The ex's parents

[oleander]

Just wondering if the other single mums have a relationship with their ex's parents. Does it work for you?

[mum2littleman]

i dont even no if my ex told his parnets i was preg i only no what he told me..
so sorry i cant relly help wish i could of.

[Amberlea]

I do with my youngest daughters grandparents.
The whole family (except for my ex) are wonderful people.
We have always been really close - I still go there for Xmas day and catch up regularly with his mum for coffee/lunch etc, I'm even dragging her out to my friends bar for my birthday in two weeks lol.

She has been more like a mum to me than my own and I love her dearly.
I wouldn't wish for it to be any other way.

[oleander]

Amberlea, that's great you have that sort of relationship with your DD's grandmother. I wish I could say the same thing for mine.

[scorpio83]

Sounds like someone needs to vent.....come on oleander, spill!!

[Dooce83]

Yes thus far i have a good relationship with my exes whole family. And i try to stay friendly with my ex too, even though we still argue a bit!!

But i'm invited out for family dinners and his sisters often come over and his oldest sister and his mum completely took my side and said they know what he is like!!

It might be different if we get new partners (i know my ex wouldn't be happy or friendly about that!) but i don't think his family would change how they are with me really.

I get along with them and keep the peace, they are nice enough but i kinda think they are all a bit batty hehe ;)

[oleander]

Sounds like someone needs to vent.....come on oleander, spill!!

I'm just really disappointed that they treat me and speak to me the way they do. I know they are ashamed of their son but they continue to try and fault me and blame me for the fact he went off and had an affair. It truly baffles me since I am the one who has invited them to my house and gone to their family things....I think I am dealing with a whole different breed of people here unfortunately. I guess I've been naive and now that I've seen the real side of them it isn't pretty.:thumbsdown:


Yes thus far i have a good relationship with my exes whole family. And i try to stay friendly with my ex too, even though we still argue a bit!!

But i'm invited out for family dinners and his sisters often come over and his oldest sister and his mum completely took my side and said they know what he is like!!

It might be different if we get new partners (i know my ex wouldn't be happy or friendly about that!) but i don't think his family would change how they are with me really.

I get along with them and keep the peace, they are nice enough but i kinda think they are all a bit batty hehe ;)

That's great that they accept you and are friendly. Your lucky to have that for yourself and your bub. All the extra support counts.

[MissBrightside]

My ex's dad lives about 3 hours away so I don't ever see him. I have spoken to him maybe once since ex and i split. I speak to his dads gf though sometimes.

Ex's mother is a different story. She lives maybe an hour and a half away and does nothing but add fuel to the fire so to speak. I haven't spoken to her in over two years but still has things to say about me, and makes up stories that are so far from the truth but likes stirring up the pot and making drama for other people. Her life must be pretty boring.

My kids don't get birthday cards or christmas cards from either one.

[Ekoorb]

My son's dad's parents are actually pretty good. While they never ring me, the will say yes to minding my little one if I ask most times. I dont think they are the biggest fans of their son so they are always willing to help. I actually prefer having them mind him instead of his own dad.

[OneBabyBoy]

I used to quite like my ex's parents, especially his dad, we got along well. Then a few months ago I discovered a big lie the whole family was hiding from me. I expected it from my ex but not from them. Now I just dont trust any of them. They are all weirdos. They say and do strange things that I just cannot understand. We come from totally different perspectives on everything.
The only relative of his that I get along with is his much older brother. He was from my ex's dad's first marraige so he was raised by a different mother and is just normal. He's just really normal. The ex's parents and sister are all extremely anti-social and sheltered and like I said before they say strange things and I just find them odd.

[OneBabyBoy]

I think I am dealing with a whole different breed of people here unfortunately. I guess I've been naive and now that I've seen the real side of them it isn't pretty.:thumbsdown:


That is EXACTLY how I feel. That is what I was trying to say.

[Jackie-Tiana]

So, OneBabyBoy, what was the big lie, if u don't mind me being nosey.

[OneBabyBoy]

It's weird that you started this thread today Oleander because I just got the rudest most horrible email from my ex's mother because I'm busy later in the week when she wants to see DS :confused: I have plans, Am I supposed to drop everything? My god, only 17.5 years left of dealing with them (and counting!!! :laughing: )

Jackie - It is a long story and not one for the public forum. They are all liars, especially the ex. If anything though, it made him seem a bit better in my eyes because now to a certain extent, I understand how he turned out like he did. I will make sure to raise my son to be honest and loyal.

[RaryGirl]

We don't have any contact with DD's father or his parents ..... their choice. I tried to take DD to see his mother when she was about 3 months old .... she was too busy, so I didn't bother again. At the time we were living in Sydney, so was visiting Qld ... not like she could see DD anytime.

[BlueEyedGirl]

I never really had a great relationship with them - and it didn't flourish when we spilt, he told them things that are untrue about me.

I rang once, left a message on their phone, but they never got back in contact.

Their loss

[Issey]

My Ex's parents are nice but they live interstate and I can call them anytime, they understand what I have been going through and some of my Ex's behaviour is a mirror image of his parents....:banghead:

they will always be Tygers Poppa and Nanna so when we visit interstate shortly we will be staying there a night, also Ex's sister and her family we don't talk much they are the type of people that ring only on birthdays but will see them too, they are keen to meet Tyger as haven't seen him yet. :yes:

[justme77]

The boys dad is a knob, and his family is even worse. lol.
they are the weirdest people i have ever been in contact with and stay away.
difficult though, when they live across the road from the boys school.
so i often give her(his mum) a wave if i see her, but thats it.
i dont trust his youngest brother, he creeps me out in a sleazy yukky way, always has. (went to school with him) and his older brother is just as bad.
the ex is actually the most normal one in the family, and if you knew his story then yeh, it shows how weird they are