Pregnant Bridesmaids...?

[Cinta]

Just wondering what your thoughts are on whether or not you would ask your bridesmaid to step out of the bridal party if she fell pregnant?

Or would it depend how far along she was?

Would you want her to decide herself to step down?

Have you been the pregnant one in the bridal party, or have you been a bride and had a pregnant bridesmaid?

Your thoughts...? :confused: :)

Just curious :)

[Noah_and_Elijah]

I'd keep my bridesmaid if she were pregnant. If she felt uncomfortable and wanted to step out then that would be different but I'd be happy to keep her on board. A pregnant bridesmaid can do just a good of a job as a non-pregnant one! :)

[ikis84]

I have never been in that situation, but personally, I would not ask them to steo down just because they were pregnant. If they were heavily pregnant, I would make sure they still felt up to it though.

Sure, it will make finding a dress a pain in the rear, but I don't think being pregnant is a good reason to not have a good friend by your side at your wedding.

[Mum&bubs]

If one of my bridesmaid's fell pregnant, I'd still be very happy for her to be my bridesmaid still because I chose her for a reason to play a part in my special day. I'd understand if she didn't want to though and I'd be okay with it. But no, I'd never ask her to stand down just cause she's pregnant.

[Ekoorb]

I would leave it up to the pregnant bridesmaid to decide.

[Kittylou]

Personally, I wouldn't ask someone not to be a bridesmaid because she was pregnant. I chose my bridesmaids because they are my best friends and the people that I wanted to support me and be a part of my special day. I don't see how being pregnant changes that in any way.

Oh, one of my bridesmaids was pregnant but only six weeks - I'm assuming you're referring to someone who is a lot further along than that?

[poshBecks]

I was going to be my cousin's bridesmaid but I stepped down as I was heavily pg with Connor & the wedding was in Sydney. My choice.

I wouldn't ask them to step down. Thats just rude. It should be their decision.

[Cinta]

Oh, one of my bridesmaids was pregnant but only six weeks - I'm assuming you're referring to someone who is a lot further along than that?

Umm yep I guess so...I know of someone who asked a pregnant lady to step down, she would have been 7 months...I didn't think it was very nice and wanted to see what others thought of it :)

[Mamaduke]

If a bride can be pregnant on her wedding day why can't a bridesmaid?

That would be the height of rudeness and a friendship ender if someone asked me to step down because I was pregnant.
I would never do that to anyone else either.

[Mamaduke]

Umm yep I guess so...I know of someone who asked a pregnant lady to step down, she would have been 7 months...
What a 'female dog'...:no:
If I were that bridesmaid I wouldn't go to the wedding at all...as a bridesmaid or a guest.

[Angelmist♥]

I think you choose your bridesmaids on who your closest friends/family are.To not ask them because they are pregnant or to ask them to step down just shows how horrid a friend you are IMO.

[Angelmist♥]

:laughing:MD:thumbsup:

[Mamaduke]

...I would also find some old gypsy woman to put a curse on her marriage...


but that's just me.

[Kittylou]

Umm yep I guess so...I know of someone who asked a pregnant lady to step down, she would have been 7 months...I didn't think it was very nice and wanted to see what others thought of it :)

Well I totally agree with you. I think it's incredibly rude and superficial and if it happened to me, which I know it wouldn't because I don't have friends like that, I would no longer consider that person to be a friend.

[Wilby]

to me asking a preg bridesmaid to step down is like telling them they are too fat or something! unless they dont feel up to it, what has their pregnancy got to do with the friendship??? just rude! and would be a friendship ender for me!

[pinkprincess_84]

All i have to say on the topic, is RUDE, RUDE, RUDE, being pregnant is a beautiful thing not something to be shunned!

tut, tut on her!

[BlessedWithBlue]

Nope i wouldn't ask her to step down, i had a pregnant bridesmaid and i was pregnant myself.
She is actually my sil and we were both 7 months along at my wedding. Our babies ended up being born two weeks apart. I thought we both looked fab ;)

[brooke]

i was in a wedding as a bridesmaid at 38weeks pregnant... it was hard work expecially standing in the church on a 38 degree day with no air conditioning! I cant see any reason why a pregnant person couldnt be in a wedding if they are happy to be a part of it!

[brooke]

...I would also find some old gypsy woman to put a curse on her marriage...


but that's just me.

rofpmsl thats a classic! :laughing:

[SassyMummy]

I would be incredibly offended if someone asked me to step down as a bridesmaid because I was pregnant.

I mean, I could understand her frustration if she'd already had dresses picked and they would no longer suit my pregnant frame, but I wouldn't expect it to go any further than mere frustration.

For a bride to ask someone to step down is incredibly rude... it's as if saying "How I want my wedding to look is far more important than the value I place on our friendship."

I can understand a pregnant bridesmaid stepping down, but not being ASKED to step down. It's just rude.

[Rachael]

If a bride can be pregnant on her wedding day why can't a bridesmaid?

That would be the height of rudeness and a friendship ender if someone asked me to step down because I was pregnant.
I would never do that to anyone else either.


Totally agree!

If the bridesmaid wished to step down that would be fine with me but I would never even think to ask.

Pregnancy is beautiful and should be celebrated not shunned:shame:

[Niki]

my sister was 8months pregnant at my wedding and she was a gorgeous bridesmaid. All that was different was that we waited the abit later to do the final fitting for her dress and it turned out lovely

[Ange&Seth]

Umm yep I guess so...I know of someone who asked a pregnant lady to step down, she would have been 7 months...I didn't think it was very nice and wanted to see what others thought of it :)

Are you kidding me??? :eek: That is the HEIGHT of rudeness!! No way would that friendship be continuing if I was that pregnant ex-bridesmaid :rolleyes: As someone said, I wouldn't be attending the wedding at all.

Your pregnant, not an invalid!!

[Queen]

I think I would discuss it with her, and say look you will be Xmths pregnant what do you think?
If it was her first bub, I would probably be more inclined to give her another role in the wedding, if she was like 9 months, but before that, I have her there, but totally up to the friend

[InSaneOne]

my maid of honour will be 8 months pregnant at my wedding. and to make things worse - so will i (but i will only be 5 months along.

the hardest part will be the dress. we just got one with an empire bust and some extra material for an alterations that need doing. i got my dress on sale but lucky it had a long train that we will be cutting off and using for alterations - also we can turn the zipped back into a lace up for some extra room. i wouldn't ask her to step down but if she wanted too that would be ok. just hopes she tells me before i finish paying for the dresses :D

the guest list also includes about 3-4 others that are already pregnant so it must be catching in brissie.

[twolittlegirls]

One of my bridesmaids was 5 months pregnant in our wedding. She looked beautiful. Don't know how she did it. We were in a garden and it was 45 degrees!

[~Emmylou~]

I'd never kick a bridesmaid out of my wedding party or make her feel that she should step down because she was pregnant!

I'm sorry but I honestly believe anyone who would do that would have to be pretty shallow.

The people I had in my wedding party were the people I loved, and they were there for that reason only.

My bridesmaid was my best friend of 15 years and she actually had only just had a baby - so she wasn't exactly slim and svelte looking - but it would never have even entered my head not to have her as my bridesmaid.

On that note though, an ex-friend of mine did consider kicking ME out of her wedding because I was pregnant...perhaps that's why I get a bit fiery on the subject :laughing:

[~mia&ryan~]

Having a pregnant bridesmaid wouldnt bother me in the least, how fantastic to be able to tell that little bub that they were a part of a wedding when they were still just a bump... It hink it is so rude to ask someone to step down because they are preg, my goodness its a fantastic thing not a disease!!!!

[shirls84]

I think its very rude to ask someone to step down if they are pregnant.

I had issues with my friends wedding but because I wanted to pull out as baby is due only a few weeks before wedding so I just didnt see me with newborn in first two weeks or less getting dress fitted, working out how to breastfeed in the dress selected (as she wasnt willing to change this) and paying attention to her as is needed rather then the baby.

Having said that another one of her bridesmaids will be 7 months pregnant at the wedding. My friends mum however is worried that the pregnant bridesmaid 'may draw attention away from the bride' which i find to be ridiculous!