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Hi Im new to this so still a little nervous. Im only young but I have been trying to conceive now for six months and still no luck my partner keeps telling me that it will take time and to relax and let it all happen naturally when the time is right but I simply cant help but think that there is something wrong with me :confused: . I was on the pill for three years before i stopped to try tho fall pregnant and i was just wondering if there was anyone else out there that has gone through this aswell i have read all the books i can get my hands on yet they dont give me all the answers i am looking for.
6 months of trying isn't that long, try not to put so much pressure on yourself. Your other half is correct in telling you to chill, as chilled women have babies! We've all heard the stories of couples trying and trying to no avail, stressing themselves out for years then adopting a baby and 2 months later she falls pregnant!
DH and I started trying early Jan 04 and I fell in late April 04, the whole time I was telling my husband it must be him and his "Homer Simpson sperm"!!, never occured to me that I could've been the problem haha!
On the 4th month I went on the net and printed out an ovulation calender from a website and DH and I went at it hammer and tongs for the 2 weeks around my ovulation time (so we didn't miss out by miscalculations. 2 sometimes 3 times a day for 2 weeks, tiring but it got results! Are you puting in the "hard yards" or just leaving it to chance? If you've read all the books you would know how to calculate the right times, just keep trying, save all your energy for those 2 weeks and have fun!
If I were you, and were as "nervous" as you sound, I'd suggest that you go and have some tests to see if there is a physical issue. If you're already stressing about it it's unlikely you'll fall pregnant even if there is no physical issue. Stress is not good for conception! At least if you get checked out you'll have peace of mind, and can just relax about it all, OR take measures to correct whatever the issue is/assess the options.
One of my co-workers was "trying" for 4 years before she and her husband finally went to get tested, only to find that both she and her husband had fertility issues. They could have saved themselves 3.5 years of stress had they popped into the Doc after 6 months!
Dont stress just yet as 6mths is not very long in conception terms.
Hubby & I are expecting our first little one in July and took 4.5 years of trying. We went thru countless test, both him & I, and found that there was nothing medically wrong with either of us. We had blood tests, sperm counts, ovulatation tracking (most women only have 1 really fertile day out of 28 and each day either side is a chance too), and all came up normal. He also has 2 children from his previous marriage.
We went to a fertility seminar and found that only 20% of 'normal' people fall in the first month. So statistacally, it can take up to 2 years for a 'normal' couple to fall, and that's not considered unusual.
If it worries you, drop into your gp and have a chat. I'm sure at the end of the day, it's just a matter of time.
My advice is to keep trying :D Its all the fun and the less you stress out the more chance you have. Enjoy it instead of making a huge deal out of it. My boyfriend and i only tried for 2 months so i was a lucky one expecting our first child in october. The conception part was easy the ALL day sickness i have now is the hard part so enjoy the fun part! :) Good luck!
It took us almost a full year of trying, but at last I'm 9 weeks pregnant, and delighted! Plus, I have to say Hubby would have been disappointed at missed chances if it happened too quickly ;) ! I'm 26 and had been on the Pill for about 8 years. I don't think you could say I was worried that we wouldn't get pregnant, just impatient for it to happen! And I've read in several places that up to a year is perfectly normal.
Have fun trying!
I would say I'm one of the lucky ones as I concieved in the first month (not sure my hubby would agree as he was looking forward to lots of practice) :p
Anyway, we started trying about 2 months earlier than first planned as I had been on the pill for about 10 years and we thought it would take a while, so I wouldn't worry about that. I'm sure it is disappointing but just try to relax, I've heard than when people have almost given up and stop thinking about it so much that's when it happens, and from what the other girls have said 6 months isn't really that long.
Good Luck! Hope it happens for you soon!
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