Own room- when???

[Billy]

:wave: Hi ladies,

As many of you may know Rhianna is in our room but in her cot (she doesn't like co-sleeping very much/very often- comes in with us whenever she wants though) and is now 14 months old. I am happy with her there, and so is she, so I am in no rush for her to be in her own room.

However, I realise at some point she will want/need her own room (I was thinking when she is 16 or so?? :p) and I wondering when is a good time, and how I should do it?

I don't feel ready yet to move her, but I can't imagine ever feeling ready... :o So I need some advice please. I want her to always feel comfortable to come into our bed whenever she wants, but I don't want her to feel she doesn't have a space of her own either IYKWIM...


What age did your bubs go in their own room after being in your room or co-sleeping?

[EmsMum72]

My DD was 8 months old when we moved her into her own room. I hated it, it broke my heart, but we needed to make the break or else she would have stayed in our room forever. DH is a really light sleeper and DD often kept him awake with all the little noises she used to make. They were comforting to me, but annoying to DH apparently.

Goodluck! You just have to decide to do it, cause you'll never be ready to move her. I wasn't, and it was really hard for me, but you will all adjust!

[Billy]

Ohhh it will break my heart at any time I think too... :crying: Also DH works away so it is just the 2 of us for so much of the time, I really don't see the issue with her being with me... But I always wonder if I am doing the right thing for her too.

Thank you for your reply :hugs:

[EmsMum72]

No worries, the only problem I can foresee you having is that you may have alot of difficulty when she does move into her own room because she's been in yours for such a long time .... I know it's hard. Like you, I would have happily kept my DD in my room until she was at least 16 :laughing:

[MW&S]

You know what is best for u and dd. My 7mth old dd is in our room and like u I cant imagine her leaving!! Some nights after a feed in our bed I dont want to put her back in her cot!!

I think I will prob make the transition for her into her own room when she moves into a big bed or maybe when she can understand it all...not sure...

Best of luck and dont feel gulity for having her close to u!!! Its so lovely isnt it? :)

[Billy]

Oh I sooo love having her close to me! :D I was thinking of maybe doing the 'big bed' thing when she is ready for that maybe too... But really I have no idea.

What about a toddler bed in her room for day sleeps? Has anyone tried that/is it a good idea? :detective:

[EmsMum72]

What about a toddler bed in her room for day sleeps? Has anyone tried that/is it a good idea? :detective:

It's definately worth a try :thumbsup: My DD was in her cot until she was nearly 3. I think you might have trouble getting her to sleep in her own room if you leave her in your room until that age.

[aardvark]

DS is 18 months old and still sleeping with us, he likes his night time boob, esepcially after days that I have been at work, so no sign of him moving to his own room yet.

I've put his bed up in his room with some rather nice teddy bed linen. He likes to climb onto the bed, and we tell him it is his bed, and he seems to like it.

I might start getting him used to afternoon sleeps in his own big bed shortly. I won't be forcing him out of our bed, he will be there till he is ready to make the move himself.

[Seekrit]

When Cobey's tall enough (:laughing:) I'll buy him a 'big boy bed' and see if he'll sleep in that... hopefully he'll understand he can come to our room when he wants as well.

[Billy]

Thanks for your replies ladies. :hugs: I like the idea of when she is ready herself, when she asks.


Anyone else who has co-slept and then moved them into their own rooms I would still love to hear from you, how you did it and how it worked... :D

[Funkychicken]

We moved DS#1 into his own room when he was about 3 months old-based on the info I was given about babies "knowing" where they were after that age and him never wanting to go in there. :rolleyes:

DD stayed with us for about six months before I started putting her to bed in her room but always brought her back into bed with me when she woke in the wee hours. She continued coming in when she needed to (most nights) until I was 1/2 way through my pregnancy with DS#2. We then spoke to her (then 5yo) about how it was time to be a big girl and sleep through in her own bed and apart from a few nights of her 'roaming' she pretty much stayed there. I needed to make sure there wouldn't be any disturbances for the new baby, but I also didn't want DD to think she was being 'replaced', which is why we spoke to her about being a big girl and not about her having to go because of the new baby.

DS#2 is 18 months old and still in our room, in his cot. He co-slept full time until about 6 months and then was between our bed and his cot and by about 12 months he would go to bed in his cot and then come into our bed for his feeds, sometimes staying, sometimes being so restless that I would put him back in his cot where he would drop straight off.
It was always our intention to move him into DD's room (we don't have a fourth bedroom) but we all seem to be happy with the arrangement as is, so I don't see a need to move him just yet. I don't actually thunk about it too much but I guess at some point we'll move him. It will most likely be DH's suggestion to do so, although he is so smitten him, that maybe he'll just stay until it's big bed time, at which point he'll have to move rooms for the space factor!

Other mums I have spoken to have used the own room for day naps and parents room for night until such time that the child asks to go into his/her own room. often the child is between both for some time as everyone adapts but I don't know of any teenager that still wants to sleep in their parents room. :D
All the best and if you can't bring yourself to make the decision, let Rhianna make it.:thumbsup:

[Billy]

Thank you Sal for such great suggestions and experiences!!! :hugs: :kiss:

[Niki]

we have co-slept with ds1 since he was a few weeks old he was in our room until a month ago, he is now in his own room and co-sleeping with dh in there to get him used to his own room. When ds1 seems ready dh will then sleep back in our room

[Billy]

Oh that's a good way too Niki :yes:

[lilCsmummy]

My DD is 16 mths and still sleeps with us. She has her own room that I put her in to sleep through the day. But I love sleeping with her it is so comforting t hear her breath and just be close to her. I remember when she was first born I had to let her sleep on my chest otherwise I couldn't sleep cos I would wake up every hour and need to poke her to see if she was ok. I don't think I could stand to put her in her own big room by herself at night. But it will have to happen one day.

[shed]

Well, we do have a 'plan'. Not that that means much when it comes to actually doing it, but here is the plan...

We are going to get him used to the cot and then slowly move it into our walk in wardrobe, then start shutting the door. Once he is used to having a door between us then we will move it into his own room and then he will go into a big bed.

That's the plan.

Probably won't happen because I can't stand the thought of not being near him. Its me that's holding up the works, not him.

Its not for ages yet anyway. Another year at least. He is one at the end of this month.

[kymmy]

With my daughter she was very much a co - sleeper. She would still sleep with us if she could. She went to her own room when her little brother did (my elder son). She would have been 5 and he was 2 and a half (Av was born then). I have been thinking about bub and when he will sleep in a bed. He is not a co - sleeper, he loves his cot and sleeps in his room. I was thinking when he is ready I would like him to sleep with his bro and sis in her room. I think that is a good thing for sibling bonding.
We are not co - sleeping atm and that suits us fine. Though I think it was harder for hubby to accept! But bub is not interested in sleeping with us at all. And its just nice to have our own space for now.
That is our experience.
I am sure next baby will be interesting!