work advice

[claires1st]

Hi my name is claire from Thornlie WA
First time baby due 28.11.05 only 4-6 weeks (doctor bit funny about due date. said 4 but thinks 6 because of all the throwing up.

Feeling good today we only found out on Tuesday. have only told family and a few close friends.

Does anyone else work full time? silly question i know in this day and age. I am a licensed Settlement AGent (for properties) and am unsure how i am going to cope with such a high stress job. feel like i have lost part of my brain this week and keep bumping into things!!lol

My husband has just started uni and although it was a planned baby (getting pregnant came rather quickly we had only been trying 8 weeks!) i am going to have to work as long as possible as we have a mortgage, cars etc.

other question is how do you tell you boss?? i am at a small company and i know that she will be really happy for me but not sure how to broach the subject?

HELP.

claire

[Narelle]

Hi Claire!
I was working full time until I started maternity leave at the end of feb, I'm due april 20. The hardest thing with my job was being on my feet all day, I was so tired the first 3 months but I have been really lucky and had a great pregnancy with no morning sickness I'm wondering if that means I will have a 40hr labour or a baby that cries all the time, hope not! I told my boss when I was 13 weeks I was a bit nervous and had been going over what I was going to say in my head, in the end I think my big speech went out the window and I just blurted out "I'm having a baby" my boss thought it was great he became a dad in feb last year so he was excited for me. Our pregnancy was planned but like you we didn't expect it to happen so fast it only took 2 weeks, hubby was a bit peeved he didn't get much practice! We don't know what we're having, I like suprises! You have so much to look forward to it's an amazing experience, I'll let you know about the labour part in a few weeks.
Narelle :)

[xkwzit]

Hi Claire
Congrats on your pg :) . I also worked full time up until 2 weeks before the birth of DD1. I think you just have to take a deep breath and tell them your expecting (its going to feel a bit weird, you'll probably only need to do this a few times in your life). No need to rush into it though - you don't legally have to let them know until well into the pg (I think it may be 10 weeks before your EDD and if they didn't know by then they'd have to be blind!). I always waited until the 3 month mark, we didn't even tell family before then.

Nappy brain is pretty common, I like to think its because we have sooo much more to think about when pg. WRITE ALL IMPORTANT STUFF DOWN - you've got so many more balls to keep in the air, now you've got fairly reg doctors appts, baby stuff to get ready, other changes that you might like to get out of the way before baby arrives - it just makes sense that you'll slip up more if you don't make allowances.

I found with the job I had before DD1 that I was very stressed and the emotional rawness of pg hormones made it worse. I was probably doing too much and I have trouble saying "no" at the best of times. I had a few nights of leaving work after 7pm to pick up takeaway (in tears) on the way home after starting work at 8 am (or earlier), so leaving that position was a relief eventually. Get used to making allowances for yourself - you'll eventually make your children the higher priority over work and this doesn't make you less professional, you just have other demands on your time. In my experience, people respect that.

Anyway, best of luck

[claires1st]

Thanks for that nice to feel that i am not alone. sometimes it feels that way!! decided to tell her tuesday we have a really good relationship so hoping that this will help.

feeling better today not much MS. but tired all the time!!

hope to read and learn more as the pregnancy proceeds.

ta

claire

:-)

[emmalouise]

I'm expecting our first in early November, and already can't wait to go on leave! I get 14 weeks paid, and want to make the most of it after bub arrives, but will have to wait and see how I'm feeling closer to our due date. As for now, I'm just so tired, and feeling sick doesn't help - I feel very unproductive and though I want to wait a while before telling people (and family and freinds are higher up on my list than work!) my workmates must be wondering what's wrong with me. Each day it's a struggle to stay awake and I feel as though I spend more time in the loos than at my desk!
Assuming that I'll feel better once I reach the second trimester (if not, I won't be happy!), why is it that when the pregnancy is really affecting you, it's really to early to be making the announcement?
However, I'm not worried about telling them when we're ready to announce it - in fact, I can hardly restrain myself now (8 weeks)!
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[nkenward]

Hi all,

I suppose I am in the lucky position that I work with/for my parents. My Dad is absolutely wrapped at the idea of becoming a grandfather - Mum on the other hand is not sure about being called Grandma quite yet - She will get used to it.

Dad was originally telling me if I didn't hurry up and have kids - he would have to go out and buy some.

Anyway, I told them earlier than usual, cause I thought if something were to happen while I was at work - then the question would be - why didn't you say anything!

I am lucky though, because I will be able to take time off when I need too without pressure from work committments, but my parents have said that I don't have to stop working either, as they would be more than willing to set up a creche at work. I will just have to see how it all goes.

Good luck to all those that have been finding it difficult at work, unfortunately in our day and age, working is still a priority. :rolleyes:

natalie.

[mumof2girls]

Well congratulations!

I would wait until the 3 month mark (just to make sure everything is okay) and then maybe if it's possible work as long as you can but see if your boss will let you work from home when you go on maternity leave, I know a lot of people who have done this and they can still be around their children and their bosses don't have to train anybody new, or find a replacement either. No harm in asking your boss.

[Rainbowbrite]

I could not wait to tell people, and figured that if something happened (which it didn't thank god) that everyone would find out that i was pregnant anyway.

I told work the DAY i found out. I was so emotional that when i got to work after taking the test, I saw my boss and burst into tears. I was so happy but also worried cause I had only JUST started the job 4 weeks before :eek: Needless to say i'm still there, 32 weeks pregnant today :D and they have been great. They knew that i was not slacking off on my bad days in the first 3 months, that i had a viable reason for being as tired as i was.

But honestly, do what you think is right. I just couln't keep it a secret.

Rainbow

[Charlie4]

Hi There to All of You Girls

I've been reading emails in different forums and the conclusion I have come to is that all of you although happy to be parents have the worry of finances. It is such a jungle out there. Believe me, I know. Been there. It broke my heart that I had to leave my kids to go to work full-time.

I still work full-time and have just started a home business. I just hope I could convey to you girls that there is light at the end of the tunnel because times are fast changing. You can earn a good living starting a home based business. It only takes for you to have a different mind set and be focused on what you want out of life for yourself and your family.

My goal is to quit my job and work at my business full time. Believe it or not, it happens. My friedn was able within the two years of setting up a home based business to give up her job and do just that. She teams up with her husband and she says that they make more money that they have ever dreamed of. She was able to pay off her mortgage and buy and an investment property. She has a 6 and 14 year old. She has now relocated to Sydney for six months to build her business here.

It only takes determination, the right mind set, hard work and a good network of people helping helping people. That's all it takes.


Charlie4