Officially Single

[IheartOman]

Well as of Wednesday I have been a single parent. As some of you may know there has been issues with my partner and I but on Tuesday night he did the unthinkable and told me to get out of his (mothers) house. (We lived in a house his mother owns).

So Oscar and I have moved back to Orange and staying with my mum. We move into our own place on Tuesday and I am looking forward to it. No more of someone else dictating my life, how much money I get, when I get it etc etc etc.

The disappointing thing is that 'he' hasn't even bothered to see how Oscar is or made no attempt to discuss visitation for the future. I am shocked because I have seen him with his other son over the last 4 years and he appears to be a good dad to him so I didn't think I would have problems regarding his fathering. Also, when we had discussed breaking up over the last few months he said if we broke up he wanted part-time custody of Oscar (A reason why I stayed longer than I should have) but clearly he doesn't want that at all.

All I can say to anyone who may be reading this and is pregnant and wants to leave her partner is this: Do it NOW. I wanted to leave my dp throughout most of my pregnancy (and I knew it wasnt hormones and that we really did have problems) but I thought it would be too hard because I was pregnant and then thought I wouldn't be able to have a baby on my own. When I look back now I realise it would have been easier to do it while I was pregnant and working rather than waiting till I have had a baby and not having any real source of income. I also realise that I can do it on my own and am happier for it.

Yay to single parent life :smiliedance:

[OneBabyBoy]

Welcome to the single parents threads :wave: :hugs:
you sound like you have everything worked out and I wish you all the best for the next few months while you adjust to it all :hugs:

[SalTheGal]

Good luck to you and your little man, I truly hope everything works out for you.

You deserve more than anything to be happy....

As for your (ex) DP and his interest in your son, give it a bit of time, he may very well want to be an active part of his life once he has had some space, and time to miss his son. :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[whatwasithinking]

Oh Shan

Hugs and kisses to you and Oscar.

What can I say?? Good on you for taking the lead and getting out?? I think that is what I should say.

If you need to chat PM me anytime. Oh and your second part of your post really hit me in the heart.

I know what I should do but I can't do it at the moment. Maybe once the dust here settles down. I don't know.Anyway sorry just hijacked your thread.

Take care and will talk soon.

Love Don xoxo

[Pobblebonk]

Welcome to the world of Single Parenthood! If you ever want to chat, I'm right here for you babe.

[IheartOman]

Thanks ladies for all of your support.

Donna - don't beat yourself up too much, you will go when the time is right for you. These things can't be rushed but follow your heart. Staying seems easier but it takes strength to stay and it isn't an empowering strength - it eats away at you slowly and your soul is left tired. I'm here for a chat any time. :)

[Pobblebonk]

Just out of interest, I left my partner when I was pregnant.

[Lastcenturymum]

Oh HeartOMan - thinking of you - as you thought of me recently. Take care:hugs:

[Chanelc]

Welcome to single parents section look forward to chating with you Sending :hugs:

[mayzie82]

good on you for doing what is right for you.... dont be disheartened by the way he acts between younger and elder as my young ones ex told me he would relate better to his son when he could go to toilet and ask for food compared to one he had to guess with.....even though i thought him a tosser at the time he was right he does get along with him heaps better now he can chat back to daddy....though MY opinion is same...still a tosser hehe
time will tell and at the end of day you may think why on earth am i doing this your boy will appreciate you at the end for what contact you tried to have on behalf of him or say look i know he was a toss but at least you tried our kids need every opportunity and if you tried then its never a bad thing
through my parents divorce what always stuck out over the years is my mum never said a bad word bout dear dad until we realised it and questioned her she always knew we would come to our own decisions bout things and if you tried in the face of difficulty then there is not much more you can do
good luck

[IheartOman]

Thanks Mayzie, some good points there :)

[mayzie82]

no worries hope all goes well direct quote was"when he cant eat.****and tell me about it" lovely for a mum wondering about visitation etc but now with chris at 4 1/2 he loves his time with dad even if in real life daddy is a tosser though perfect in child life he is great......
at the end of it all kids grow up and form their own opinions if they have rose glasses on still you can gently introduce reality or let them think the best it may not hurt anyone at end of day and it is not one persons job to drag the other down for any reaon than their own if they deserve it well then go for it but white lies dont hurt to keep the ones we love happy:)