More Co-sleeping questions

[OneBabyBoy]

I co-sleep with my son and I just want to see if other people do it the same way, so I have some questions :)
Do your child/ren sleep with you all the time? How much of the time?
Does your child/ren have their own cot/bed, but just not use it? or use it some of the time?
What about for day naps or when they are going to sleep at night but you aren't ready to go to sleep - what do you do with them then?
When you are both asleep are they just in the same bed as you or are you actually holding onto them the whole night?
TIA :)

[Seekrit]

Cobey sleeps in our bed all the time :)
Unless we're doing 'other stuff' ;) in which case he goes into his cot.

He sleeps in my bed for his day naps as well. and when he's going to bed but I'm not. His cot is used to put the clean washing in that isn't sorted yet :p

Cobey sleeps between us, I often go to sleep with an arm over him and holding the husband :) Or I turn my back to the lot of them, otherwise my hips get sore from lying the same way every night.

When we get him a big boy bed (when he can climb into one) we'll start the transistion of him sleeping in there, but if he wants to he can come into bed with us

[allysophia]

100% coslept.

And I mean, 100%

I USED to be able to get him into bed before I was ready to go, but now,as I type, he's fast asleep in my arms.

Some day naps he sleeps in his bed, but he just sleeps longer and better in my arms/sling.

I love it though. I cuddle him sooooooo close all night, and give him plenty of kisses so he sorta earns his spot :P

[Aquamarine]

Do your child/ren sleep with you all the time? At night yes. My boys have always been terrible sleepers and because I breastfed them all it was just easier for them to co-sleep.

How much of the time? Every night

Does your child/ren have their own cot/bed, but just not use it? Yes they all have a bed or cot and they have day sleeps in these.

or use it some of the time? Yep

What about for day naps or when they are going to sleep at night but you aren't ready to go to sleep - what do you do with them then? I lay with them for five minutes and they go to sleep straight away but I breastfeed bubs to sleep

When you are both asleep are they just in the same bed as you or are you actually holding onto them the whole night? In the same bed.

I use a roll cushion around baby but I am a very light sleeper so I pretty much know what is going on.

[shed]

We are the same as what Seekrit said, including the part about the clean washing, lol.

I have tried to get him into his cot a couple of times for his morning nap. Nup, so far zero success. He's not a fan.

[Dooce83]

I miss co-sleeping :( I co slept with Evie until she was about 3 months, that was also while i was still with my ex. I used to be between them both, because he didn't have that mechanism that he just KNEW she was there and wouldn't roll on top of her. But she started hating it, she started sleeping really bad and as soon as i put her in her cot she started sleeping well again. Sad, but obviously she was just ready to sleep alone! When her dad and i split i tried co sleeping again because i hated being in the bed alone but she started sleeping badly again!! SO now she is always in her cot, but her cot is right next to me :)

Sorry i went a bit off track there!! But you are all so lucky to still be co-sleeping! Maybe when she is a bit older she will want to again :fingerscrossed:

[OneBabyBoy]

Thanks for your replies guys. When I sleep with DS I am cuddling him all night. I was just curious cause my mum babysat DS a couple of weeks ago and when I got home in the wee hours I saw them both asleep in my bed but my mum was on one side and DS was on the other, and the thought just struck me that it might be odd to cuddle him all night. My mum seemed surprised that I do it, and stay in the same position all night.
He used to go to sleep in his cot then wake up middle of the night and come to bed with me. Now he just sleeps with me all the time, won't sleep in the cot at all. Even if he's in a deep sleep when I put him in there he will definitely wake up, so now I put him in my bed (surrounded by pillows) even when I'm not in there.
I always think about how much I'm going to miss it when one day he says he wants to sleep in his own bed :(

[Gigglesmum]

We are the same as Seekrit as well (incl washing in the cot)...except during the week DH sleeps in the spare room so he gets plenty of sleep for work.

What I would like to know is how do you gals have your beds. I mean, Maia is only 3 months old and is not really moving much so am not worried about her when she is on her own at this stage. I am trying to put her in the cot when I am not there but do not always have alot of luck so often end up back in my bed being fed to sleep. At night I have my arm around her most of the night, however I have heard that once she starts moving around alot more, she may crawl around at night and could fall off.

Has anyone resorted to beb boards or putting their mattress on the floor? Am quite concerned.

Amber

[Seekrit]

Hi Amber :)

I'm probably going to come across as the meanest mother alive :p
What we did was teach Cobey how to climb down the MINUTE he could move. (turn around, slide backwards) and padded the floor around the bed, but let him roll off.. why? because by 8 months he KNEW where the side of the bed was and wouldn't roll off it, by 10 months he was climbing off it!

[Gigglesmum]

Doesn't sound mean at all! Actually sounds very clever. So do I not need to really worry too much until closer to 8months?

[hayleysmummy]

Hi Amber :)

I'm probably going to come across as the meanest mother alive :p
What we did was teach Cobey how to climb down the MINUTE he could move. (turn around, slide backwards) and padded the floor around the bed, but let him roll off.. why? because by 8 months he KNEW where the side of the bed was and wouldn't roll off it, by 10 months he was climbing off it!


I think thats a great idea I co-sleep with hayley and have done since i gave birth to her she slept with me in the hospital bed she has fallen from the bed a couple of times onto the floor but no serious damage and yes I felt like a really bad mum so I think I will try this

I have a cot set up that also collects the washing but it turns into a toddler bed so it hasnt gone to complete waste

I do miss having my bed to myself so if I ever have another bub he/she will be going into a cot for every sleep and staying there :laughing:

[Seekrit]

No, worry when she starts to move... I didn't worry AFTER 8 months :p

[Africamum]

Seekrit,

someone else taught DS to turn around and climb off things without me knowing!- unfortunately for me DS didn't understand how high was too high and we scored a few bruisers

And about a month ago he went ploop and fell out of bed- thankfully landed on a pillow.
And no, I dont think you are a bad mummy.

We have co-slept since about 3 months he sleeps in between us or on the edge (i now use a pillow as a barrier). He starts off in his port a cot and about 1am ends up with us.
I love co-sleeping.

[shed]

Our bed is quite high and I put pillows on the side, but even when bubby wakes up when I don't hear him he doesn't fall off or try to climb down. He crawls to the end of the bed and holds on to the sides of his cot (which is at the end of our bed) and yells till I hear him.

He must know its too high.

[m_jelly]

what about when they move around in their sleep? My DD crawls around looking like a drunk elephant, seeking for the sweet spot, and im positive she would just keep crawling over the edge! I thought about a toddler bedside thingy, but then when she was awake she would use it as a launching point

[Mamalicious]

I do miss having my bed to myself so if I ever have another bub he/she will be going into a cot for every sleep and staying there :laughing:


ME TOO!!!!!!

[Kittyfaye]

We have co-slept since DD was born...although I had no intention of it being that way in the beginning. She would start off in her bassinette, but because she would feed so frequently (and right through the night...still does) and is useless at re-settling herself, she would always end up spending most of the night in our bed between us or on my side (if DH really tired or had a few drinks) with my arm wrapped around her.

She is now almost 8 months old and I am trying to gently get her back out of our bed...it sometimes bothers me that I have no idea how often she feeds through the night (sometimes it feels like all night), especially when I wake up with sore boobies...also, although 80% of the time I love her being there, I also sometimes just want to lay with DH...I think we have let her become a bit of a convenient barrier which isn't good. Trouble is she won't have a bar of her cot...always wakes if I put her in asleep and if I put her in there awake she screams without breath, with no sign of stopping.
Also, I am too chicken to put her in our bed by herself (had a nasty falling incident involving a head collision with bedside table), because she crawls around in her sleep. So I have recently put her cot mattress on our bedroom floor and she starts off down there until she wakes for her first feed (still feeding every 2 hours or so through the night...trying to reduce feeds with no success...any tips?). Seems to be working wonders and she is beginning to sleep much better.