Aggressive and Violent Behaviour

[mum2my4]

My son is 5 almost 6 and is becoming increasing aggressive mainly towards his closest sibling.

See thread for what he did:

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=103344

When your children are too old to go to the baby clinic do you just take them to the GP for behaviour issues? I really don't know what to do with him. Time out, taking toys away etc do not work and it is getting out of control.


Any ideas?

[cwsmum]

I'd probably speak to the gp, if you have one that knows you and you are happy with. Is your son in school? Maybe the teacher or principal could offer some advice...I know alot of primary schools have a guidance councillor these days too.

Can you think of any reason for him getting so aggressive? Could he be getting frustrated coz his brother can do things that he can't? Is he kaving trouble seeing/hearing? (those often cause probs at school)...hmm...I don't really know what else to suggest...Just be consistent with whatever you do to discipline him when he does something wrong, and make sure anyone else caring for him does the same.

Good luck, hope you sort things out soon. Hope your other son is ok too :)

[bipster]

Community Health often run or know of courses being run on 'triple p positive parenting' which will give you some really good and quite practical strategies to try. Your son's school may have a guidance officer or such that you could chat to as well, and may even do some sessions with your son. It's a good idea to address the problems now rather than wait until they become more serious, so you're doing the right thing by looking for other options. Good luck.:thumbsup:

[mum2my4]

He goes to school and we had some issues in the beginning but the last term he hs shown massive improvements in work and behaviour at school, he hasn't been agressive or violent at school like he is at home.

He has two other siblings which he is so nice to, he constantly has a go at his closest sibling and this morning it escalated out of control again.

They have gone on school holidays now but I might give the school counsellor a try when they go back. It's just annoying he has been like this with his sibling since he was born 4 years ago, I thought he would be over it by now:banghead:

[cwsmum]

Maybe for now it's going to be a matter of keeping a close eye on them both (easier said than done I know), and trying not to leave you son in situations where he is going to get annoyed and lash out. Maybe encourage them to play beside each other rather than doing things where they have to co-operate. Give them both a pile of blocks to play with rather than one big pile to share, their own set of pencils/crayons to draw with (tho this means you need two of everything coz if you give one crayons and the other pencils one of them will get upset)...just simple things like that might be enough to keep the peace between them for the school hols at least.

Good luck :)