to you, then you can approach the author and get to know them with the view to donating. A good portion of donations happen this way, as most clinics have a 5+yr waiting list for donors.


Feel free to ask any other questions you might have - there are a few of us here who are more than happy to answer them!

[Mokar]

Thanks heaps Roxy...

Another question...

you can approach the author and get to know them with the view to donating

This quote... what would be a reason that people wouldn't donate to the recipients?

I mean, obviously, if I saw an ad I was drawn to and wanted to help them by donating my eggs- then I would really try to do this.

Do people pull out for superficial reasons like they want a 'better looking child'? Or is it more for reasons like the donor doesnt believe that the family would take the best care of the child... or that the donor and recipients dont get along? Or... more serious issues like finding out the donor has some kind of health issue that comes from a few generations back?

[Roxy]

It depends on what kind of relationship you are looking for with your recipients.

If you are looking at the type of relationship where you just exchange Christmas cards once a year, then "clicking" with the recipients on a personal level probably isn't that important.

However, there are donors (like me!) who want to have a little bit more regular contact, so want to "click" with the person/people they are donating to.

I didn't donate to the first couple I approached - something just didn't feel right and I just knew that they would not have ever told their children about their origins (something that I believe in), and I never would have heard from them without having to chase them.

Recipients won't pull out because they think that they won't get beautiful children - what a donor's colouring/build/etc is usually isn't a great consideration. People who are looking for ED's have already run the gauntlet of IVF and failed, and they are so desperate to be parents that they are usually just greatful that someone will give them another chance at that.

Hope that makes some sort of sense!

[Mokar]

Awesome. Thanks so much for the information.

I would definatly want to be kept informed on what is happening with the child I helped create. I would be happy with Photo's etc from birthdays & Christmas if thats all the recipients were comfortable with... but like you, I would probably like more contact.


How do you go about telling people they arent right for you, if you just dont get that 'right' feeling?
And how long do you usually take-getting to know them- before you go ahead with the donation?

[Roxy]

How do you know? It sounds silly, and until you've experienced it, you just scoff and roll youy eyes :laughing: ... BUT, you do just know when you've met the people who are right for you...you have no doubts about donating to them - in fact you are excited that you can help them!

A good friend of mine has just finally found her recipients - for months she has been telling me that the "click" that everyone talks about was just a figment of their imagination - until she felt it.

When you meet them, and they are "the ones", you will know.

How long depends on you and your recipients, and the way in which you meet them. I met my recipients on a donor/recipients website (please let me know if you want the details), so we already kind of knew each other before I offered to donate to them. I "knew" my recipients for about 6mths (through chatting on that forum) before we starting talking in earnest, and we were cycling within 10 weeks of that!

The friend I mentioned above has just started cycling last night, and she met her recipients about a month ago. (She met them through her clinic, and had already done all the prelim stuff).

It can take a very short time, or a long time..it really depends on so many varying factors.

[Mokar]

I would love the website Roxy! Thanks :)

Is being a donor a time consuming process?

How many visits on average to the clinic need to be taken?

Gosh, I want to donate so much- but I guess there is so much research to be done first!

[Roxy]

Being a donor isn't that time consuming - the actual cycle takes about 6weeks from the time you start on the down-reg regime. It can take about 4-6 weeks to get to that point, between specialist appts and counselling....

I only visited the clinic once - at the very beginning.

And yep - do your research. Make sure that your heart will "let" you go ahead with donation.

[kandd]

Hi Mokar,

Roxy has given you some very sound advice. It is true that if you are looking to have a relationship with your recipients that there will be a "click".

I was approached by a wonderful lady who offered to be our donor and although we got on well it just didn't feel right. I actually discussed with her the fact that I didn't want anyone to donate who wasn't 100% comfortable with myself and my partner and it was soon after that we parted ways. Although I was devastated at the time I knew it was the right thing for both her family and mine.

The lady that has become our donor is the most wonderful person and we have developed a wonderful friendship with both her and her family - we speak regularly and it is like we have known each other forever. If you click on the link in my signature you will be able to read our joint story.

I notice from your first post that you are still quite young and may have only just started your family. Most clinics will recommend that you finish you family first. Please do your research - you may even wish to contact a clinic in you local area for advice as there are some risks albeit minor.

I wish you all the best - this is a generous gift that you are considering offering. I assume that you are aware of the ads posted by ladies seeking egg donors right here on Bubhub.

Take care.
Diana

[Mokar]

Hi kandd - Thanks for your reply. I have read through alot of the posts on BH and would just love to help every one of them- but as Roxy said- do my research! Which, I am :)... Yes, I am young but I do not want anymore children, and so I figured that I should bless someone else with my eggs as they are just being 'wasted' so to speak.


Thanks for PMing me the address Roxy- I will definatly check that site out.

:wave:

[maddysmummy]

Hi - I no this thread has probably closed, but I just wanted some info about all of this.
I'm 20 - is that to young to donate?
I dont want any more children, and if I did, and I couldn't because of donating, it wouldn't bother me much.
But I was wondering how it all works properly. I have been on an injection for 3 years, and had my first period not long ago. Is there an injection that can kick start my period again so I can donate?
Also, I'm from the UK (going back in November) is it to late to even think about it?
Thanks :D

[detajach]

I also have some questions, hopefully wa mum of 4 will be on to help out!
I'm 22 years old, DEFINATELY not having any more children and am considering donating...
The thing is, I want to know all I can before saying I definately want to do it.
I also kind of doubt that I'll be able to...
I have PCOS you see... I had a missed m/c at 17 weeks (took 13months to concieve), and with my DS and DD I was pregnant within 2months off the pill. So I don't know what the go is in that area! My periods are irregular though.
Also, I'm on the implant, is that an issue?
I've talked to my DH about it, he says he doesn't agree with me even donating my blood, but he wouldn't stop me. Kind of the same thing here. Men...

[Roxy]

Hi - I no this thread has probably closed,

Nope - this thread is open! :)


I'm 20 - is that to young to donate?

It will depend hugely upon the clinic that you go through. Most like donors to be no younger than 21, but by the time you make the decision to donate, find some recipients and get things started there is a good likelihood that you'd 21 (or really close to it!) anyway.


I dont want any more children, and if I did, and I couldn't because of donating, it wouldn't bother me much.

Donating won't stop you from having further children. The risk of infertility is small (around 1%) - but to be honest I have only ever heard of one donor who went on to have issues conceiving again (but that was more due to ectopic pregnancy than the IVF drugs).


But I was wondering how it all works properly. I have been on an injection for 3 years, and had my first period not long ago. Is there an injection that can kick start my period again so I can donate?

As far as I know, there isn't an injection that will kick start your period again...it's something to chat to the specialist about, because they may be able to tailor the cycle so that you don't need to have an AF (I know of a donor who is about to cycle with an IUD and the clinic is quite happy for her to keep it in during the cycle).

Also, I'm from the UK (going back in November) is it to late to even think about it?

It's not too late, but given that you have a relatively short time frame, you may wish to approach a clinic about donating to someone on their waiting list. You can do that anonymously (where the recipients won't get too much more info apart from height, weight, eye colour etc), or you can ask to be matched to recipients who are happy to meet you and maintain some form of ongoing contact (sporadic emails, Christmas card, etc)...you just need to decide what kind of donation you want to do and go from there.

HTH!

[Roxy]

I also have some questions, hopefully wa mum of 4 will be on to help out!

I can help too! :wave:


I also kind of doubt that I'll be able to...
I have PCOS you see... I had a missed m/c at 17 weeks (took 13months to concieve), and with my DS and DD I was pregnant within 2months off the pill. So I don't know what the go is in that area! My periods are irregular though.

PCOS isn't something that will stop you from donating - it just means that you will be closely monitored for any signs of over stimulation (It's tricky to know how a PCOS lady will react to the IVF drugs - sometimes their ovaries go nuts and over produce follicles, sometimes they'll take a bit of stimming to get into action!). It doesn't matter that your periods are irregular - an IVF cycle will control all that, so the only thing that an irregular period will affect is when you commence the cycle.

Also, I'm on the implant, is that an issue?

I do believe that the Implanon is an issue for cycling (unlike an IUD), and most clinics will ask you to have it removed before commencing a cycle. That said, it's worth checking with them first before rushing off and getting it taken out...

I've talked to my DH about it, he says he doesn't agree with me even donating my blood, but he wouldn't stop me. Kind of the same thing here. Men...

Your DH needs to be in agreeance with your decision, as he needs to sign the consent forms and undergo counselling as well prior to you donating. Most clinics will also require him to have a screening blood test (STD's etc) prior to you cycling as well - and it makes it easier if he's on side to get all that done...

[maddysmummy]

Thanks Roxy :D
I really am considering doing it. But I want to wait until my periods are more regular before I go ahead and find someone. I think I would like just to be in the back ground, and get to no the people etc, dont no why lol
It does make u want to do it more seeing all the threads on here, I just wish I did it when I got here for a couple, I do think betime I get another period and stuff, It will be to late.
But thanks for the info :) I will definatly look up on it more over the next few months

[detajach]

Thanks heaps Roxy!

Your DH needs to be in agreeance with your decision, as he needs to sign the consent forms and undergo counselling as well prior to you donating. Most clinics will also require him to have a screening blood test (STD's etc) prior to you cycling as well - and it makes it easier if he's on side to get all that done...

Hmmm, this might be a problem... He is dead scared of needles... I'll have to work on that!

Also, another question I forgot to ask...
Will DH have to wear condoms at all during the process? :o
He hates them thats all...

[Roxy]

Will DH have to wear condoms at all during the process?

Ummm....yeah, unless abstinence is his thing :laughing: - it is advised that you do use another form of contraception during your cycle, JIC, and given that you are unable to take an oral contraceptive whilst stimming, DH needs to take care of that part! It's either that or just avoid penetrative sex during the 7-10 days in particular when you are injecting the FSH - you both might need to be creative. ;)

[jag5000]

Hi ladies... it might be a silly question, but I wonder if someone could help me find the answer.

Why no donating when breastfeeding? I assume it's the meds..yeah? as in transferring through to your milk. Is that the reason?

[Roxy]

Hi Jag,

That's basically it, although I have recently heard about a donor who was still b/f'ing an older baby and was able to b/f during a cycle. Their clinic was happy for her to cycle because her baby wasn't a newborn, and her AF cycle had returned to normal.

Ideally though, clinics generally like you to wait at least 6 months, preferably 12 months, after having a baby to donate, and most women have stopped breastfeeding by the 12mths.

[jag5000]

thanks Roxy :) .. btw, it's so nice to you to be answering everyone's questions in here! :D

[Roxy]

You're welcome! There are a few of us around that can answer the ED questions - I just think that I'm the one who's here the most :o

[wa mum of 4]

[quote=detajach;2964026]I also have some questions, hopefully wa mum of 4 will be on to help out!
[quote]

Shucks I feel special :goodvibes:...Thanks for thinking of me.

I find it a bit harder to get on here as much due to this midwifery degree. detajach like Roxy said a few of us can answer your questions, and shes right Roxy is on here more than most.:p

It is wonderful that there are women out there that are willing to donate or at least consider it. Donating is amazing, the friendship Diana and I have developed it a true gift. I hope that others experience the same relationship with their Donors/ Recips. It is deffinatly a reward for me.
Lets just hope that those baby's stick :fingerscrossed:.

:hugs: to all
Sarah

[Ashtenbel]

hi just a few questions about the partner's side of it. regarding permission and everything. my husband says he will stand by me with what ever i want to do but still does not understand completely why i wont to do it. he is happy to be there for me but doesnt really want to be involved if this makes sence, what do you about this and so on?

[Roxy]

The partner of the donor's role in the whole process is very small - it's a signature on the consent forms, 1 blood test and a counselling session that can be done in most cases over the phone...

Keep talking to him - and see if you can get him to read the stuff you are reading for him to see why its important to you....

The donor's hubbies can be the hardest ones to bring around in this, yet they have the easiest part to play!

[Ashtenbel]

its quiet funny, well not funny funny, but he cam ehome from work yesterday afternoon and said what ever i have to do i will if this is what you want... which is one hurdle that is gone now. thankyou for replying to me straight away. i just hope now i can find that right person and we can go from there and cross more hurdles together. :):):shakehands:

[Roxy]

Good news!!

[madjedjjlill]

why is 38 the cut off ? I would love to donate my very fertile eggs to a loving couple but as i'm pregnant with #6 at the moment an due in april. my b'day is dec an i will b 38 I feel sad that I still could not donate just because I will b 1 year older

[*mumof4*]

Would love to donate as our family is complete...just dont have the $ to travel ect.

[Roxy]

why is 38 the cut off ? I would love to donate my very fertile eggs to a loving couple but as i'm pregnant with #6 at the moment an due in april. my b'day is dec an i will b 38 I feel sad that I still could not donate just because I will b 1 year older


38 is normally the cut off, as for the average woman her fertility and egg quality normally start to decline at about then. That said, I have known a couple of donors who have been between 38 and 40 and have gotten good results...

You could approach a few recipients and see how they feel about an older donor, that has proven recent fertility and see how you go...also chat to your local clinic, because you are 38 for a whole year ;)

[Roxy]

Would love to donate as our family is complete...just dont have the $ to travel ect.

As a donor, you don't pay for travel or tests or any of that stuff - its all covered by your recipients. If you donate to someone who lives near you then its easier as well for everyone....

[madjedjjlill]

thanks for ur reply roxy I will do that

[mumwiththree]

Hi, I've been a member of Bubhub for quite sometime and never knew they had a section for this. I've recently started to proceedings to donate my eggs. So if anyone has any questions I would love to answer them as I am learning.
I've had the initial interview at the clinic and now have to get the ball rolling. I wanted to have everything started by now but with the school holidays and my brother was just here on holidays, I decided to wait a little. But now I can jump right in and get the ball rolling. I am realy excited about this. And my husband is behind me 100%. And even doesn't mind having to have blood tests and go to a counselling session. Wow, I love my DH.
I've always wanted to help but never really knew how, until I started hearing the adds for egg donors on the radio. I spoke to my dh and he was all for it. I'm in the right age range and I've definitely finished my family. And even after this, I would love to do it again.

[jo-anne.36]

:wave:mumwith3 you are a sweety and your DH must be a lovely man to be thinking about becoming an ED :thumbsup: up good luck to when the ball get rolling i bet went you find your IPS they will realy love you to piece :sunshine: take care jojo

[MamaKoala]

Hi,
I am still a few years off from being in a position to donate my eggs but have been thinking about it for a few years now. I want 2 more children before I donate but thought I should get all of the info I need now so that I can make an informed decision later without regret.
I have a question about the IVF treatment. What emotional effect have people who donated had during the harvest (is that the right word?). Does it have a huge emotional impact with all the hormones? I have semi-severe mood swings during ovulation and was wondering if anyone has found that the treatment worsens these?
I will be looking at potential side effects of the IVF treatment before I make my decision but is there anything that you found wasn't covered in the information that would be good to know?
Thanks in advanced for your replies.:goodvibes:

[JESSZHI]

Dear Roxy:wave:;

After reading this thread, It's give me some hope of finding a donor , there are really many kindness & selfless womans that ready to donor.

Do your recipient approach you, or you approach your recipient?

So far, have any of donor will donate to Asian couple?


Thank you for reading my email.

:shakehands:

[Roxy]

Dear Roxy:wave:;

After reading this thread, It's give me some hope of finding a donor , there are really many kindness & selfless womans that ready to donor.

Do your recipient approach you, or you approach your recipient?

So far, have any of donor will donate to Asian couple?


Thank you for reading my email.

:shakehands:


Hi Jess,

There are lots of women out there who donate to others - there are quite a few here on Bubhub!

I approached my recipient - they now have a 2 year old daughter, who is also my God daughter.

I have heard of one donor who has donated to an Asian couple - the donor was of Asian origin and lived here in Australia and her recipient was Asian and living in New Zealand. But, because you are open to having a caucasian donor, you will hopefully find it easier to find a donor, as most Asians looking for a donor really only want an Asian donor...

[Izy]

Hello to all you wonderful ladies!

I have a dream to donate my eggs once DH and I have had our family and he loves the idea too, especially after our experiences.

Issue is we have had a couple of losses, and it's making me doubt that this dream could be fullfilled.

I have had a partial molar pregnancy, and currently have monochorionic diamniotic twins subject to severe TTS.

I don't think either of these conditions are egg specific, but more bad luck on our part. Does anyone know if this will definately rule me out for donation or if this is merely a complication that will reduce the number of suitable/interested recipients? I do know that I will have to check with a specialist closer to when we are donating, but I'm just wondering if I can keep my dream alive for a little while longer

[JESSZHI]

Dear Roxy :wave:;

I'm so happy to hearing that you're the God mother of the child. It's must be very special for you. It's true that both parties must be very comfortable with selecting each other , whether it's donor or recipient and feel that is the "right one" , and then go for IVF treatment that will be much easy for both partiesl. I think a donor is really special and great woman that money can't buy.

I submitted the Ad yesterday, hopefully it will get approved soon so that I can put up the ad on this website.

Thank you for your time . :shakehands:

[Roxy]

Hi Izy..

I have been keeping track of your TTC journey - have everything crossed for your remaining twin to make it...

As for your pregnancy troubles so far, they won't rule you out of being a donor - after all, you have proven that your eggs are able to be fertilised, and it's more likely just cases of bad luck so far for you, rather than an egg issue.

Jess - you are right - both donor and recipient need to be comfortable with the relationship, it's very important. I was very lucky to find a best friend in my recipient, so our relationship is very close.

[Izy]

Thanks so much for the reply Roxy.

I am happy to find any positive thoughts I can cling to at the moment. :yes: There still being a posibility that I can help another couple build a family one day is a very positive thought, and a good motivator to keep myself together.... for my current baby, my future babies, and for the babies of others.

[JESSZHI]

Dear Izy:wave:;

I hope everything goes well with your twins, I can't bear to see any children under operation, it make me cry. Can you explain to me what is monochorionic diamniotic twins ,I really like to know more.

May be you're not aware, English is my second language. If you don't mind and have some spare time, please let me know.

:shakehands:

[Izy]

I just PM'd you Jez. :hugs:

[JESSZHI]

I just reply to PM.

You take care and hope you give us more good news of your twins progress.:hugs:

[colkat]

Hi All

I am new to all this I have just become a egg donor and I am awaiting the agonising wait with my recipient to find out on the 1st of December if she is pregnant or not. I think more people need to do this, to see the look on my recipient's face just knowing that they had a potential donor gave her hope knowing that they could have that dream they've been waiting for even though maybe at the end it could not work out which is very sad. I think a lot of people are put off with the process believe me I cant say that I wasn't as I am so scared of needles but I just kept thinking this is all worth it as I know how I felt when I became pregnant and I could only hope to give someone the same feeling one day. I can only hope more people become donors so more people can get a chance at happiness and live the dream they have dreamt of my heart goes out to you all and only hope you all find your donor's one day..:fingerscrossed: