Older kids paying board

[kelpat]

Hi I have had a bit of a dilemma today and was wondering if anyone could share their opinions with me to give me a bit of perspective.

My oldest whos 18 has gone up to visit his cousins for a week on holiday, he normally pays $40 a week board but today he asked me if cause he has been away for a week can he have his board back for this week.

I didn't feel right about this cause he's an adult now and if he was renting somewhere else he would still have to pay his rent when on holiday.

What do you guys think, was I too harsh?

[punkbaby]

I think if you offered him not to pay then thats fair but your right his old enough to go away then he can still pay his board, there is nothing wrong with teaching them responsiblities at this age $40 isnt much :) i had to pay $50 a week and that was 12 years ago LOL

[tootiredtosleep]

About 10 years ago I paid $30 a week board, every week.

I assume that he still had a bedroom and place to keep all his things while he was away, and that he probably bought home a heap of washing to be done etc.

I would be keeping the money!

[Josh]

I have a 17yr old and a 16yr old, and both of there youth allowance goes into my account,but they both have part time jobs,sometimes they earn as much as $250 per wk, i dont take any of there earnings from work, every family has different circumstances.

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[MW&S]

I dont know. I was paying board while at home. Personally I would not charge $ while he is away. Just my feeling about it anyway.

I dont think its cruel or harsh to do so tho! :thumbsup: Do whats right for u and ur fam :)

[Pinkbug]

I had paid board back then to my mum as she is a single mother and needs money badly for bills etc

When I went away on holidays etc I didn't pay board at all only those I was home

[ziggie]

I can see where you're coming from. As another post said, he's still got washing to do etc. Maybe just meet in the middle, and give him $20 back. You're obviously feeling a bit bad about taking it all, so meeting half way may make you both happy.

[cassie2000]

I think its plenty fair... if he was renting a house his real estate agent wouldnt let him not pay for the week. I think your doing the right thing by keeping the money.

[kelpat]

Thanks for all your replys. I didn't give him his board back, I think he's old enough now to take responsibillity. Maybe I should have explained he works full'time at an accounting firm and we get no youth allowance or family payment for him. He didn't pay anything til he turned 18.

It's interesting to see other peolples take on things though, thanks.

[Ange&Seth]

I think its plenty fair... if he was renting a house his real estate agent wouldnt let him not pay for the week. I think your doing the right thing by keeping the money.

This is what my mum said to me when I queried her on it. We'd been away for a fortnight, and when we got home she asked me for my board and I said 'but I wasn't here'. Her reply? 'If you are renting a house and you go away for a fortnight, you still have to pay your rent!' So yeah I paid it.

I think kids paying board is all about learning responsibility and how to budget. Good on you for sticking to your guns about this!

[luckie_me]

I would of given it back to him! But thats me!

We Live with my parents and pay $200 a week. Thats for EVERYTHING. I do all our own washing and cleaning etc. Mum still cooks for us
If we went away My parents wouldnt except our money. And thats the way i will be with DS i think