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tj_mum

24-01-2006, 21:04

Today i was at my local community centre and saw a 11-12 year old girl sitting there begging for help she had a 1 week old baby and they wouldnt help her i couldnt believe they turned her away:mad:

So my question to all of you is

Do you think there is enough help for young mums in local communities ???

tyler's mum

24-01-2006, 21:21

my question is what the hell is a 12yr old girl doing having sex???:eek: there is help out there i know when i was pg the hosp asked me if i wonted paretening class,,, i didnt do them,,, but there is help out there

Mum2Lucas

24-01-2006, 21:26

I know in brisbane there are a few young parents programs that deal with women under 19 having their first baby i go to one of them and they're really good

kiwibird27

24-01-2006, 21:27

Probably don't know the whole story????!!!!! Alot of help out there it's just that the people who need it often don't know where to find it - local church groups are a great source of help in the community (I'm not religious), and they don't try and convert you to a religion - they are just there to help!!!!
I don't think there's a book on all the community agencies that can help given out to at risk people!!!!

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24-01-2006, 21:31

OMGOsh 11-12?? That is so sad....why wsa she turned away? Tell me more...tell her she can come live with us. OMgosh, how sad:(

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24-01-2006, 21:32

The YPP (Young parents program) in Brisbane is supposed to be really great...also I agree, members of most churches will always be there to help if they are needed.

Mum2Lucas

25-01-2006, 10:23

YPP is awesome I went to the pregnancy group and now go to the young mums group 1. cant wait for group to start again

SassyMummy

25-01-2006, 14:30

What is a 12yr old doing with a baby...much less having sex?!

I know we're all young mothers and whatnot...but seriously! There's a difference between being YOUNG and being TOO YOUNG. Where was the help for that girl when she was pregnant?

Obviously, it's ILLEGAL for her to have a baby. She mustn't have even finished PRIMARY SCHOOL before conceiving. OMG!

I think there is plenty of help out there for young parents...but perhaps it's just not the right kind of help. There are plenty of places that deal with the basics (child nutrition, pregnancy, how-to-change a nappy etc) but what I think is really needed is a good sexual education program which actually teaches more about the realities of having sex and the consequences that can be, rather than a "this is what the female reproductive system looks like. Who can tell me where the ovary is?" kind of class!

I also wonder wtf this girls PARENTS are to (letting their daughter get pregnant, have a baby, and BEG for help in the streets??!??!?!?! Sounds like they shouldn't be parents themselves!)

Oscar's mum

25-01-2006, 14:34

SH3LBY

25-01-2006, 22:16

what the hell is a 12yr old girl doing having sex???:eek:
Try 10-11 year old... Society is to blame for this... We have so much educational resources, but unfortunately parents and peers do not do enough to provide adequate life education for children

tj_mum

25-01-2006, 23:30

Try 10-11 year old... Society is to blame for this... We have so much educational resources, but unfortunately parents and peers do not do enough to provide adequate life education for children

I agree 100% with the above comment but its also schools that dont push the children to take the classes whats the right age children should learn about sex etc ?

I dont know why she was turned away but i was out the door as quick as possible when she left and walked with her to a shelter (i wish i took my car i felt bad ) and went to see her today look her some of my old clothes and some of Tjs old clothes for her I didnt want to be too nosey but from what i understand her parents kicked her out just alittle over a year ago and shes been selling her self for money from what i know shes going to be living in a foster home im pretty sure she wont have bubs with her for much longer (have a feeling child safty will step in )

Can someone give me some info on the young mums groups in brisbane im having a hard time finding any

sammykat

26-01-2006, 23:51

Oh my god! It made me so sick when I read the original post. I am so glad you updated us on what happened with her after because I wouldnt of been able to sleep OI would have been worrying about he rand her safety and her poor little baby :(

mel04

27-01-2006, 21:55

Thats soo sad. I too would like to know what a 11 yr old is doing having sex??? I don't think i even knew what it was at that age! Mind you, i didn't have sex till i got married at 20, so i really was a pretty innocent little thing. lol.
You'd think she would be able to get a bit more support? I know when i had my girls there were all sorts of mums groups available. I'm the youngest in my group, but even now, 10months later we still meet and the support and friendship is wonderful.
It really saddens me that poor girl couldn't get the help she needs.

Mum2Lucas

28-01-2006, 19:26

Ypp is a really good young parents program its in stafford. Will the foster home she's going to take her and the baby or just her. If she wants to keep the baby it would be sad to see her separated from it. If theres anything i can do just pm me or something.

JessandKirra

28-01-2006, 20:02

its funny I spent all day feeling sorry for myself because my house is a mess and I cant afford foundation...then you hear this story... it makes me feel so lucky now for what I have...:(

tj_mum

28-01-2006, 21:59

i dont know anything more about her as yet i wont see her until monday morining so ill keeo every one updated then

SassyMummy

29-01-2006, 16:28

I think it'd be great if there was some sort of organisation where young mothers could support each other. I know there's young parents programs out there and whatnot...but it'd be great if there was some sort of organisation where mothers could offer not only verbal support but old clothes/furniture to other young mothers. We all know what it's like after all.

Mum2Lucas

29-01-2006, 16:57

At YPP you can get second hand baby clothes and some maternity gear. No furniture or anything.

tj_mum

29-01-2006, 19:37

ive heard of some of these places around but have no idea where they are thats the problem not alot of young mums know where these places are

Going to seeing lil miss tomorrow

Mum2Lucas

29-01-2006, 20:45

YPP's at stafford. I dont know of anywhere else.

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30-01-2006, 06:44

Youth Parents Program
119 Stafford Road
KEDRON QLD 4031
Phone: (07) 3357 9944 ypp@uq.net.au

The Young Parents Program supports young pregnant and parenting women up to 23 years of age, primarily on the northside of Brisbane. YPP emerged from the Royal Women and Brisbane Hospital in 1986 because social workers were concerned that young women were not accessing antenatal care nor were they receiving ongoing support in their role as parents. YPP adopts a holistic model of practice in responding to both the health and social needs of young pregnant and parenting women.

The Brisbane Youth Servie (BYS)
http://www.parentsyes.org/bysfamilies.html

1. Brisbane Youth Service Team

Provides crisis intervention and long term outreach support.

Contact Kal or Cezanne on 3252 3750

SALVATION ARMY Brisbane, Qld

Youth Outreach Service (YOS)
20 Baxter Street
Fortitude Valley 07 3854 1245

OK so after going through all the resources I know of, the answer to your original question is NO NO NO. There isnt enough for kids like this. There is quite alot of crisis accomodation for people OVER 18. The other young parents program I knew of doesnt seem to be running anymore:( I feel for thsi girl so much...I want to help, is there anything I can do? I would hate to see her baby taken away from her but I think that she needs careful supervision as a parent to make it work. What on earth are her paretns doing?

I want to do something....tell me, what can I do?

Refresh

30-01-2006, 07:01

I guess the hard thing is, there would be so many families willing to take her and her baby in, but I suppose it becomes dificult because she is so young and still a child herself?? So does that mean she would have to be on a waiting list for a registered foster carer or something - separate from her baby? She is in the hardest position possible given her age:(

Tell her to go to a church and ask for help.
http://directory.ourbrisbane.com/directory/listings/98274.html
http://directory.ourbrisbane.com/directory/listings/105944.html
http://directory.ourbrisbane.com/directory/listings/104178.html
http://directory.ourbrisbane.com/directory/listings/107687.html
hhttp://www.rivercitycentre.com/ttp://directory.ourbrisbane.com/directory/listings/239840.html

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30-01-2006, 07:09

Here's another link on housing for young parents.....might not be much help as alot of them are for over 16's.:( Might be worth a try though

http://www.connectqld.org.au/asp/index.asp?pgid=14701&cid=29467&id=53027

I meant to say, good on you for walking with her to a shelter an continuing to care about her:) SHould be more of it!

SassyMummy

30-01-2006, 11:35

I have yet to go there, but there is a Young Parents Program at Windsor...which is really easily accessible by train...right across the road.

I rang up the other day, and there are 20+ young mums there...I'm not sure what age range...but for first-time young mothers with bubs under 1. That's the one I'll be attending anyway.

It's every 2nd Thurs, from 10-12 and goes back on 9th Feb.

You can get more info by calling 3357 9944 (Thanks Helen for this!)

tj_mum

30-01-2006, 17:01

Hey every one though i would do a quick update went and saw her today omg i found out her name she was willing to talk alittle more think she realised i wasnt going to turn my back on her.Her name is Katie she's doing ok shes alitte scared about whats going to happen the directior of the shealter may have found her and her baby a place to stay its sorta like a foster home and its near where i live so ill still be able to see her etc YAY she has to see a social work and so do her parents child safety are doing a invesagation (is that spelt right) on her parents.She's learning how to be a mum change nappies etc

Ive asked the shelter what we can do to help they said we could either
*Donate clothing (womans and babys)
*Donate Sheets and blankets
*Donate Food
*Donate old toys

So yea think everyone gets the idea if you want to help anyone simalar to Katie just ring up your local womans/mothers shelter and tell them you want to donate things (some places wont take donations at certain times as they already may have things but its worth a try)

Mum2Lucas

30-01-2006, 20:32

tj_mum

30-01-2006, 20:58

i rang up about that one today looks like i shall be joining you there on the 9th now i just have to try and work out how i get there on the train from here !