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Something that's been nagging at me lately, again as Cobey comes close to that 1 year mark I get the comments... "Shouldn't you be weaning him." "Shouldn't he be sleeping in his own cot." "Shouldn't you just let him put himself to sleep." etc..
With those and the breastfeeding comments I get all sorts of 'reasons' why I should wean him - including that he'll be boob crazy when he grows up, or it should be time that I be a bit more modest around him.
So the question - do people have more of a problem with extended breastfeeding boys than girls?
RaryGirl
08-07-2007, 18:58
Some people do don't they! My MIL would comment (when DS was only a month old) that he's a typical male - likes the boob. I mean that's what boobies are designed for - not just for feeding girls - but babies.
Sometimes I think everything is being sexualised too much. IMO.
mumx3littlies
08-07-2007, 19:00
I'm not sure cos I never got any of those comments but if they do have a problem with it tell em to nick off and worry about their own stuff! :laughing:
i don't have any problem with girls or boys being breastfed . it's all the same to me.
i think i agree with pp, some people sexualise the breast to the detriment of our children.
breastfeeding is between you and your baby ( i use the term baby loosely:D i still call my 2 year old the baby ), you two decide between you when you have had enough.
ooh, a boy being boob crazy when he grows up, fancy that!!
Its all the mothers fault!! All of it!! Mothers are to blame for everything don'tcha know??
Pippi Longstocking
08-07-2007, 19:19
My daughter is boob crazy, does that mean she will grow up to be a lesbian? :p
After years of careful observation and scientific analysis:geek: , it has been proven that people are indeed stupid. Therefore, I wouldn't listen to them.
:laughing: I don't listen to people when they say this brand of smack - I just think it brings interesting conversation to the dinner table.
punkbaby
08-07-2007, 19:26
i dont the only problem i had was that my ds faught the boob and i only got to feed him for 4 months where as the girls i fed for heaps longer
I wish people would think before they opened their mouths if i could have fed ds for 2 years i would have jumped at the chance!
My daughter is boob crazy, does that mean she will grow up to be a lesbian? :p
Haven't you heard of man-boobs?? :p
Haven't you heard of man-boobs?? :p
:barf:
Cheers Shed..
Sometimes I think everything is being sexualised too much. IMO.
indeed.. sad huh..
seek... definitely PFFFFTT to these people ... I mean .. I dont breastfeed Jack anymore - but I *gasp* shower with him .. omg .. will that make him crazy for naked women later on??? sheeesh .. so .. if he showers with dad will that make him gay??
oh my goodness.. the things we need to worry about!!
for what its worth .. but husband was NOT breastfed.. and he is boob crazy ..:laughing: just .. in case you were worried about Cobey's future health :laughing:
xx
Jen
SilverStarfish
08-07-2007, 19:34
My daughter is boob crazy, does that mean she will grow up to be a lesbian? :p
:laughing: That cracked me up.
Having only b/f a girl so far, I didn't run into so much of the sexualised "oh haven't you weaned him yet" type of comment, though I was starting to get the "isn't she a bit old for that, maybe she wants a bottle" comments anyway around 7 - 10 months. :rolleyes:
Aah I love bubhub :p
I know Chris was breastfed for a year, but he's NOT a boobs man :eek:
Pippi Longstocking
08-07-2007, 19:40
Aah I love bubhub :p
I know Chris was breastfed for a year, but he's NOT a boobs man :eek:
Alain was bottle fed and he is quite partial to boobies...
:laughing:
Dont worry-my mum thinks Riley will be gay coz she BF my bro till he was 2.5 years and hes gay:rolleyes: Go figure!
:laughing: so on one hand, I'm being told Cobes will be a tits man.. and on the other he's going to be gay.
Back to the man boobs !!
RaryGirl
08-07-2007, 19:51
for what its worth .. but husband was NOT breastfed.. and he is boob crazy ..:laughing: just .. in case you were worried about Cobey's future health :laughing:
OMG - so is my DH and he was bottlefed too!!! I think we may have stumbled onto something here. :detective:
♥Heaven Sent♥
08-07-2007, 22:14
To me it doesn't matter! I will do what is best for my kids regardless of gender and Sasha will be weaned when he is ready.
I have recently had comments from my doctor(who i rolled my eyes to) saying that he should be weaned he doesn't need it now and that he should be sleeping through the night etc i said that he will be weaned when HE is ready i am not going to force him to stop.I also said i don't mind him waking up through the night for boobie because he goes straight back to sleep anyway.
Shanaynay
08-07-2007, 22:34
Just incase anyone is interested, Sigmund Freud actually claimed that boob fetishes were a result of being weaned too EARLY :cool:
So don't worry, all extended breastfeeding is going to give us is a bunch of prudes :laughing:
Pippi Longstocking
09-07-2007, 06:42
Just incase anyone is interested, Sigmund Freud actually claimed that boob fetishes were a result of being weaned too EARLY :cool:
Sooo, tell me about ze muzza! I zink you are trapped in ze oral stagez becauze ze muzza take away ze bitty too zoon.... :p
Yes I have fallen victim to the 'boob police'. Can't get it right, if you don't/can't breastfeed then my family get judgemental (Aunty is a lactation consultant, lots of my cousins were still bf until 3 or 4) and DH's family more inclined to put babies on the bottle so Mum can rest, and DS 'wouldn't want to remember being b/f'.
Oh and I should add that DH was bottle fed from 6 weeks and is a boob man too!
~Emmylou~
09-07-2007, 10:32
My DS is only 9 months old but I honestly thought I'd be hearing comments like this by now.
To my family's credit they haven't said a word. Breastfeeding isn't the norm in my family - I am the first person to do it how sad is that... - but they haven't made comments of the sexual nature yet. I expect they'll start to raise an eyebrow if I'm still feeding him when he's walking and talking though.
My feelings on the issue are that my boys will grow up with a very healthy sexuality, bodies are sensual and warm and soft and boobs are great, the body is not something to be ashamed of, it is natural and nurturing and beautiful and all of that good stuff.
I have always thought that breastfed babies would have healthier sexualities than those who have not, simply due to the fact that they are more routinely exposed to 'gasp' 'body parts' without shame, and perhaps some breastfeeding mums may be in general more accepting of their bodies...
a wee theory anyway.:)
Well I b/f my DD still and i get the "your not still b/feeding are you" blah blah - its particullary embarassing when she lifts up my shirt hahahaha one friend in particular is disgusted by this!
she has all these strange reasons why you shouldn't b/feed over the 12 month mark age- boy and girls! I have gotten to the point where I tell people now that it's not any of their business...that shuts them up straight away!! and at the end of the day it really is no-one's business but your families!
mumofKieran
09-07-2007, 16:52
I was at the health clinic the other day and the midwife asked me how many bottle feeds he was having per day now and I said '4-5 breastfeeds' and she was surprised, then later on when I was dressing bub she asked had I thought about weaning yet and when was I going to finish feeding and I said '2 years hopefully' and she was really surprised and didn't say anything! I thought they would be more supportive than that.
mysweetpea
09-07-2007, 17:25
My daughter is boob crazy, does that mean she will grow up to be a lesbian? :p
After years of careful observation and scientific analysis:geek: , it has been proven that people are indeed stupid. Therefore, I wouldn't listen to them.
Couldn't have said it better myself! You are hilarious :laughing: :smiliedance: some people are just too stupid aren't they?!
allysophia
09-07-2007, 17:28
Haha! Who cares!
This is craaaaaazzzzzzzzy!
I'm not dignifying this thread with a reply!
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d'oh!
Where do people get these strange ideas? I know someone who breastfed her 3 daughters but her last child, a son, was ff because she thought it was wrong to bf a boy :(
cornflakegirl
09-07-2007, 17:55
People really need to grow up and get a life. Breastfeeding is what breasts are designed to do. It's adults with issues that sexualise breastfeeding not children. :banghead:
lukaelmo
09-07-2007, 18:10
Who says this to you? I never got a negative comment with Luka, just the opposite actually. People were constantly telling me how blooming brilliant I was for feeding.
Mind you, they possibly thought he was still a newborn :laughing:!
As for the covering up in front of your child, please, give me a break. He's one freaking year old for crying out loud. When and if he acts like it's freaky to see his mummy's boob, that's the moment to stop showing it to him.
Sheer Bliss
09-07-2007, 18:47
People saying stuff like that is just utter rubbish! As someone else said - it's adults not the babies that make it into a sexual thing. I got asked from the time DD was 6months when was i going to be 'over' breastfeeding her.
I wonder what people would think about what 'harm' i am doing DS - sometimes he gets a bit stroppy when i have to have a shower, so i end up dancing around naked while in the shower & getting dressed to stop him from crying.....just be why men like strip bars so much.:laughing:
our little treasures
09-07-2007, 18:54
OMG That is so wrong!! I think that some people have sick minds. You don't see a 40 yr old being BOTTLE crazy because he was on the bottle too long!! Tell them top get over it!
aardvark
09-07-2007, 18:55
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So the question - do people have more of a problem with extended breastfeeding boys than girls?
I used to get comments about feeding DD#1 when she was over 12 months, and up to three - but then that was 16 years ago, so I was pretty "abnormal" back then.
Not so many comments at all about extended feeding of DD#2 until age three, but that was only a couple of years ago.
I've only had one comment about feeding DS who is now a large 18m.o., but that was when he was about 6 months old, from a bitter and twisted old fart who wanted me to feed him in the ladies' loo instead of on a chair at the local rec centre. He wouldn't have cared if it was a boy, a girl or a monkey. As far as he was concerned, I had a tit out for whatever reason, and was therefore being indecent.
In my experience thus far, I don't think it makes much difference whether the extended bf'd bub is male or female, but I certainly acknowledge that the potential for it is there.
Shanaynay
09-07-2007, 19:41
You don't see a 40 yr old being BOTTLE crazy because he was on the bottle too long!! Tell them top get over it!
Maybe that's how alcoholics come about :laughing::laughing::laughing:
To my family's credit they haven't said a word. Breastfeeding isn't the norm in my family - I am the first person to do it how sad is that... - but they haven't made comments of the sexual nature yet. I expect they'll start to raise an eyebrow if I'm still feeding him when he's walking and talking though.
Same here. Although my 11 year old DS asked me what age would it be unethical to be breastfeeding Layla? (our bubba)
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