How did you know it was the end

[lilCsmummy]

I was just wondering how everyone knew the relationship was over.
I thought I would start a thread on this because there is so many girls who just stay with there partner and ignore all the warning signs. I did this for a few years and I dont think it did any of us any good including my DD.
In my case I knew I didn't love him anymore and I want my daughter to grow up with parents that are in love so she can see a healthy relationship therefore have one herself.
here is a few signs.

- passionate kisses disappear
- no more showers toghether ever
- would rather watch tv then go to bed
toghether
- he goes out all night and you don't care
- no playfights or laughing
- always snapping at eachother:ecomcity:

what do you guys think?

[daddaddad]

Came home from work to find my mate, who is a furniture removalist, taking a tape measure to my entertainment unit and writing up a quote. :laughing:

[oleander]

Came home from work to find my mate, who is a furniture removalist, taking a tape measure to my entertainment unit and writing up a quote. :laughing:


OMG Really???:eek:

As for me, I told him if he walks out the door he dosen't come back. Ever. And I meant it.

The signs I knew it was going bad was the fact that he refused to acknowledge my pregnancy, he didn't want to touch me or speak to me, told me I was fat and unattractive (I was regnant with his child FFS!), didn't come home until the early hours of the morning and stinking of alcohol, didn't want to go to counselling, seeing scratch marks on his back and neck....oh, I could keep going!

Thankfully as time passes I can look back and see that it was a learning experience for me. A huge lesson learn't but nothing lost on my behalf.

[OneBabyBoy]

It was so gradual for me. He left me, I wanted him back so much. He came back, left again. And this went on for too long. I think there's only so much hurt you can take, finally I snapped, I knew I no longer wanted him back. It was when I thought of him with someone else and actually felt relief that it wasn't me with him. I knew I wasn't in love with him anymore.

[Snuffys Mum]

I knew it was over when he suddenly said one night, "I don't love you, haven't for a long time, and I don't want to be a father afterall.".

That was the first I knew about it.

[Mum2Bug]

I knew it was over when I wanted to shut the front door in his face instead of dealing with his cr@p!

daddaddad - OMG!!!

Aww Kat :hugs:

[MissBrightside]

The late nights, not talking to me, snapping at me over stupid things. Just a feeling that he didn't want to be here and me not really caring anymore if he was here or not. Just being incredibly selfish.

[Amberlea]

I was just wondering how everyone knew the relationship was over.
- passionate kisses disappear
- no more showers toghether ever
- would rather watch tv then go to bed
toghether
- he goes out all night and you don't care
- no playfights or laughing
- always snapping at eachother:ecomcity:



I agree with this and then :
The day he HIT me!

[daddaddad]

OMG Really???:eek:

Well that was the actual moment I knew is was happening.

Perhaps that is not totally fair. Being a male, my hearing might have missed the detail in when she said;

":ecomcity: :banghead: :ecomcity: ... or I'm leaving"

...a couple of hundred times.

[sunnyflower]

i knew it was time to move on when the day after we slept together (and we hadn't for ages because we wern't actually seeing each other but i was confused),and he ignored me all day.That was when i found out i was pregnant,he wanted to then be a couple but i thought ,na over your ****,it was the best decision i ever made for myself and my son.Five years on and he hasn't seem his son since he was two.I think i made the right decision.

[Issey]

- passionate kisses disappear
- always snapping at eachother:ecomcity:

what do you guys think?

OMG that first line hit me like a tonne of bricks.

- hiding things
- not keeping his promises
- staying out too late without phoning
- spending the grocery money on bets

I miss him tho as we had many happy times too not all bad.

[hayleysmummy]

I was just wondering how everyone knew the relationship was over.
I thought I would start a thread on this because there is so many girls who just stay with there partner and ignore all the warning signs. I did this for a few years and I dont think it did any of us any good including my DD.
In my case I knew I didn't love him anymore and I want my daughter to grow up with parents that are in love so she can see a healthy relationship therefore have one herself.
here is a few signs.

- passionate kisses disappear
- no more showers toghether ever
- would rather watch tv then go to bed
toghether
- he goes out all night and you don't care
- no playfights or laughing
- always snapping at eachother:ecomcity:

what do you guys think?

ALL of this the day he tried to choke me wen i was 8 months pregnant the threats that if I ever left and took his kid with me he wold kill me,calling me a fat lazy b*&% and lots lots more