1st birthday planning is a nightmare! help!

[my babyemmy]

My little IVF miracle baby girl will be turning 1 soon! we waited for her to be with us for 13 long heartbreaking years! anyway i am having so much interference from friends,family but mostly in laws about what is right & wrong for her 1st party! i want to take her to the zoo or an animal farm or something special away from the house!she loves learning and seeing new things and she will hapily be out of the house all day if need be!She loves groups around her so she can be centre of attention! My in laws say She is to young,do it at their house! My family wants it at their house! My husband wants it at our house! sadly our 2 families cant get on as they all get pretty nasty about who needs to see my daughter more,who loves her more! It would be devided into smalls groups with no one talking to the others!money isnt an issue! please help with some advice, before i go insane!:eek:

[bronny-jane]

i think the zoo is a great idea, sounds like if you had it at your house or a realitives some one will be ****ed. its a bit unfair that there is pressure on you between both families, taking the party somewhere else would give everyone a bit of neutral territory. any way its a joyous thing to celebrate, so long as you are happy and your bub.

[BJelly]

I think you have the right idea, take her somewhere in neutral territory.

We took our bub to underwater world a month back when she was 10 mths, and she loved it. Before we went we weren't sure how much she'd get out of it, but she loved looking at the fish and people - especially the other kids. I'm sure it would be the same for your little one at a petting zoo or similar. Maybe keep the time at the zoo shortish (1-2hrs ) or see how it goes on the day.

I'm so sorry to hear that other's selfishness are taking the shine off this very special day - kid's only have one first B'day, so I hope you get to enjoy it.

[bubbles28]

Congratulations on your little bubs first birthday, it will be a very special day for you all.
You could bring the mobile farm to your house.

[Ana Gram]

Do what YOU want to do with YOUR daughter. Anyone who gets the ****s over it, don't invite. Sounds harsh but you can tell them if they don't start acting like grownups, they won't be invited to things involving your daughter. Children don't need to have that going on around them especially on their own birthday!

[Foxy]

My advice is to set the ground rules now about how things will be for DD. Don't give into what anyone else wants because you will be setting a precedent for the rest of her life!

This is such a special time for you and your little miracle, if others want to share in your plans - that's great, but if they don't, it's their loss.

Hope your celebrations are fantastic. :)

[poshBecks]

Hi I'm with Shelbyville!! Set some ground rules!! Otherwise they'll be planning her wedding too!! After all she is YOUR daughter!!

The zoo sounds like a great idea, If they dont like it, they dont have to go!! ;)

[my babyemmy]

thanks everyone!
I have decided to have it at fairy park, it cost $12 to get in for adults $6 for children over 3,free for under 3's! now i have people already whinging about having to pay!:o

[zenifa]

You are never going to be able to make everyone happy!!! As long as you are doing what is best for your daughter and you, that is what is most important. Tell those that are whinging that you want this to be a special day for your special girl and if they can't afford it, don't want to pay or want to just whinge , then you don't want them there!! You only have one first birthday!! Good luck with it and I hope you and your little one enjoy it!! :) Z