Any positive love stories

[Issey]

Just wondering if anyone has any positive love stories of moving on in their lives that involves children from other relationships.

Can you love someone elses child like your own? Or is love too strong of a word.

I guess I am wondering about my life down the track ( a long way off ) but nice to hear some happy stories. :)

[RaryGirl]

I met my DH when DD was 4 years old - after being on my own for 4 years. DD loved him on sight and as soon as we moved in together she started calling him Dad.

DD doesn't see her "sperm donor", so she is with us 24/7 and DH accepted that from the start.

DH loves DD as his own, he calls her his daughter and there is never any talk of "step". Her school didn't know he was her step father and also alot people at DH's work don't realise either.

I must admit I got lucky and found DD a "good daddy" to use her words - but they are out there.

[SairBear]

I met my DP when lucy was 2.
My 'sperm donor' isnt a part of our lives so she is with us 24/7 also.
Lucy took a while to get used to having Dp around but eventually you couldnt seperate them. She loves him with all her heart. And often she doesnt want me consoling her , she wants DP. She still doesnt call him dad all the time, most of the time its his nickname she has for him in which she calls him by. They have a very special relationship im so grateful that she has him in her life.

Dp had surgery on his toe a while back. The doc looked at lucys toes and commented on how she has the same toes as her father. We get alot of comments like that, which is kinda nice. She has taken on alot of his little traits. And even tho he isnt her biological father, he treats her like his own. And i love him for being able to do that as it must be hard to all of a sudden aquire a 2 yr old lil girl.

[sethsmum79]

I met DH when DS was 2. He accepted him as his son from day 1, and there has never been any talk of "step".

When I was pregnant with DD, he told me that there would be no difference to him between my son and DD....I didn't believe that would be possible.

He has proven me completly wrong. He adores DS as he does DD. There is no difference - they are both his kids.

I think i'm very lucky, not only having a wonderful husband, but such a wonderful father for both my children. Valentine

[Vespera]

This is a different side of the story for you.

My parents split up when I was 7, when I was 8 my mum met my step dad. As you can imagine, dating a lady with a 6 and an 8 year old would be an effort for anyone but he really made it work.

He always accepted that we were part of the deal, and never made us feel that we werent wanted or part of his family. When I was in high school he actually got us to school and was home when we got there in the afternoon - he was our "Mr Mum"

Since then our relationship has gone from strength to strength and as far as we are both concerned he is my dad. He always introduces me as his daughter and as far as most people know he is.

I am so lucky that my mum found such a wonderful guy, and even if they did split up for any reason we would still be father and daughter - there is too much love there.

There is hope for you, just don't give up til you find the right one!

p.s sorry for the ramble

[Issey]

These are lovely stories :)

Great to hear from a childs viewpoint / perspective too. :thumbsup:

Anyone else?

[MummyCharmzy]

I met my DF when my son was 9 weeks old, DS has ALWAYS known DF as 'daddy', DF has always accepted him as his own and to date DS knows no different. DF has never treated DS any lesser than our other children.

When I met DF he had majority custody of his then 14 month old son and I have always totally accepted him. DSS lives with us almost 90% of the time and I treat him just as I do my other 3 children.

We do not have 'yours mine and ours' we have 'ours' We are a family of 6, we all love each other and treat each other equally.

[Lachlan's Mum]

I met my DH when my DS was 1. DS's biological dad passed away prior to DS turning 1, and to date DS doesn't really understand that DH is not his "real" daddy - as he is only 3 now.

DS calls DH Daddy - and has from very early on..... he was not prompted to do so, just started saying it one day and has done so ever since.

Like some of the other posts, DH has accepted DS right from the start (as well as the emotional baggage with having lost my first DH and DS's father) and there is never any talk of "step".

Even DH's family accepted DS from the start, he calls DH's parents grandma and grandpa etc. and has sleep overs the same as he does my parents. They provide for him as if he is one of the family, and in fact when DH and I got married last year we legally changed DS's surname (especially as I was expecting DD and wanted them to grow up and go to school with the same name etc.) DH's parents are stoked as DS is now the only male to carry on the name as all the other grandchildren are girls!

We don't pretend at all that DS's biological dad didn't exist - Lachie will just have two daddies..... when we visit Steve's memorial site, we tell Lachie we are visiting "Daddy Steven" and we say the same when looking at photos etc.

Sorry for the ramble, but point of the story - yes there are wonderful, caring, fantastically supportive men (and I dare say women too!) out there, and I was lucky enough to find one! He is the greatest daddy and hubby and I am thankful every day for having met him!Valentine

[meegs]

I met my DH when I was 4 months pregnant with DD. He came to ultrasounds, was there for the birth and he has always been known as her dad. He has loved her as his own from the word go.

[Issey]

I love reading these positive stories, specially as I feel so lost atm. Thank you for sharing such lovely stories :yes:

[crazychik]

imet my df when my youngest boy was 6 mths, i have 3 boys, and df loves tham all as his own 3yo now has only known him as daddy,
my boys dont see there sperm donor.
my df has a nearly 7 yo boy and he is an only child from his mum so he love staying with us with the boys
we are also due to have our 1st child together this friday, a little girl so it is just great.
ps i am white kiwi, my df is white aussie and my boys are malaysian/indian and they are loved just as much as my df own no matter what.

[forbetoel]

Not my own story, but my brother has recently had a baby with his DF, and she already has a son. If you didn't know any different, you would assume that her biological baby was also his. He has also gotten both boys names tatooed on his arm. He says it is just like an adopted baby, you love it the same as your other kids, he actually forgets that he is not his biological father.

[hayleysmummy]

Reading these stories brought tears to my eyes what beautiful loving and caring partners/husbands you ladies have it really does give us single mummies hope that there wqill be someone out there for us and best off all will love our kids as there own :yes:

[Myztik]

I met DF when my ds1 was about 2.5yrs old. DF loves ds like his own and ds love DF like a father (has just recently started to call him dad too awww)..

DF has a 3yr old and I love him to bits, he is just gorgeous. We dont get to see him very often though which really sucks.

[forbetoel]

Reading these stories brought tears to my eyes what beautiful loving and caring partners/husbands you ladies have it really does give us single mummies hope that there wqill be someone out there for us and best off all will love our kids as there own :yes:

Yes there are some great men out there, lots infact, but like anything it is the bad ones that give the rest a bad name iykwim?

[Starlet]

Well I have known my DP since year 12, he was a friend of my ex's. So my kids have known him since they were born. My ex and I split up when ds2 was 3 month old. DP and I got together when DS2 was about 1. He also has a daughter who is 7 months younger than DS2.

He loves my boys like his own, he calls them his sons and they call him daddy(and that was their own decision). He does everything for them, more than their real dad does.

As for his daughter, I do love her, but I often find it frustrating as she distances herself from me. Her mother isn't a fantastic person and DSD is not very close to her mother(who would be when you get yelled at and called all kind of names under the sun when you're only 3 years old). I try my best to be close to her, but I don't want to push her. She is slowling coming around and calls me Mummy Trace now, which I think is great :)

DP and I just had a baby together and he is the thing that connects our two families, so he is very special in that sense.

I love my blended family(except for having to deal with the dreadful ex's, both mine and his), I wouldn't change it for anything.

The fact that my DP can love my boys as much as his own makes me love him even more!!!