I don't know what to do..

[Mum&bubs]

Summer woke up 5 times last night for nunu's. Taliyah woke up twice. I have had no sleep and this goes on about 5 out of 7 days a week. I said to Karl this morning I can't go on feeding Summer otherwise I'm going to lose my mind.


I want to though but I'm SO tired and she is so draining. I've tried everything to help with during the night, giving her to dad, giving her a cup/bottle, filling her up before bed NOTHING is good enough. She only wants nunu's. If I don't give it to her she will scream bloody murder and if any of you have read my previous thread about her screaming and the cops coming around you will understand why I can't let her scream the house down.

People say to me all the time 'Oh just say no, she's 2 she'll understand' It's SO much harder then that. I want to breastfeed her until SHE weans but just not at night anymore :sleeping:

Heeeeeeeeeelp!

[wannabemum]

Krissy sounds like she is doing it not for the milk itself (she obviously is getting enough), but for the attention and for the closeness with you. its maybe something that when she wakes up in the night its what soothes her and makes her comfortable to go back to sleep, like a teddy or music etc. I dont think it would be a matter of stop her bfeeding (if you dont want her to yet), but to help her "self-soothe" and be comfortable and confident to go back to sleep without booby.

I'm reading a great book at the moment called "save our sleep", its FANTASTIC! All about routines, breastfeeding, self-soothing etc..... I would thoroughly reccomend it! :yes:

[Sazeby]

I'm sorry you're going through a bit of a rough patch with the feeding.

I totally agree wannabemum.. i think she might be doing it for comfort

Anyway i just wanted to say you're doing such a great job:hugs:

[HugsAndKisses]

oh hun dont be hard on urself....ur obviously a great mum who is doing her best....:hugs:

i also agree she may be doing it for a bit of attention at night and maybe to relax her....might be worth a try to see if some other kind of comforter can take the nunu's place at night...? but i know its usually easier said then done....
good luck darl:hugs:

[Funkychicken]

Krissy, you have always amazed me with your strength and determination and your commitment to your girls. You are so dedicated to breastfeeding your babies. I have so much admiration for you. :thumbsup:

As to your question though, I really don't know what I could say that would help. What I do know is that two is a really hard age to reason with. I have never thought of the terrible twos in terms of tantrums etc... but more about the child taking complete control of all his/her decisions and not letting any adult, not even mum, make a decision for them! If you can hold on (and I am not advising you either way here) until Summer is closer to three, you may have more luck reasoning with her. You may be able to discuss her letting go of nu-nu's now that she is a big girl and she will retain some of this and may be able to understand a bit more. Maybe you could offer her a big girl day out to somewhere of her choice, making a big fuss of her being a big girl.

All the best and I am sure another member will come along with some sound advice for you. :hugs:

[Tam-I-Am]

Oh, Krissy, you've just bought back the memories! Claire did this exact thing at about 18 months of age - and I ended up going in and cuddling her, without offering the breast, and putting her back to sleep. She eventually (after 2 or 3 nights) got that she wasn't going to get milk, so she went back to sleep fairly quickly - but I had to be so consistant with it.

Just another though - is she cutting molars? Is that possibly the reason she's gotten so over-enthused?

:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Rainbowbrite]

The only way I got MJ to stop night feeds was to get her out of our bed & do CC :o Was not easy, not at all, but I needed to for my own sanity.

HUGE :hugs: :hugs:

[BreakfastatTiffanys]

Krissy, you have always amazed me with your strength and determination and your commitment to your girls. You are so dedicated to breastfeeding your babies. I have so much admiration for you.



:thumbsup: I totally agree. I am sorry I have no advice for you, just :hugs:

BTW I got your letter and I am going to post yours tomorrow:D

[Mum&bubs]

The only way I got MJ to stop night feeds was to get her out of our bed & do CC :o Was not easy, not at all, but I needed to for my own sanity.

HUGE :hugs: :hugs:

I've tried that, that's a whole other struggle.

Thanks girls, Last night wasn't too bad just this morning was a little difficult. Sometimes I do think it's for comfort but sometimes I really think she likes the milk because she fights me for it :laughing: I try to hug her, she doesn't want me touching her at all she just wants to drink her milk. I'm not allowed to stroke her hair, hold her hand any of that in her morning feed.

[Rainbowbrite]

Maybe try stretching it out. Like no boob till 3am, then a few days later 3.30 etc etc. That worked when i originally cut out MJs night feeds.

Here, have some more :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Funkychicken]

Maybe try stretching it out. Like no boob till 3am, then a few days later 3.30 etc etc. That worked when i originally cut out MJs night feeds.

Here, have some more :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:
Great idea, Donnelle. Stretch it hour by hour until you literally start missing feeds.

[Pippi Longstocking]

Mum&bubs, you do such an awesome job tandem feeding your wee ones. I really admire you for sticking at it. :yelclap:

One of the things that really helped cut down the stress of endless night waking was simply changing my own thinking about it. Once I let go of the whole "you should be sleeping through by now!" stuff, it became far easier to cope with. I know that it will pass and that knowledge gets me through those freakin' insane nights of constant waking.

That being said, I only have one bubba to feed! You are fabulous, keep up the jolly good work.