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IheartOman
02-08-2007, 22:28
2 weeks ago I met with a lawyer and very oddly even before I had met him when I spoke to his secretary and made an appointment I had a weird feeling that something was going to happen. So I made sure I did my make up and looked pretty for the appointment.

As sure as day when I walked in and saw him was instantly attracted to him

I had Oscar with me and it was pretty obvious mr. lawyer man was flirting with me and even wanted to hold Oscar, saying how he loves kids.

ANYWAY! (If your still reading good on you, this is long!) Emails have been exchanged regarding 'my case' but they have progressively gotten flirty. Today I managed to find out he is 41.. 18 years older than me!!!!!!!!!!!! But also that he is seeing someone. He was honest about that so that is good but I am disappointed and I can't shake the feeling like that isn't it for us? (p.s he was telling me I'm very attractive etc etc, he made it clear he likes me)

I would never be with another womans man and he gave the impression he doesn't cheat anyway (good). So why in gods name am I pondering? I've been pondering for the last 2 weeks and can't bloody stop even now that I know he has a girlfriend!
mum2littleman
02-08-2007, 22:36
aww doesnt that just well "SUCK" ...
at leats he was honest and said he had a girlfrined instead of acting and you finding out later.

dont worry u will run into another hot guy sumwhere along the line, i think the thing that makes it worse in these case's well for me anyways when u no you cant have them you want them that much more.:hugs:
IheartOman
02-08-2007, 22:37
Ha ha so true. And this may sound up myself but I don't mean it to be but I just am use to getting who I want. So yeah now that I can't it makes it annoying, and especially cos he IS into me!

:hair:
OneBabyBoy
02-08-2007, 22:52
hey lovely. I reckon stay with it. Don't overstep the line which I know you won't (and he also sounds like he won't) and you can have a good friend out of it if nothing else.
SairBear
02-08-2007, 22:57
yep i agree. if u think theres sumthin there, persue it but dont cross the line. even if its just a friend, u never know later down the track he might all of a sudden become available :D ..

:o sorry to barge in
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 07:15
:o sorry to barge in

Not at all darl! I just put it in single parents cos I am one lol. The more the merrier!
scorpio83
03-08-2007, 08:54
Personally, I'd sort out the legal issues first....isn't it illegal for professionals to become involved with their clients?

Who knows, after the legal processes are over, he might be single!

A question though.....how exactly do you go from 'professional' emails to flirty one?
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 09:37
Yes I agree that we would have to wait till I wasn't a client before anything happened (if he didn't have a gf).

You seem to have a bit of a problem with this scorpio? Do you want to elaborate hun?
Dooce83
03-08-2007, 09:42
I think its good to be able to have a bit of a perve!! ANd why not a bit of a flirt. As you said, neither of you will cross the line...

Although perhaps what Scorpio is suggesting is that if his emails have turned to flirty from professional he is already stepping the line... He could probably get in a lot of trouble if he was caught out with that.

But I say keep the friendship up, it can't hurt to have a friend in his position, and who knows what will happen down the track!! Would u have a prob with the age diff?
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 09:49
Would u have a prob with the age diff?

:no: no, if we found after spending time with each other we got along really well the age thing wouldn't stand in the way.

Thanks for your reply hun.
scorpio83
03-08-2007, 11:15
What Jess said. I would just hate to seee things go bad in terms of your legal stuff because emotions took over, especially if your ex found out IYKWIM?.... but no, no problem from me! :) I wish I had a spunky laywer too! ;)
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 13:21
Yeah thats a really good point actually!

Nothing will happen anyway cos he has a gf but thanks for your advice!
mum2littleman
03-08-2007, 13:33
Ha ha so true. And this may sound up myself but I don't mean it to be but I just am use to getting who I want. So yeah now that I can't it makes it annoying, and especially cos he IS into me!

:hair:

i dont think it sounds up your self at all- before bubs i was always with men that other girls drolled over and now well im not looking for sumone diffrent im not setteling for anything other than wat i use to..

dont drop ur standeds if anything push them up a little not only do they have to be everything you use to look for in a man they now have to love children and treat urs with the love and respect that anyone man in his life should.
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 13:35
dont drop ur standeds if anything push them up a little not only do they have to be everything you use to look for in a man they now have to love children and treat urs with the love and respect that anyone man in his life should.

So true hun! And mr. lawyer man does love kids and took to Oscar straight away. He was carrying him around his office and making silly faces at him lol. Oh man, I really need to stop daydreaming :laughing:
scorpio83
03-08-2007, 20:28
From the sounds of it, the g/f's got plenty to be jealous of! ;)
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 20:32
From the sounds of it, the g/f's got plenty to be jealous of! ;)

lol, thanks hun. But that isn't the intention. I would never go for another womans man. Us chicks need to stick together, it's hard enough to have a relationship without other women doing the wrong thing!
scorpio83
03-08-2007, 20:34
Oh, I'm not saying you would, but it's gotta do wonders for the ego! ;)
whatwasithinking
03-08-2007, 20:35
I'm so sorry Shan but you ain't gonna like what I have to say.

Something tells me somethings not right! Stop thinking about it that way and treat this man as an employed lawyer and employed lawyer only.

I get a horrible feeling.

This is NOT acceptable lawyer/client dealings.
IheartOman
03-08-2007, 20:39
Oh, I'm not saying you would, but it's gotta do wonders for the ego! ;)

He he, yeah for sure, hello! He's almost double my age!


I'm so sorry Shan but you ain't gonna like what I have to say.

Something tells me somethings not right! Stop thinking about it that way and treat this man as an employed lawyer and employed lawyer only.

I get a horrible feeling.

This is NOT acceptable lawyer/client dealings.

That's ok darl, your opinion is welcome whatever it is!

It isn't acceptable professional behaviour but sometimes life isn't black or white, when there is chemistry; there's chemistry. I hear you though!