Large families chat thread

[eternalmaternal]

:wave: Hi guys,

I am soooo proud to have what I consider a large family. My partner, myself and our gorgeous girls :yes: . I would love to start a general discussion group for us all with our large families to share our highs and lows :thumbsup: .

I have noticed alot more threads recently discussing larger families and thought it would be great to have a support group type thing for us:idea: .

So who are we all?

I am Mel aka eternalmaternal and I have 4 girls atm aged from 9months to 7 years.

[Aquamarine]

I have three boys and we plan on ttc #4 next year so this thread seems very interesting.

I would love to see how others find having a big family.

I think it's great.:thumbsup:

[InSaneOne]

i have 3 stepchildren - 2 girls (15 & 14) and a boy (12)
and one of ours - a girl (22 months)

hubby freaked when i told him i wanted 4 more:p i will just have to convience him one at a time:laughing: :laughing:

[mum2my4]

Hi :wave:

I have 4 children

3 boys and 1 girl

They are 5,4,2,1

Our family is complete DH has had the snip.

Looking forward to seeing how everyone else copes with it all.

[MyFab4]

:wave: Hi, I'm Lee and we have 2 boys 2 girls between 6 months and 11 years.

[earlybirdbabies]

Hi I am Stacey and I have a DH,hmmm:banghead: , and 4 beautiful sons... Wanting 1 more to complete us though so wanting to TTC#5 in the next year or so... ALL BOYS IN TOW!!:devil6:

[Dannii79]

I have three boys and we plan on ttc #4 next year so this thread seems very interesting.

I would love to see how others find having a big family.

I think it's great.:thumbsup:
That's why I posted a thread earlier about going from 3 to 4+ chillies. I am really wanting to ttc#4 but just not 100% sure weather or not we should. I'll be keeping up with this thread I think.

[kymmy]

We have three kids, and preparing to ttc#4 in the next year or so. We would like to have 5 or 6.

[eternalmaternal]

Hi I am Stacey and I have a DH,hmmm, and 4 beautiful sons... Wanting 1 more to complete us though so wanting to TTC#5 in the next year or so... ALL BOYS IN TOW!!

You have the opposite to me:laughing: So one annoying thing about my large family is that because I have all girls people assume we only keep trying for a boy :mad: A boy would be lovely but imo no more lovely than another girl. I just want 5 or 6 healthy happy children:p . How about you?

Hello to all the rest of you lovely large or soon to be large families. Yay for us:yelclap: !!!!

[mum2my4]

I hate the comments you get when you have the same sex:mad:

Some people can be so rude:shame:

[earlybirdbabies]

You have the opposite to me So one annoying thing about my large family is that because I have all girls people assume we only keep trying for a boy A boy would be lovely but imo no more lovely than another girl. I just want 5 or 6 healthy happy children . How about you?

Hello to all the rest of you lovely large or soon to be large families. Yay for us !!!!

LMAO :laughing: I constantly get the "Oh you poor thing" or "gonna try for a girl next, I know a good dietician". What a pile of s***. I want another boy as I'm actually a little scared of having a girl, does that sound weird or what?? My kids have never been term pregnancies, so to have a happy healthy baby this time around is my main priority, not the SEX!!!:shame: :laughing:

[SmileyBJ]

Mel, I love the 4 girls names you chose for your daughters! :)

[prouddad1987]

:wave: Hi guys,

I am soooo proud to have what I consider a large family. My partner, myself and our gorgeous girls :yes: . I would love to start a general discussion group for us all with our large families to share our highs and lows :thumbsup: .

I have noticed alot more threads recently discussing larger families and thought it would be great to have a support group type thing for us:idea: .

So who are we all?

I am Mel aka eternalmaternal and I have 4 girls atm aged from 9months to 7 years.
hey my name is adam i have me my wife and my 2 girls aged from 5years to 6 months

[DoubleDelight]

Well I guess I belong here :D I have a step daughter 25, two sons from my first marriage 15 & 13 and g/b twins 21mths old. We are wavering at the moment about another addition (or two ;) )

[eternalmaternal]

Thanks Nanny Leilz:) It is a challenge to choose names for large families too:laughing: .

your username kinda gives that away earlybirdbabies :yes: . How scary:fingerscrossed: all goes well with #5. Scarletts birth was a little scarey and I was just so glad to have her I was amazed at how many people seemed to be feeling sorry for me for having yet another girl.

[moonblossom]

Hi everyone. I have 8 children, 5 boys and three girls ages 26, 25,23,19,12,8,7 and 11 months.

Ummm and no, I don't want anymore and no, i'm not catholic LOL

[mum2my4]

earlybirdbabies - how early were your bubs?

[earlybirdbabies]

Thanks Nanny Leilz It is a challenge to choose names for large families too .

your username kinda gives that away earlybirdbabies . How scary all goes well with #5. Scarletts birth was a little scarey and I was just so glad to have her I was amazed at how many people seemed to be feeling sorry for me for having yet another girl.

It never seems to be congrats, or you're doing an amazing job... Never a compliment always a put down...
Something like, "Oh you've got your hands full"
You know what, I'm just glad I have kids, not to mention I saved alot of money on clothes having all the same sex!!!:laughing: Names are hard too by the way!! they have to live with them. You did well for your girls,:thumbsup: If I had a girl I'd be buggered, so would she.. I have none!!:eek:

[earlybirdbabies]

earlybirdbabies - how early were your bubs?

1 and 2 were both born almost term (not twins) and 3 and 4 were both born at 33 weeks ( again not twins). But with bub #4 he was lucky to survive.:hugs: I went into labour at 24 weeks and they gave me the option of, if he was born, resusitating him or just letting him die.:eek: because my placenta had come away from the wall and I had a 8x9cm hole and I kept heamorraging. Had bleeding from 13 weeks and they thought I was m/c. But I went on to bleed and he survived, but it's hard when they knock you down saying "he won't survive"... and you hear so often enough that when he did survive I was soooo shocked!! Greatful for him, he changed me...:angel:

[DoubleDelight]

earlybird I can totally relate. My twins were born at 31wks after we were originally told at 28wks to deliver or lose Twin 2 (our son). I must admit it's one of the things that is holding us back from going again.

Glad to hear that your little man is OK.

[earlybirdbabies]

Thanks Double delight... Twins, I love have loved twins... hmmm then again!!:angel: I actually went to the dR and asked him if I'm safe to go again with all the probs and he said that I have a higher risk of going prem but if I don't have any health probs or stress I should carry till term. HOPING!! I want to be that mum that gets to take her baby home with her.:) Not come back in 2 weeks when they are allowed to come home finally if you know what I mean.:fingerscrossed: And I also want to PLAN this one. My other SUPRISES were fine, don't get me wrong, but I want to find out I'm pregnant and be happy, not go "OH S***." I love them all the same IYKWIM!!

[Starlet]

Just posting quickly because bub is about to wake up,.

I guess I fit in here now hehe. I'm a mum to 3 boys. Jayden is 5 next week, Bailey is 3 and Owen is just 2 weeks and 4 days old! I also have a stepdaughter, Charli who is 3 in October.

We definitely want to have another one, but Dp says we have to wait a while(which is fair enough I guess as we have 4 kids under 5 atm).

[moonblossom]

Welcome Scarlett,

You remind me of me when i was young :) Cept I didn't have a step child.

Your definately in the Large family catagory :)

[Pippi Longstocking]

Hi :wave: I have a large family too. I have 5 kids, they are g12, b9, g nearly 8, b5 and g 20 months. Hopefully we will be having number 6 next year some time if all goes to plan.

[MrsDribbleDrawers]

Hi! :wave:

We have 3 atm, probably ttc within 12mths, and who knows if we'll stop there! I've always wanted four, so the decision is - four of my own, or four including d(s)s?

Cate

[eternalmaternal]

It never seems to be congrats, or you're doing an amazing job... Never a compliment always a put down...
Something like, "Oh you've got your hands full"
You know what, I'm just glad I have kids, not to mention I saved alot of money on clothes having all the same sex!!! Names are hard too by the way!! they have to live with them. You did well for your girls,If I had a girl I'd be buggered, so would she.. I have none!!

I often get the you have your hands full comment:banghead: I like the large families site it has great come backs and I now always respond and my heart with a big grin :D . I have watched your youtube ebb and it is lovely your little man is a miracle and I can see why he has changed your life.

I am so happy to read about so many other large families:smiliedance: . Moonblossom you have stood out to me around the forum before:thumbsup: . I didn't realise starlet and guv had large families and am pleased to meet the rest of you.

[FourAngelKisses]

Hi, you all know me, lol, I have 4 lovely kids (3 boys, 1 girl). Would love more. My heart is saying yes, my sanity levels and head are saying no. Oh, DH is saying no too, haha.

[eternalmaternal]

Hi Fourangelkisses.
My dp is one of 5 and would like 5 himself :thumbsup: . I have 3 half brothers all much younger who I didn't grow up with. I am really enjoying being part of a large and yes busy :p family.

I had the biggest gap between my first 2 which is only 32 months anyway and then the other gaps were 22 months. My thoughts atm are to have a slightly bigger gap with #5 like my first 2 in hope that Scarlett will be out of nappies and not in that real tanty:devil6: phase when we have a newborn iykwim? I always get so clucky when they are one though:o.

[FourAngelKisses]

I get really clucky once they turn 2. Only my first 2 kids were planned though, we just werent expecting me to fall pregnant within 1mth of coming off the pill!!
Numbers 3 and 4 were VERY unplanned. I'm actually looking into getting my tubes tied now though. :gloomy: I don't want to, but we are struggling to feed and clothe them all, so I don't really have a choice.

[earlybirdbabies]

Hi Fourangelkisses.
My dp is one of 5 and would like 5 himself . I have 3 half brothers all much younger who I didn't grow up with. I am really enjoying being part of a large and yes busy family.

I had the biggest gap between my first 2 which is only 32 months anyway and then the other gaps were 22 months. My thoughts atm are to have a slightly bigger gap with #5 like my first 2 in hope that Scarlett will be out of nappies and not in that real tanty phase when we have a newborn iykwim? I always get so clucky when they are one though.

I know what you mean about the 1 of story.. I'm actually 1 of 8 including step of course... And I'm very glad to have met you eternalmaternal. It's nice to have a breath of fresh air!! The gap between my first 2 is 15 mths and between the 2nd is 9 mths 3 weeks, yes just a pregnancy apart!! between trae and bayden, the last, there is 2 1/2 yrs... So hoping for the same gap the next time around!!:fingerscrossed:

[vikki a]

Hi, can i join in?? I have g14, b11, b3, g22mths, and a step son 10, oh then there DH33:D I always say i have 6 kids, but 5 are going to grow up!!:D I love our big family. As busy as it can be, but hey it keeps me out of trouble....
I would like to have more, but i cant ............

[Roopee]

:wave: Everyone!

Im Tanya and i have 4 kids. 2 boys, Cooper, 6 and Riley 4 and 2 girls, Baylee-Rose 2 and Cody 4.5mths.

I get lots of negative comments too and i detest that...i love my big family and would have 3 more ina heartbeat...Dh has said NO though and he's had the snip now so no more for me:no:. But large families are great!

[Alex06]

I hate the comments you get when you have the same sex:mad:

Some people can be so rude:shame:


Just a note to say, I watched your video, and I cried all the way through it. Your son is gorgeous !!!

[Starlet]

Oops, I totally have baby brain, DSD is 3 in September, not October LOL.

We get the negative comments too, sometimes people ask us if we had DS3 just because we didn't have any kids together. And when people ask me what I have and I say 3 boys they respond with the 'oh you're going to have ur hands full'...but in actual fact my DSD can be more of a handful than them all put together sometimes!! lol.

I don't really care though, I love my big family. Growing up I was an only child(I have a brother who is 9 years older than me and grew up with my grandmother after I was born, my dad isn't his bio dad, and now I have 2 younger sisters that are the same ages as my older 2), so I've always wanted lots of kids. My mum is from a family of 13 kids.

[eternalmaternal]

I know what you mean about the 1 of story.. I'm actually 1 of 8 including step of course... And I'm very glad to have met you eternalmaternal. It's nice to have a breath of fresh air!!

:hugs: Lovely to have met you too :yes: .

:wave: Vikki A and Roopee :yelclap: Yay more big families!!

Starlet your siblings story is like mine. Basically I was an only child too. I loved going to my cousins place as there were 6 of them. I wished I was one of them. Sure there were fights but most of the time it was fun.

I had a previous thread about finding the space. Still something I ponder but I am sure it will work out. Our house is just 3brs so I will need to renovate or move I guess. How big are all your places?Atm I have 2 girls to a room.

[earlybirdbabies]

We currently have a 4 bedroom, but when we bought it was a 3. We renovated the built in garage and made it an entertainment room, but since all the SUPRISES, we've actually made it a bedroom.(the existing carport is now our garge.) Kids love it though. Wanting to move and sell this one, then build a house with 5 rooms and a HUGE kitchen:yelclap: . I have NO bench space... And these kids eat like they've just discovered it!!:laughing: LOL. I've only just become clucky in the last 2 months and wanted to try when DS#4 is 2, but I'm still in the "talking to DH" stage. He has said "not right now" but I will get him convinced and be preg by 2008!!!:thumbsup: We just hold hands and I get preg...:laughing:

[eternalmaternal]

We have a double garage that I use half of as the girls play area. I am considerring a 4th room there or the possibility of 2 more rooms upstairs as we have a small store room that is perfect for stairs. Or move to something bigger I guess. I always say if there is a will there is a way.

[FourAngelKisses]

I had a previous thread about finding the space. Still something I ponder but I am sure it will work out. Our house is just 3brs so I will need to renovate or move I guess. How big are all your places?Atm I have 2 girls to a room.

Teeny tiny 3 bedroom house. 11 squares all up. The kids bedrooms are very small, the size of your average bathroom (boys room) and average laundry (Brookes room).

I have Brooke and Troy in together. They have 1m by 1.5m of floor space in there.

Jacob and Matthew are in together. If the trundle is put away, they have 1.5 by 2m of floor space. If it is still pulled out because I can't be assed pulling the junk out from under the bed to slide it under, they have 10cm by 2m of floor space.

[grecksta]

adding my self to this thread I have 2 boys and am researching what families say on bigger families highs and lowes..

I'd love 4 convincing hubby on the 3 maybe who knows what life brings:thumbsup:

[eternalmaternal]

Hi Grecksta goodluck convincing your dh:D

Dp lived in a caravan when he was younger with his mum,dad and four siblings(the youngest 2 are twins) He thinks my space issues are boring:laughing: He also says it was the best time ever. It was a large caravan with a big annexe apparently. When they moved from there it was to a 2 br with a tiny sleepout:eek: Jay and 1 bro slept in the sleepout. His big sis had her own room and the twins were with his parents until they were older and they made 2 tiny rooms downstairs with kind of a rumpus for them.................and now I am rambling:ecomcity:
LOL!!!

[earlybirdbabies]

Hi Grecksta goodluck convincing your dh

Dp lived in a caravan when he was younger with his mum,dad and four siblings(the youngest 2 are twins) He thinks my space issues are boring He also says it was the best time ever. It was a large caravan with a big annexe apparently. When they moved from there it was to a 2 br with a tiny sleepout Jay and 1 bro slept in the sleepout. His big sis had her own room and the twins were with his parents until they were older and they made 2 tiny rooms downstairs with kind of a rumpus for them.................and now I am rambling
LOL!!!

Isn't that funny I couls sit here and type my entire life story... LOL But I won't:yelclap: cause it's not that interesting and it's way toooooo long:sleeping: eternalmaternal thanks for the hug.. I returned one!!:hugs:

[eternalmaternal]

I have had a lovely morning with my large family:thumbsup: The weather is fine so we went down to the beach for a play and a run. It is wonderful sitting and watching them play :yes: building monster castles. Piling back into our 8 seater van and getting some breadrolls on the way home for one of our famous backyard picnics:) There is enough of us to have parties/picnics everyday:D

[earlybirdbabies]

Hi guys,
eternalmaternal I'm glad you had a good day, I did too!! Took the fam down to queensland raceway and watched the Australian Superbikes race!! (husband is a true wanna-be!!) Anyways I know what you mean about having enough of you to have picnic/ party everyday... And I also know what you mean about the 8 seater van, well mine is only 7 seater, but close enough!! Great for travelling or just storing your second home items!! ALL BAR THE KITCHEN SINK!!:o :laughing: Anyways how is the collection of large fams going, seems to be collecting quite a few!!:thumbsup: Anyways talk soon gals!!
Stacey:cool:

[FourAngelKisses]

First official day of school holidays tomorrow. I am betting I will be so over it all by 8am. :laughing: I never know what to do to keep them all happy, they do nothing but fight from the minute they get up till an hour AFTER I send them to bed. I love having them home though, it usually isn't until halfway through that I start having the "why did I have more than 2 kids" thoughts.

[eternalmaternal]

We need a bigger bed :yes: .

Everynight we get a visitor or 2:laughing: .

Scarlett is 9 months and still wakes a couple of times a night and early in the morning I bring her in with us for a while :hugs: :kiss: I love our morning cuddles. All the girls squeeze in everymorning a couple up the other end and a couple up with us..................We really need a bigger bed!!

[Josh]

Hello mums, I have 9 kids, all of them are mine,no adoptions or step kids, I sometimes cant believe that i have given birth to 9 babies, any way i would like more but my husband is standing in my way,and i sought of need him with the conceiving bit:laughing:.

jodie , hubby
DD Rhiannah 17
DD Biankah 16
DS Dane 11
DD Alisha 6
DD Azminah 5
DS Zahid 3
DS Zhakri 2
DS Khalid 16mths
DS Azharuddin 16 wks.:wave:

[eternalmaternal]

Hi Jodie9 I have definately noticed you around the forum and wondered when you would be along to introduce yourself. I am sure you have some good stories for us :yes:

I wonder who has the most bubs on the hub?:detective:

[Josh]

Hi Jodie9 I have definately noticed you around the forum and wondered when you would be along to introduce yourself. I am sure you have some good stories for us :yes:

I wonder who has the most bubs on the hub?:detective:



Hi eternalmaternal, thanks for the warm welcome, I don't think i have the most kids on here ,i am pretty sure there is another mum with 11, but i am not 100%, anyway feel free to ask me anything.:yes:

jodie 37, hubby 42
DD Rhiannah 17
DD Biankah 16
DS Dane 11
DD Alisha 6
DD Azminah 5
DS Zahid 3
DS Zhakri 2
DS Khalid 16mths
DS Azharuddin 16wks:hugs:

[mummyof5]

Well, I am not quite in Jodie's league, but I do have 5 of my own (well DH and mine), and one DSS.
DH had a vasectomy while I was pregnant with #5, and we are now investigating the options for another, IVF versus reversal...all comes down to money unfortunately.
We have a 3 bedroom house with a sunroom we use as another bedroom. 2 older girls share and 2 youngest kids share. Older boy in the sunroom...trying to decide wether it's worth renovating to accommodate us all better only to have DH posted interstate, which is likely. We will keep the house, but don't want to renovate just for tenants, only if we were to live in it.
Good idea to have this thread up and running ladies..:thumbsup:

[earlybirdbabies]

Well as some of you have read, I am yet to have AF!! Been on the pill for about 4 months and Was due about 6 days ago and still haven't had them.:eek: Was a bit worried though cause we are in a lil bit of a rutt at the moment (bad financial probs due to business in liquidation) and I don't really think this is a good time to have another... It will be over hopefully in about 3 months, but it's too stressful.

So I bit the bullet yesterday and went to the doctors...:bfn: And it's strange cause as relieved as I was, I was also a little dissapointed??:confused: But the way I see it I would love another one when the time is right for us..
SO I'm still without AF and doc said if by friday I still haven't got them, try preg test again... A little scared but at the same time willing to accept it!!:thumbsup:

[MyFab4]

:wave: Everyone!

Im Tanya and i have 4 kids. 2 boys, Cooper, 6 and Riley 4 and 2 girls, Baylee-Rose 2 and Cody 4.5mths.

I get lots of negative comments too and i detest that...i love my big family and would have 3 more ina heartbeat...Dh has said NO though and he's had the snip now so no more for me:no:. But large families are great!

Gotta love the comments don't you? You must have your hands full is one of the all time favourites. I've also been told I have more than my fair share by MIL. Like there is only a certain amount of kids to be had and I've taken someone else's share? I don't even think she meant to be nasty by this comment but people really should think before they open their mouths.

[MyFab4]

Hi earlybirdbabies, :fingerscrossed: you get the result you're after.

[eternalmaternal]

Hi lee and mummy of 5(I like the sound of that;) )

My mil and fil were like well thats enough now don't you think.....yet they had 5 of there own:confused: and we never ask them for anything or get them to do anything for us either:banghead: .

We live to please ourselves though and as frustrating as everyones comments can be at the end of it all we are happy. In a way the negative comments just encourage me to go ahead and show them we can do it and we are happy :yes: .

I was wondering how you went Stacey. Keep us updated.

[mummyof5]

I am actually deliberatly not mentioning the idea of us trying for another to either Mum, as they will both b!tch about it. Though apart from the odd bit of babysitting, we don't ask them for anything, so I can't see why they need to worry about how many children we feel able to cope with. It annoys me that they can't keep their commnents to themselves, especially as they will dote on any baby when it turns up anyway....

[earlybirdbabies]

well I've had a little spotting today but thats it, it stopped.. What the hell is going on here??? Either I am or I ain't... And I'm really tired of not knowing!!:thumbsdown: God will AF either come or let me know one way or another.... Soooo tired!:sleeping:

[FourAngelKisses]

argh, kids, who'd have them. Jacob has been in a foul mood all day, telling the other 2 to shut up all day when they have just been chatting happilly between themselves, plus he has been pushing them.

The final straw came 10mins ago as I was mopping the kitchen floor and he kicked his brother, who is a quarter the size of him. I told him right off and he went and slammed the sliding door, knocking a pot plant off the pelmet, so there was dirt from one end of the room to the other. So his little temper tantrum got him into trouble twice and he has had to vacuum the living room and the entrance.

I am so over today, I am so over the holidays.........and today, I am so over my 9yr old it isn't funny.


Yes, I have 4 kids, yes I love them all to death and yes I am damn well allowed to have a abd day and say that I am regretting having more than 2.

[eternalmaternal]

:hugs: many hugs to you fourangelkisses.

I have really bad days and think thats it no more I can't do it:mad: (sleep deprivation is killing me!!!!!).

Then they are asleep and I think back on the day and smile :yes: Thank all the stars I have them each and everyone of them and laugh at the $%#@ that annoyed me. Its usually so trivial and pointless. I reserve the right to vent a little though and have my bad days. As long as at the end of the day I take a breath and realise just how lucky I am:thumbsup: .

[FourAngelKisses]

Yep, I do the same. The minute they are all in bed, I sit and think of the good times through the day.


And I'm glad you replied, I was thinking of deleting my post. :o

[eternalmaternal]

definately don't delete your posts. Its a highs and lows thread. It is great to know we are not alone :hugs:

[FourAngelKisses]

:hugs: Thanks........I get a bit paranoid I guess. I think that if no one replies for ages it is because I said the wrong thing, lol.

[eternalmaternal]

LOL thats funny I think I do the same thing:o

I think we can be sure on this thread though that we are probably just too busy :laughing: IRL to have read the post :yes:

[forbetoel]

I have 4 boys and am thinking about going for one more. I love big families, but hate comments about having all the same sex. I would love another boy, I see the child, not the sex.

[forbetoel]

could I also add, that whenever (and it happens daily) someone says "wow you have your hand full" I just say "yes, full of love."
I also find that I get all the negative comments from people who have only one or two children. I think they are mostly jeolous, maybe their hubby told them no more, or maybe they find it hard raising just a couple of kids, so they get annoyed at seeing me enjoying my beautiful 4 boys. Love this thread, love big families, love my big family.

[Mumof6]

How did I miss this????

I'm lee, and my DH and I have 6 children together

DD 14, DS 12, DD 9, DS 8, DD 4 and DS 2

He got the snip after our 6th.... BUT... It obviously didn't work... I'm 8 weeks pregnant with #7. :)

Too sick to enjoy it ATM, and I have to say I am struggling looking after the 6 we have while so unwell.

Hope to get to know you all better soon.

[Josh]

could I also add, that whenever (and it happens daily) someone says "wow you have your hand full" I just say "yes, full of love."
I also find that I get all the negative comments from people who have only one or two children. I think they are mostly jeolous, maybe their hubby told them no more, or maybe they find it hard raising just a couple of kids, so they get annoyed at seeing me enjoying my beautiful 4 boys. Love this thread, love big families, love my big family.

I agree with you 4boys2love, my last 4 kids are boys aged 3,2,16mths and 16wks,and i am used to all the sarcastic comments now, my neighbour has only 2 girls and she thinks she knows everything about raising kids,but she never has her's they are always at there nanna's or day care, anyway can't work that family out.Enjoy your lovely boys.:hugs:

jodie, hubby
DD Rhiannah 17
DD Biankah 16
DS Dane 11
DD Alisha 6
DD Azminah 5
DS Zahid 3
DS Zhakri 2
DS Khalid 16mths
DS Azhar 16wks

[FourAngelKisses]

Congrats mumof6!!!


The snip didn't work for my dad either, my sister was born 5yrs later, lol.

[eternalmaternal]

Hi 4boys2love and mumof6 :wave:

Congratulations on #7 :thumbsup:

Hope you are feeling better soon:wizard: Being pregnant is definately harder when you have a large family. It isn't easy to lay down and have a rest or just be sick in peace:barf: (love that funny little guy). Can't wait to share your journey.

We considered the snip but chickened out. I am glad we did. I am sure if we did and decided that was it we would fall aswell. LOL

[FourAngelKisses]

We considered the snip but chickened out. I am glad we did. I am sure if we did and decided that was it we would fall aswell. LOL

I asked my GP about getting my tubes tied last week. :gloomy: I REALLY don't want to do it. I love kids, I love being a mum, I love being pregnant and family is the most important thing in the world to me, even if they do **** me off big time some days (like yesterday).
But DH has decided 4 is enough. 2 was enough for him. If I have a bad day, he always says things like "the joys of raising babies/the joys of having kids/you wanted 4 kids".
My GP said that they wont do it until Troy is 6mths old, probably in case I change my mind, but my mind is already decided.......I don't want to do it. I want to keep on giving birth until I am 35. So I have another 5yrs worth of child bearing left in me. I could have 2 kids in that time. Ok, I could really have about 6 as I fall pregnant just by thinking the word "baby", but I wouldn't go that far, lol.

I know that there would be no way to change DH's mind. In my head, I am so done having kids, but in my heart.....I know I will always want more.

[eternalmaternal]

:hugs: Jeanette, I wonder if those feelings ever stop. I thought just one more last time and now I am doing the same thing:confused: . Dp makes those comments on hectic days here but then he says how much harder can it get now anyway :laughing: . I am just not ready at only 29 to not hold another newborn that is my own. I can't help it I am just so maternal :yes: .

[FourAngelKisses]

:hugs: Jeanette, I wonder if those feelings ever stop. I thought just one more last time and now I am doing the same thing:confused: . Dp makes those comments on hectic days here but then he says how much harder can it get now anyway :laughing: . I am just not ready at only 29 to not hold another newborn that is my own. I can't help it I am just so maternal :yes: .

Yep, I'm only 29 too......for another 51 days anyway, lol.

I have found 4 EASIER than 3 for some reason?? Probably because Matthew is occupied more during the day?? The older 2 wont talk to him or play with him. They always fight with him, tell him to shut up or just ignore him...its so sad. I haven't raised them to be like that and it breaks my heart.

But yeah, I want more babies dammit!!

[forbetoel]

I think any that come after number two are easier. Number two bub is the only one that doubles your family instantly. UNLESS NUMBER 3 IS A TWIN PREGNANCY!!! A good friend of mine is one of 7 children, and 4 of them have gone on to have 4 plus children. It just shows that being in a big family is something that you often want to hand down to your own kids. I was one of four, and knew that I was going to do the same. However that number 5 baby wont get out of my head Grrrrrr

[MyFab4]

Jeanette, I wonder if those feelings ever stop. I thought just one more last time and now I am doing the same thing:confused: . Dp makes those comments on hectic days here but then he says how much harder can it get now anyway :laughing: . I am just not ready at only 29 to not hold another newborn that is my own. I can't help it I am just so maternal :yes: .

I wonder the same thing. We decided bub#4 was our last bubba, she is now 6 months old. I still have my maternity clothes in the cupboard, I can't bring myself to give them away, lol. I haven't had this problem with my other kids, I have usually gotten rid of them asap. She is also still in the bassinette right next to my bed, I just don't wanna pack it up for the last time.
BTW I am 29 as well, but only for another 6 days.:eek:

[FourAngelKisses]

Just made a separate thread on that issue of mine.


I find that I take forever to stop carrying them (I was still carrying Brooke when she was 5 and I was 9mths pregnant with Matthew, lol) and to ditch the pram. I want to hold onto those "baby" moments for as long as I can.

[mummyof5]

I love this thread - I FEEL SO NORMAL!!! People usually look at me like I am nuts (:eek: like this, lol) when I say I would love another one or two.
On the sterilization idea, all I can say is don't do it!!!!!! When DH had his snip we were at breaking point (in our relationship) and I thought I was going to be a single mum of 5 soon...well, we came out the other end of that predicament, and by then it was too late. We have been talking about tring to get pregnant again for a while, but it was DH who really said yep, lets invistigate it fully, when the youngest turned 2, so you never know girls, give them time they might change their minds.
On a better note, how are we all enjoying the school hols?? Over them yet?? The wind round here hasn't helped much this week, too cold and blowy to send them outside for long, so they stay in and annoy me.
At least we are off to a bubhub meet tomorrow, so that will make life more interesting.
Hope you all have a good Friday.:yes:

[MyFab4]

We've been finding the holidays ok, haven't really done much. The older 2 have had a few friends come over. They are back to school on Tuesday. I actually enjoy the holidays, not having to be up and organised everyday ready for school. Although maybe the xmas hols are a bit long,lol.

[eternalmaternal]

I love this thread too :yes: .

I have been enjoying the school hols. Its nice to have a slower pace in the mornings:thumbsup: .

We have had lovely weather. We went for a bush walk yesterday and went to the park this morning and had ice-cream:p .

The xmas hols are a little long:eek: though.

I need a bigger clothes line. Actually I think I will just get a 2nd clothes line. I just can't get on top of the washing atm.

[earlybirdbabies]

ha ha I'm the same although my problem is I hate hanging the washing out :mad: (bee and pollan problem) so I'm lazy and use the dryer... But my problem is the washer is an 8.5kg and the dryer is only 7.5kg so if I fill it right up it stops cause it's overbalanced... Sux cause if I don't notice, the clothes smell!!! Oh well BTW letting you all know that have read my post on page 5 (I think) I'm not preg!!!:smiliedance: :bfn: YAY! thank god... cause I'm just not ready right now... In 6 months maybe but just not at the moment!:D

[earlybirdbabies]

Jeanette, I wonder if those feelings ever stop. I thought just one more last time and now I am doing the same thing . Dp makes those comments on hectic days here but then he says how much harder can it get now anyway . I am just not ready at only 29 to not hold another newborn that is my own. I can't help it I am just so maternal .

I said that Bayden DS#4 was the last and I promised DH that was it, I just can't help myself but to beg him to give me one more... It's worked though cause we will start trying next year!!:fingerscrossed: I'm counting down the days and am happy to wait for it... Yay I'm so looking forward to having this little baby lay on my chest after he is born and smell him and feed him. I only got to BF DS#4 so I am looking forward to doing it again...:hugs: I love kids, though in the last 3 days mine have been DRIVING ME UP THE WALL!!:banghead: My school hols finish Tuesday next week!!!! OH YEAH

[forbetoel]

School holidays are great, I love having no school drop offs, no Karate, no swimming, no footy, it is good to have a rest, however holidays mean I am in a constant mess, I swear if I was crazy enough I could sweep my house 20 times a day at the moment!!

[eternalmaternal]

School holidays are great, I love having no school drop offs, no Karate, no swimming, no footy, it is good to have a rest, however holidays mean I am in a constant mess, I swear if I was crazy enough I could sweep my house 20 times a day at the moment!!

Ditto except insert ballet and music instead of karate and footy :laughing: .
I have picked up the same things so many times:banghead: oh well where there is mess there has been fun and laughter :p .

[PunkyDiva]

How did you ladies get out of being a taxi? our extracurricular stuff has contd over hols, so no rest for me. Somehow I ended up with 3 others as well so I'm just ignoring the mess and spending most days trying to keep teen bellies full.
Hiya, not on all that often these days but thought this was a thread where I might fit in.:fingerscrossed: I have 5 ferals(16, 14, 13, 7 & 4) and ttc at moment for 6 & 7. Yep trying real hard to get twins, although that gives me an odd number again and we might have to go another round :laughing:

[eternalmaternal]

Hi punkydiva:wave:

Sounds like you definately fit in here:yes: .

Goodluck with ttc twins......That sounds cool to me too:o .

Our girls are still all young but I suspect I will become a taxi in a couple more years. DD1 already refuses to catch the school bus as it takes too long for her liking:laughing: .

I originally planned 3...then 4 I have heard many people comment about the odd vs even numbers. I kind of think 1 more bub would be good but will I want to even it with 6? Whats everyone else think?

[vikki a]

I would love another one but i cant:crying: The last three babies were by c-section, and they told me i shouldnt have anymore bubs:thumbsdown: So i let them cut my tubes after the last one was born. My DH and i think that sometimes it would be nice to have one more, but sometimes i think what was i thinking having the ones we have now!!! (usallly when there fighting etc..) I think if they would have let me i would keeping having babies, until i was to old to do it any more:laughing: My friend just had a little girl today, im going to get so clucky when i see her.

[forbetoel]

I have had 4 c-sections, with no problems, and have been given the o.k for one more. I make sure I get checked with each c-section to see how I have healed. My ob said that almost all women can have 4 these days due to the way the insision is made now. Just wondering vikki a, if you went private or public, because I have 3 other friends who have had 4 c-sections in the public system, and I have heard that private ob's are often just too paranoid about law suits to do anything different????

[vikki a]

I went public, with all my bubs. So not far, i was told it was a no no to have anymore than 3 c-sections:mad: So thats why i had it done, did'nt want to end up in trouble with the bub or myself. My kids need me, as good as their dad is he would be hopeless if he had to look after all the kids by himself..

[forbetoel]

I think it is a shame that on so many different topics doctors seem to give out such different advice, surely you would think they could be all be in line on such important issues. Anyhow you are lucky to have the 3 that you have, the two in the picture are sooo cute!

[vikki a]

Thanks they are cute, well not all the time!! People often ask me if thier twins, i allways have to say nope theres 18mths diff between them.... I must amit that when i look back at all 5 bubs pics (even my stepson) that they all look alike, at one stage or another. I do get sick of hearing that they look like thie dad, especaily my 2 eldest, because there from my 1st marrgie!!!

[forbetoel]

I thought that they WERE twins. My two eldest are 18 month apart and I always get asked if they are twins also.

[vikki a]

:laughing: Maybe its the age gap?!

[kelpat]

Hi, I hope you guys don't mind if I jump on here. I have 5 kids so far,girl-3, boy-5, boy-12 and 2 stepkids, boy-18, girl-14. We are trying for anotherbut we have a few fertility problems slowing us up.

I couldn't imagine not having them, I get alot of comments about didn't I want a career. But all I ever wanted was to be a mother.

By the way my DH had a vasectomy reversal a few years back, so if you girls that mentioned it have any questions I'd be happy to share the gory details.:laughing:
Kel

[spiritedfamily]

Hi :wave:
I didn't know this thread was here....what a good idea:idea:

I have 5 children, I assume I qualify enough for this thread:) my latest addition is only 15wks old.

Our holidays have started as of tommorrow...I'm kind of ready. I'm happy to be able to chill for abit and not drive around all day but I'm not looking forward to my nearly 11 year olds hormonal surges...at least on a wild day, she can go to school.

I hope the weather stays fine for another day or two, just so I can keep my head above water, I got way behind with the last rainfall.

look forward to hanging out here more

[MofHarryWilliamElizaAnnie]

Hello all you georgous children loving mums out there. I am so excited that someone has thought up a chat site to cater for us. I feel so alone among my highly strung, germ fearing friends with one or two children who cannot relate to my situation at all. I think they might even feel sorry for me. I have four children two girls and two boys. They are the BEST! I have a background in early childhood so I was bound to have lots of children. I am always busy and do struggle with keeping the house tidy. I have surrendered to it now and figured I will clean up in 10 years when the kids are 16,14,12,and 10. I would love to have another baby- my youngest is 6 months although I am not sure if I could have another c section (I have had 3) My first bub breech so I had to have an emergency c section, my second was natural, third was breech so another c section and last was c section as I had already had two before. If anyone knows if it is safe to have four of these operations that would be great. THanks again, I hope I can have some good conversations with like minded women. Take Care

[PunkyDiva]

Thanks for the warm welcome Mel. I guess in regards to having 6 you would prob be ok at 5 cause yours are all still around same age groups. I would just like this bub to have someone to grow up with, sounds like strange reasoning I know but just watching how my two boys & two wee girls have interacted over the years and yet my oldest girl is a bit of a loner (only at home & only once her and the boys hit teens) sorta makes me think this. Maybe if I had another girl I would stop as she would fit in with the two wee girls. I don't know there are so many considerations isn't there with family size and expectations these days. My grandma had 8 but she said we mums now do it much tougher then her, go figure. One would have thought with all modern technologies would have made our lives easier but she says it more the expectations placed on us to have careers still, all the extracurricular activities, material wants etc. I try really hard to keep our lives simple so we don't fall into traps such as debt but it is hard cause you want your kids to be like everyone else. Of course in my case my oldest DD decided she wanted to very much be an individual but she's experimenting and growing up I guess. Anyways enough heavy stuff from me, you don't wanna hear about those teen things yet just enjoy your kids whilst they are young and obedient. maybe that's why I want more babies so I can escape back to that world of baby bliss:D xxx

[PunkyDiva]

Sorry, me again, just read posts after my original and had some questions to ponder.
I am on a long journey to becoming a RN Div II and Midwife so obviously i am a strong advocate for natural birth, doula's etc especially with current pushes by OB's towards higher elective c/s rates, but the following is out of interest and no judgement/criticism, I'm just a natural stickybeak.

The ladies who have had multiple c/s, was there valid medical reasons (other then just cause you had one once before & OB advised it) ??
If one was wanting more children can you try for a VBAC after multiple c/s ??

I know as a multi v/b I am likely to hear the words c/s thrown around during any subsequent pegnancies because of risk of uterine wall haemorage and wondered if that is true too for multi c/s mums ?? Or could it actually be safer for you to VBAC ??

[forbetoel]

I will respond to 3 people in the one post
kelpat The career word drives me mad, but unfortunantly we are living in a world of me me me, and money money money, why on earth would any one in their right mind give up ME time and not chose to make money over raising your own children, and have a real influence over how they turn out. People I find just get jealous, that your priorities are more family friendly, I am proud to be a stay at home mum, I have only one chance with my beautiful kids, and I am going to enjoy it. Society's obbsession with material things is going to leave a whole generation with regret.
Mofharrywilliamelizaannie I have had 4 c-sections with no problem at all, and have been told that most women these days can have 5 because of the way the incision is made. I have other friends also who have had more than 3.
Punky Diva I had my first c-section because after 20 hours of labour my body had halted at 4 cm, my sons head was in a bad position, and so I wasn't dialating. For second bub, my doctor was more than happy to try for natural birth, I had a ct scan of the pelvis done, just to make sure, and it showed that although my pelvis wasn't extremly small, it was less than average, and if I had a big baby it just wasn't going to work. I then decided on another c-section, and thats sort of what happened for the other two! I know plenty of my friends who go private and have c-sections for no reason what so ever, and most of the private doctors wont let you go VBAC, even though it is proven to have basically no risk at all, if the original problem is no longer ther ie; distressed baby first time around. As soon as the babies heartbeat drops even slightly a lot of doctors just do a c-section, they are way too paranoid of being sued, and it is not fair on the mothers.

[forbetoel]

Oh and one more thing, welcome to the new people, it is great to see more of you.

[eternalmaternal]

:smiliedance: Welcome to Kelpat, spirited family,MoHWEA. So glad to see I wasn't alone in wanting a thread like this.

Punkydiva I'm a RN and desperately want to become a midwife. It isn't offered where I live though:thumbsdown: . It is the reason I did nursing in the first place. I am not too worried atm as I am not prepared for study and just want to be with my own little ones as much as possible so:fingerscrossed: one day I will get there. I work 2 shifts a week to pay our mort and also have the choice of schools and activities for our children. I would love to be a SAHM but it would take dp all week to make what I do in 2 days and so I work and he is a SAHD. He does a few casual days here and there and this way we parent together. It works out pretty well. I work evenings or nights so am home with the girls most of the time.

Where abouts are we all? I am on the Mid North Coast NSW. It is a lovely place to bring up kids but not so good for work. We have considered moving so dp would have more opportunity and so I can do middy. It is such a huge task though to move....We may reconsider it when we need more room :laughing: . I really love dd1 school though it has a lovely community, very family friendly. There is so much to consider with moving.................

[forbetoel]

I live near Ballarat in Victoria and it is a very family friendly town. My eldest two sons go to a primary much like you described eternalmaternal, and it would be very hard to pull them out of such a lovely school. It sounds like you and dp have it pretty well worked out with work and the kids, well done! I am sure it is not easy. I see you have 4 girls, I have 4 boys, I really enjoy having all the same sex, I like the fact that they all have the 3 of the same sex sibling to grow up with. Never a dull moment, and lots of fun!! A good friend of mine has just became a midwife, now that her 3 are all at school, and she said it was worth the wait, because she is more easily able to accept shifts, and therfore enjoy her job without worrying about missing out with the kids, so I am sure you will do it one day!

[FourAngelKisses]

I'm out near Bathurst. :yes:

[eternalmaternal]

Spirited family - were you Damona?

[spiritedfamily]

Spirited family - were you Damona?:yes: :)

[mummyof5]

OOh, this thread is getting busy!! In the best way:thumbsup: . Welcome all you mummies.:wave:
Wonderful to hear of you ladies wanting to become middies, i have had 4 of my 5 at home with and independant m/w and loved it ( the other a transfer for an emergency c/s), perhaps why I could happily do it a hundred more times...
We are in Greta, between Maitland and Singleton in the Hunter Valley. I hope that DH will be posted back to Vic soon though, as I miss my gf's down there and I want him to have a shore job again, sick of the "see you at the weekend/in a few weeks/months" life of a seagoing sailor.
I get my eldest and youngest kids back on Monday morning, as they have been staying with Grandma and Granddad, I am so excited, I really miss them, even though it has been nice to acheive some things around the house - got 2 coats of primer on one of the bedrooms, so it helped only having 3 at home.
My eldest daughter danced in a concert at Morrisset Megamarket today, did really well, am so proud of her.
Oh, time for me to start thinking about bed. :fingerscrossed: for a sleep in tomorrow.

[Roopee]

First official day of school holidays tomorrow. I am betting I will be so over it all by 8am. :laughing: I never know what to do to keep them all happy, they do nothing but fight from the minute they get up till an hour AFTER I send them to bed. I love having them home though, it usually isn't until halfway through that I start having the "why did I have more than 2 kids" thoughts.
Oh yeah the school hols!!! How over rated they are lol.

Even though i only have one at school...its so much easier when i only have three at home.
They boys have just spent the whole week fighting, and moaning and now i still have another week to go!!!! How will i survive it! Or more ot the point...how will they:laughing: KIDDING!

[FourAngelKisses]

Raining...........again. :banghead:

[eternalmaternal]

:yes: :)

I thought it was you:detective: :laughing:

I can't believe it is raining where you are fourangelkisses. It is so blue here ......But unfortunately I work this afternoon. I start at 2pm. we just have a lazy Sunday morning and hang out at home. Josie is reading to Imogen and Laura atm and Scarlett is playing on the floor so I thought I would sneak a peek on here. I hop on and off here when I get a chance. I like to have a look when the girls go to bed at night. How do you all manage your computer time?

[FourAngelKisses]

I multi-task........ATM I am feeding Matthew. Usually I am washing dishes, folding clothes, making meals and posting on here at the same time.



What's a sun? haha

[forbetoel]

I just hop on when I get the chance, and if DH is home, then he is really good at keeping the kids away form me while I have a bit of time out on the computer.

[MyFab4]

:smiliedance: Where abouts are we all? I am on the Mid North Coast NSW. It is a lovely place to bring up kids but not so good for work. We have considered moving so dp would have more opportunity and so I can do middy. It is such a huge task though to move....We may reconsider it when we need more room :laughing: . I really love dd1 school though it has a lovely community, very family friendly. There is so much to consider with moving.................
I am in Caboolture, QLD. Moved up here from Sydney 4 1/2 years ago.

[vikki a]

Im in Ballarat. We were in QLD for nearly 3 yrs, but move back in April...
I had a natural birth for my 1st, an emergency c-section for 2nd, he was 11lb 7 1/2 oz, and was to big to come they other way. 3rd was a c-setion because they thought he was going to be big like his brother, he wasnt only 7lb 10oz. And my 4th was c-section because they said it was to dangerous because of the other 2 c-sections. So this is why i hade c-sections, i would rather a natural birth any time..

[forbetoel]

Just wondering, how many of you on this thread are still having or thinking about more kids, I can't make up my mind on number 5?

[eternalmaternal]

Just wondering, how many of you on this thread are still having or thinking about more kids, I can't make up my mind on number 5?

Same for me. I think I prob will have number 5...Just don't think I am finished yet but think I will wait another year before ttc to give myself time to be sure iykwim. I wonder if I will think maybe 6 or will I be happy with 5:confused: Its a hard decision. I will need to renovate or move eventually I think but that doesn't worry me too much.:D

[forbetoel]

I forgot to say congratulations to mumof 6! How exciting, well done!!!!
Eternalmaternal- I always wanted 4, so the 4th baby for us wasn't even a decision, but now I want one more, Dh says it is up to me, he is happy to stop now, but also happy to have another one if thats what I want. I am going to try in October, I usually fall pregnant straight away, so maybe I will just try that month and see what fate has in store for us. A big turn off from having another baby, is the comments that I know I will get, people will think I am just trying for a girl, but I am absolutely against bringing a child into the world if you are not going to be happy with the sex, as it is not the poor babies fault. So if I can be strong enough not to let the pregnancy hormones bring me to tears everytime someone throws in a rude comment, I will hopefully be pregnant this year!!! I love my kids to death, and another beautiful boy would be great!!! After all they are their own people, I only have them for a few short years, so the sex really doesnt mean that much, it is more about raising and enjoying my children.

[eternalmaternal]

A big turn off from having another baby, is the comments that I know I will get, people will think I am just trying for a girl, but I am absolutely against bringing a child into the world if you are not going to be happy with the sex, as it is not the poor babies fault. So if I can be strong enough not to let the pregnancy hormones bring me to tears everytime someone throws in a rude comment, I will hopefully be pregnant this year!!! I love my kids to death, and another beautiful boy would be great!!! After all they are their own people, I only have them for a few short years, so the sex really doesnt mean that much, it is more about raising and enjoying my children.

This is one of my things too. People don't believe you when you say you don't care either:banghead: At the end of the day it comes down to what makes you happy. Perhaps say "no I am hoping for another boy that way I can try again after this:p or just ignore it and don't waste any of your energy.

[Mumof6]

4boys to love... The rude comments are the worst! I'm getting them heaps atm... and to make it worse it is from direct family.
I'm still sick... have an appointment tomorrow, and suspect Ill have to get something to help keep something down.

on the plus (being a little sarcastic) This is the 1st time since #6 that Ive been under 60kg LOL. I realise MS isnt the ideal way to get there... but trying to find a possitive :) (ive lost 6kg in the last 3 weeks)

MIL thinks that I should be a better wife... not have more kids ... Apparently her son deserves better than me. Grrrrr (We have been together 16 years... get over it... I'm here to stay)
Lets just say she is lucky I'm so sick... cause I just haven't the energy to tell her what i think.

Sorry for the vent... just having a week where it feels like everyone is criticising the choice to have a large family.

It is nice reading in here... knowing that I'm not a freak... There are others that love kids, and having more than the stereo type 2.

:)

(Ill try do a happier post next time :) )

[forbetoel]

Mumof6, I hope you do feel better soon, I know with my 4th that my other kids didn't get fed vegetables for months, because I was too sick to make them, or even care, but once I feel good agian, I try to make up for lost time. Some people(and I am being general here) with only a couple of kids, are sometimes just jealous that you had the guts to go with your heart and not your wallet, when it came time to adding to your family. One thing I can say, is that through it all, I don't want to live with regret, I know plenty of women(and men) who regret not having more kids once it is too late, and the financaially harder years are gone.
I love telling people who say "you've got your hand full" Yes with heaps of love, and I love it! For some reason people get a shock that above all things, that I really do enjoy being a mum!

[FourAngelKisses]

I thought now would be a good time to post this again.........

http://www.plomp.com/largefam/comebacks.htm

[forbetoel]

Fourangelkisses, that was a great site. Every single question had me saying "oh my god!!" It is like everyone without a large family must have secret meetings that we don't know about, to discuss not only what questions, but how to say them word for word and in the exact same tone every time. I swear, just reading those questions, made me feel like I was out shopping with all 4 kids!!

[Kachow]

We have 4 boys and 4 girls..... a blended family
We both have 2 girls and 2 boys each.... clever aint we !!!

[Mumof6]

that is brilliant... love it :)

[Dea]

thats a classic!!!! s? we have all been asked im sure ....
im so over " oh you have your hands full dont you " & yes i do i also work 30 hours a week too... idiots .. NONE OF THIER BUSINESS

[FourAngelKisses]

I am dying to have the courage to say "Yes, we have 3 tv's and 4 DVD players, but we like sex more". :laughing:

[mummyof5]

I have been known to tell people that what we watch on tv has probably lead to a couple of kids!!!:eek: Usually shuts 'em up!
Anyone else counting down the days till school goes back??? My kids are getting bored.

[MyFab4]

My kids are back at school tomorrow and they are looking forward to it. I really hope this cold wind goes away by the weekend, I'm having a party for my 30th. I haven't had a party since I was 12 so I decided this year to spoil myself.

EM and 4boys2love you can't win when you have both sexes either, people wonder why your crazy enough to keep having kids once you have a boy and a girl. We have 2 of each so if we had anymore people will think we've totally lost the plot, seeing as we have 2 pidgeon pairs and all:rolleyes: . Its funny how when you have you have the first one everyone wants to know when's the next one. Then after you have 2 its always are you having anymore. And when you get one of each alot will say you won't have to have anymore now you have a boy and a girl.

[Josh]

I am dying to have the courage to say "Yes, we have 3 tv's and 4 DVD players, but we like sex more". :laughing:

I know how you feel, I get asked repeatedly even by strangers things like.. ah do you know what causes it, oh and another one from my husbands work mates , they say to him that we must like rabbits, i am thinking that the next time someone asks me how many kids i have i am going to say, oh i just have 2 kids.:D

jodie+DH
the 9 kiddies:hugs:

[FourAngelKisses]

lol, that reminds me of Cheaper By The Dozen. "Only 2.......oh, and 10 others". :laughing:

[forbetoel]

Lee-77 first of all happy birthday, hope you have a great night! My sister has one of each, and it really drives her mad when people say "oh the pigeon pair, arn't you clever" My sister is like myself, and is just happy to have children, she has a chronic back condition which will probally prevent her from having any more kids, but her main reason for having another(besides the fact that she loves babies) is to NOT have the pigeon pair!

[mum2my4]

Everytime someone says to me don't you own a tv I look them in the eye and in all seriousness say "Yes, and all we watch is porn"

Which gets a :eek: but they shouldn't ask such a silly question.:shame:

I even said it to my MIL's new boyfriend first time we met him he asked me about a TV well he wasn't prepared for that response :laughing:

[eternalmaternal]

We have 4 boys and 4 girls..... a blended family
We both have 2 girls and 2 boys each.... clever aint we !!!

Yes you are :thumbsup: Welcome to the thread :wave:and goodluck with your ivf.

I was just thinking of digging that link up Jeanette. Thanks. It is one of my fave sites.

:hugs: for you Mumof6 I hope you are feeling better soon.

Josie doesn't go back to school until the 23rd. I am enjoying them so far. We have been busy though and the weather has been good. It is super windy and cold here atm though.

:party: Happy Birthday Lee. I will be 30 this year too.....Not until December though.

[FourAngelKisses]

I got asked the same question by a bunch of strangers at a bday party of one of DH's friends when I was about 4-5mths pregnant with Troy. It was the longest 3hrs of my life, I just wanted to walk the entire 60km home. They made me feel like ****.

[FourAngelKisses]

I was just thinking of digging that link up Jeanette. Thanks. It is one of my fave sites.

Its at the top of my faves list, lol.

[forbetoel]

Grrr!!! How annoying is the t.v comment!! These are my top 5 most hated comments, in no particular order
1. Gee you've got your hands full
2. Havn't you worked out what does that yet?
3.Don't you own a t.v
4.Are you going to go back for a girl?(memo to self; check what shop stocks the pink ones!!)
5. arn't you a glutten for punishment

I am so sick of being polite to these annoying people, I give this nervous little laugh, as if I have never heard their original joke before, except to the one about my hands being full, I just say, "yes full of love" For all the other questions I am just pathetic. I find it really bad if I am out shopping with my boys, and people make comments in front of them about having a girl. A lady who I barely knew once came up to me in the supermarket and said, "oh too bad, another boy" I replied " No I am over the moon about having another son, and about my boys having another brother" This was obviously not a good enough responce because then she says "but when they're teenagers they will be out alley catt'n" I just looked at her and said "well it is better than owning the alley cat" That shut her up and she walked off. This is by no means disrespect to those on this thread with girls, I just had to say something to put her back in her box. One of my closest friends has 4 beautiful girls and she gets all the same, except her worse is "have you bought shares in tampax yet" I realize most of these comments are not said to be hurtful, but when you hear them day in and day out, it drives you mad!

[spiritedfamily]

I can sooo relate to the last few pages:rolleyes:

We had a lovely day, my eldest dd made us all egg sandwiches for lunch and banana smoothies, she did an excelllent job and she did it without any help, she wanted to and then she proceeded to entertain her brother and sisters with a game that occupied them for hours. Its a relief to have such a peaceful start to the holidays:D

in answer to continuing a family...I am feeling that I maybe finished but there is still this niggle inside that I might not be done yet, when people ask me if i'm having anymore, I say I'm pausing:)

[Kachow]

:smiliedance: Yayyyyy school holidays are over !!!!! was nice to see their little smiling faces off to school this morning !

[FourAngelKisses]

Can I send mine to school with your kids? They are all cranky bums this morning.......which is why I am still here, I don't want to have to deal with it today.

[forbetoel]

I have one more week of school holidays. My DS1 won't stop trying to negotiate with me the terms of cleaning his room I say to clean it, he says what about just half, and then can I play computer? It's going to be a looonnnggg week!

[FourAngelKisses]

DS1 has been informed that if he keeps playing up, the tamagotchi he got yesterday will be confiscated.

[forbetoel]

has anybody actually parented for a whole day, without a single bribe? I really don't think I have!

[FourAngelKisses]

Yep, when their dad has been home, LOL.

[eternalmaternal]

I find it really bad if I am out shopping with my boys, and people make comments in front of them about having a girl. A lady who I barely knew once came up to me in the supermarket and said, "oh too bad, another boy" I replied " No I am over the moon about having another son, and about my boys having another brother" This was obviously not a good enough responce because then she says "but when they're teenagers they will be out alley catt'n" I just looked at her and said "well it is better than owning the alley cat" That shut her up and she walked off. This is by no means disrespect to those on this thread with girls, I just had to say something to put her back in her box. One of my closest friends has 4 beautiful girls and she gets all the same, except her worse is "have you bought shares in tampax yet" I realize most of these comments are not said to be hurtful, but when you hear them day in and day out, it drives you mad!

Ikwym, I once responded to someones "Never mind another girl" comment and sad looking face with 'I am thrilled she is healthy'. The same person then went on with "will you try again for the boy?" I was so annoyed I said "No I won't try again incase I have a boy"

I would love a boy tbh, but no more than another girl. I just wanted my point to be perfectly clear. I have never been disapointed with the gender of my babies. I love having girls:smiliedance: . We always get "wait till there teenagers:rolleyes: " and "You didn't think of the weddings did you?":confused: Jay and I aren't married so this last one always makes me laugh!

[forbetoel]

eternal maternal, we just can't win can we! Although we have, because we are the ones just happy having a big beautiful family regardless of what sexes are born to us. Shame and pity on them, high five to Us!!!!!

[FourAngelKisses]

Ikwym, I once responded to someones "Never mind another girl" comment and sad looking face with 'I am thrilled she is healthy'. The same person then went on with "will you try again for the boy?" I was so annoyed I said "No I won't try again incase I have a boy"

I would love a boy tbh, but no more than another girl. I just wanted my point to be perfectly clear. I have never been disapointed with the gender of my babies. I love having girls:smiliedance: . We always get "wait till there teenagers:rolleyes: " and "You didn't think of the weddings did you?":confused: Jay and I aren't married so this last one always makes me laugh!

What's a wedding got to do with it?? In this day and age, everyone pays for their own weddings.

I am the first to admit that I was disappointed when I found out that we were having another boy.....I dearly wanted another girl. But when he was born, gender was the last thing on my mind!

[MyFab4]

I am so sick of being polite to these annoying people, I give this nervous little laugh, as if I have never heard their original joke before,

I'm the same. I never say anything back. Earlier this year I was waiting for my daughter to finish cheerleading (bub was 5wks) and one of the mums asked if I was having anymore. I said that I probably would have another but I didn't think DH wanted anymore. One of the Dads (who wasn't even in the conversation) piped up with, "At least someone has brains." :shame: Although nobody laughed at his remark, I was still embarrassed but didn't say anything. I so wish I had the guts to stand up for myself in these situations.

Also when bub was about 2 months old I seen another Mum out shopping with 4 little boys, they looked in age from newborn to about 4. They were all well behaved and she was on the Maccas line with all 4 and was breastfeeding the bub. Most probably looked at her and thought she was insane, I looked at her thought she was amazing. My kids are not that co operative at the shops most of the time and there is 3 to 4 year age gaps between them. She was doing a great job, maybe I should have told her so. It would make a change from all the negative comments you get.

[eternalmaternal]

maybe I should have told her so. It would make a change from all the negative comments you get.

I have had a few positive comments lately and I just about kiss there feet :o I am so proud of my large family it is so nice when someone says aren't you lucky? :yes: Or how beautiful your girls are etc. I must learn to remember these comments and block out the other ones.

I had one lady at the headland the other day hop out of her car and come over to us to say how her and her husband had been watching us with our little family and were remembering the good old days, she told me to enjoy it and said how lovely it was to see a young family as happy as ours :yelclap: I was feeling all special for the rest of the day!

[FourAngelKisses]

I had an elderly man in Aldi tell me last week that I had a lovely family. I was shopping by myself with all 4 kids in tow and it had been a long and tiring day, so I really needed to hear that. I wanted to kiss his feet too, lol.

[forbetoel]

that is true there are are lot of positive comments. I love when someone past child rearing says to me "your boys are beautiful, I always wish that I had one more!" Statements like that make me remember that most of the negatives comments come from people too wrapped up in their own guilt or regret, and that for all the hard work and bad days, it will and is worth it. Elderly people are always giving the nicest comments, because they grew up in a generation, devoted to family, not the world we have now.
fourangelkisses In my earlier post I wasn't having a go at people who desire a particular sex, just making the point that there are some of us who really couldn't care less. I hope I didn't offend you, there is nothing wrong with wishing for a little girl. Also there is a difference between, saying you would love another little girl, and only being happy if it is a little girl.
I always wanted a little boy, but would have been more than happy to have 4 little girls. We are all lucky just to have them, and your baby is sooo cute, I assume it is DS4.

[mummyof5]

Have you all noticed that the people who make the nice comments are usually the older generation?? People our age or younger seem to be so full of the need to have all the nice things straight away, yesterday for preference, that they can't understand how you would rather have the bigger family and be happy than have the material things....and don't get me started on defence and how they think I am nuts because my DH goes away to sea and I do the parenting thing on my own. I'm sure DHA think I had more kids than average just to make it difficult for them to supply housing big enough for us, lol.

[FourAngelKisses]

fourangelkisses In my earlier post I wasn't having a go at people who desire a particular sex, just making the point that there are some of us who really couldn't care less.

Oh gosh no, I wasn't thinking that at all. :hugs: Just thought I'd share my experience.

[forbetoel]

Thanks.

[Roopee]

Gee this thread moves fast!!!

I know what everyone mean sabout the comments thing!! I get it all the time and people assume that i started REALLY young. (i must look young- dont feel it though lol).
So i get the "young" mums comments as well as the "my my dont you have your hand's full"....."dont you know what causes it yet?" Oh and the doozy......"are they all to the same father?"
Thankfully i have read that website that 4angelkisses mentioned and pretty much memorised evry single smart @rsed comment on there:yes:.

It does get you down though..i have been judged, ridiculed and had my integrity questioned on more than one occasion b complete strangers and sometimes it will do my head in!
I remember when one woman made the "omg..your pregnant AGAIN" comment i was mortified...i was at work and the store was full of customers..my face went bright red and then i just said..."well....its like this..we wnt for a loan at the bank and they refused...where else were we gunna get $4grand from"?

I love my big family...and had i not been so hasty in sending my DH for the "snip" i would love to expand it!!

So i would like to pat all of us on the back!!:yelclap:

[PunkyDiva]

Hiya lovlies, everyone still surviving school hols. personally I'm ready to go to the funny farm. Think 7yo DD may have chicken pox, both wee girls have been so whingy and whinee, even going for a walk with the puppies (in the hope of wearing out kids and puppies) turned into a huge ordeal and got cut short. I get so frustrated at myself for losing patience but ya know those times when no matter how much you reason they just keep on whining.
Anyways, plonked them in front of TV, :o whatever, and then realised I hadn't gotten chooks outta freezer for dinner, so as I write they are still cooking and hastily made pasta & salad to keep the hungry hordes at bay.
AF was due last sunday and as I don't expect a BFP so soon after m/c I think it is making me really tired which doesn't help matters.
God, sorry I'm such a sad sack, tell me some happy stuff to make me smile, pleeaasse. xxx

[FourAngelKisses]

:hugs: Check out the cute puppy....it'll make you smile.

http://www.news.com.au/story/0,23599,22050638-2,00.html

[PunkyDiva]

Ta Jeanette, that is too cute :) see I'm smiling.

[FourAngelKisses]

:smiliedeance: I'm good for something besides increasing the worlds population.

[mummyof5]

That pic is so cute!! Makes me want more puppies as well as more kiddies...Thanks Jeanette:thumbsup:

[eternalmaternal]

I have had such a long night:sleeping: Scarlett was so unsettled!!!!! I was thinking thats it NO MORE for me I just need to sleep:eek: I can't possibly keep going :banghead: and then I noticed a new tooth this morning and I got over it :laughing: Oh well poor little bubba, it was only one night, so what if I haven't slept for a year LOL I can survive on 3 hour intervals. For every negative I always come back with 2 positives. It is so funny really. Anyone else having definate NO moments and then talking yourself back around?

BTW love the puppy Jeanette!

[FourAngelKisses]

Anyone else having definate NO moments and then talking yourself back around?

Yep, at least 5 times a day, lmao.

Sorry you had a bad night, I hope you can get some rest today and have a better night tonight. :hugs:

[forbetoel]

Yes, I do have moments of "no more babies" This happens in moments like this: when I am trying to get out the door for school, and we can't find hats, drink bottles etc, we are running late, then the baby does a poo, there is no time to change him, but i can't leave him like that, so I quickly change him, telling the other three to get in the car, and to not worry about drink bottles today, just drink from the bubble taps, meanwhile number 3 has just found a nice big puddle to play in on the way to car, and now I have to change him!
But... then they are off at school and everything is calm, I am holding my baby and think... ooohhh I love you soooo much, you cant be my last buba wubba, can you?

[eternalmaternal]

Lol, They always seem to have a poo just as your trying to get out the door don't they?

[FourAngelKisses]

lmao sounds like my mornings while doing the school run.

[mummyof5]

I seriously think that getting them in and out of the car has to be the worst part of big families:yes: . Though in saying that, at least the older kids can now do up car seats, so they are usually on getting younger kids into seats duty for the school run/family outings.

[forbetoel]

I won't catch up with you girls for a few days, I am going on a girls wekend away. I leave luchtime Friday, and will be home on Sunday. I have never been away from the kids overnight before, but I am determined to enjoy myself. I have told DH to not ring me, unless one of them have been hospitalized. LoL

[mummyof5]

Oh, do enjoy yourself!!! I have had the odd times away wthout mine, think it's good for DH and the kid's relationship, and my sanity, lol. Have fun!!:smiliedance:

[FourAngelKisses]

Enjoy!!! You deserve the break away.

[eternalmaternal]

:babydust2: cool new smilies:babydust2:

Josie had a school friend over today. We had a great day. Craft, cooking, outside games and the girls put on a play for us.
The weather was lovely it wasn't:rain: or:snow: hahaha!

I have them all asleep already. All tired out. I am so glad I have a large family!!!

[Roopee]

I won't catch up with you girls for a few days, I am going on a girls wekend away. I leave luchtime Friday, and will be home on Sunday. I have never been away from the kids overnight before, but I am determined to enjoy myself. I have told DH to not ring me, unless one of them have been hospitalized. LoL

OMG!!!! How did you manage that one??!! Im incredibly jealous!
Have a great time!!

[forbetoel]

I am back now! About 30 of the mums from school go away once a year, and this was my first year going. It was great, good company, food, wine and heaps of laughs. DH was happy for me to have a break, I am a sahm, and DH thinks if mummas happy, everyone is happy. SO TRUE!!!!!! I did miss the kids badly though.

[eternalmaternal]

Good on you :yelclap: Glad you had a good time. I really would like to have a weekend away but always get cold feet and I work 2 days a week so that is my time out already so to speak. I would have to take Scarlett with me if I went away as she is still breast feeding :yes: .

[Starlet]

Wow this thread moves fast when you don't check in often LOL.

I am starting to freak out! DP works away(2 weeks on, 1 off) and he goes back on Thursday after 7 weeks of leave(he took time off for bubby's birth). So it will be my first 2 weeks alone with my three boys. Oh lordy, what have I gotten myself into?!

I used to be early getting DS1 to kindy, but I have a feeling I am going to be late all the time now lol.

[Josh]

I am so glad that i am not the only one with the getting kids to school problem, my kids always pick this time to suddenly become wild animals,they always lose something right when we are trying to get out the door, and my 4mth old and 17mth old always cry non stop the whole time.Anyway because i have so many kids i have call in my dear mum to help (what would i do without her).Anyway does any one know about the story on a current affair tonight about the large family giving budget tips, i want to watch it if i can.

jodie 37, DH 42:D
DD Rhiannah 17
DD Biankah 16
DS Dane 11
DD Alisha 6
DD Azminah 5
DS Zahid 3
DS Zhakri 2
DS Khalid 17mths
DS Azhar 4mths:yelclap:

[Starlet]

Oh I haven't heard about the a current affair segment, might have to watch it tonight.

ANd I'm so gonna stop complaining, if you can do it with 9 kids, then surely I can manage 3! Amazing! :)

[eternalmaternal]

I drafted a xmas pressie list for the girls last night:idea: and was wonderring how you other girls go? How much do you allocate per child? approx how many pressies etc:detective: TIA
I have decided to downscale our extended pressies this year(friends etc). I am going to make alot. It is a cost save, a brain save and an escape from too much consumerism all rolled into one:laughing: .

[forbetoel]

I tend to spend more on the older two, but that has more to do with the fact that the things they like ARE more expensive. For my baby, I really just get token presents so that the boys don't get sus, because as you eternalmaternal will know, having all of the one sex limits ideas for gifts, because by the time Number 4 comes along, they already have everything from the older ones, and there are just no more toys, and no more room for any more!! I have cut down in recent times, because my kids were getting too spoilt, so I think I will budget for between $1000 to $1500 tops. (and only about $200 will be on the youngest) Although if I find some good bargains it could be less. My boys dont need anything, so I am really struggling. I usually get them one main big present, and then about 10 smaller ones, including DVD's, board games, computer games, bathers etc etc. I am also trying to be more concious of the comsumerism factor, we live in a "want it, have it now" society, so I really don't buy toys for my boys during the year, only for birthdays and Christmas, so if they really want something, they have to wait.

[MyFab4]

I spend between $250 and $300 on each child. Outside of our family we only buy for nieces and nephews and our parents. I don't set a certain amount of pressies and I let the older ones choose some of their stuff. Last we got a trampoline for them to share, a round one with the net around it. That has proven to be one of the best things I have ever bought, they use it everyday. It cost about $450, the net makes it expensive but it is the only way I would let them have one. To date we have had no accidents on there so the net is proving to be worth the extra money.:D

[forbetoel]

Those tramolines are great, my boys have a normal trampoline and love it, but I was thinking of upgrading to the one you described lee.

[vikki a]

I spend about $150 per child on my kids. Most times we don't spend that much on my step son maybe $100. ( DH's idea) Not because hes my step son, but because he has his mums prezzies and my MIL always spend's more on him than she does on the rest of the grandkids. ( Which is not fair, but he's her favourite...)

[FourAngelKisses]

QUESTION: this came up in another thread and it is really getting to me.

If, for example, you were given the choice to get something for or done for one of your children, would you decline the offer if you couldn't do the same for your other children??

The topic of discussion that I am talking about was the rotarix (??sp) vaccination. I said that I wouldn't be getting it done for Troy as I would feel like I were choosing him over the other 3 children. Plus I couldn't afford it anyway.

What are your thoughts? I can't even buy a matchbox car for Matthew without getting one for each of the other kids as I don't like to play "favourites".

[vikki a]

Im sorry but whats the rotarix vaccination?? I have'nt heard about that one i don't think.

[mum2my4]

4AK - If all my kids can't have it I don't do it. I did this with the chicken pox vaccine. The older ones didn't get it so neither did the younger ones.

If you can't afford it, you can't afford it. Simple.


:hugs:

[Starlet]

I always do it for all the kids otherwise I won't do it at all(except for some things regarding DSD as her mum won't let me).

But if I buy clothes for one, I buy some for all, etc.

[Jodiee]

Nope, if 1 gets it, they all get it, that goes for everything..

Mine didnt get the chicken pox vax either..

I totally agree, its not fair to give it to one, and not the other 4, iykwim..

[FourAngelKisses]

I knew it was something large families would understand...thanks ladies!

[eternalmaternal]

So nice to have this thread with others who understand us:thumbsup:

[MyFab4]

I have gotten vaccines for one and not the others before. I got DS2 the chickenpox vaccine and had to pay for it. The older 2 had already had chickenpox so I didn't see the point in getting it for them. Its now free and DD2 will get it when she's old enough. Also the Hep B needles were not offered to all babies when my older 2 were born they can get it when they are 13, but DS2 and DD2 have had it because it was offered. I didn't feel that I was being unfair to the older 2 as it wasn't offered but I would have felt it unfair by denying the younger 2 just because it wasn't available to the older 2, if that makes sense. I do try to be fair to all the kids but again if 1 child needs something and the others don't I will buy for just that child. When it comes to treats and things tho its everyone or no one.

[mummyof5]

I gave my 2 oldest children the meningacoccal (sp??) vaccine that was offered at school when they were in VIC a few years ago. The 3 youngest ones don't have it. My kids aren't vac'd at all except for that shot, but I felt it was a good one, as they can get so sick so fast....but the others don't have it as I coudn't afford it at the time (and no.5 wasn't born then either).
I do believe in playing fair, but there are times when one will get something the other's don't, not usually from me, but they all have friends who have different family set ups and things, plus sometime rellies will take one or two for a while, so they may go out or get treats while with them. I try not to make a note of it and don't let the child who got the extra bit rub it in (more of a prob with the older 3 at this point), but it is gonna happen in their lives, to they have to get used to it sometime.
As for Christmas, well I have about $600 worth of layby's on already, haven't been to target yet, though some of those things will become birthday presents too...and some will get returned before christmas even happens cause I will realise one child has heaps more than everyone else! I don't keep a $ amount anymore, found it far to stressfull, LOL. I try to make it so they all have roughly the same, though as has been said, older kids want more expensive things....this year we have lots LESS space so am seriously culling the amount of toys and stuff. Am encouraging the older kids to get alarm clocks, things like that which end up being usefull to me, but we'll see. Eldest is keen on an ipod or mp3 player with picture screen, so that will probably be for his birthday, then a stereo he can plug it into for christmas.

[forbetoel]

Hi everyone, is everybodies kids back at school now? It was good to have the break, but I like to get back to my routine aswell. I am getting a bit sick of buhub, so I hope this thread doesn't die off, because I love it. I am just finding that in general, a lot of the people who post are quite nasty and argue over the most stupid things. I think some people may use hubbub as their main source af socializing, which is a little worrying, and they get paranoid about people not liking them, and of being ignored. I have said it before, and still think it, that hubbub can be a bit like a "cyber highschool!" Don't get me wrong, a lot of the ladies are lovely, but a lot are not at all. There is nothing wrong with disagreements, but recently I read of a women telling another to not be proud of being a chef, because it is not really highly qualified, and another told me that all the "working mums" are paying their taxes so that I can be at home with my kids. It just shocks me. Do you girls think that maybe some people on bubhub say things to make themselves feel better about their own situation, to make themselves feel important??? I think maybe I should feel sorry for them, instead of being offended??? Anyway I like this thread, whether we work or not, bottle of breast feed, cloth or disposables, we don't care less. Why would anybody care what other mothers are doing, unless it is as I said to make themselves feel better??? Just a thought, my winge is over! Hope everyones kids are happy and healthy, we all have colds that keep yo yoing around. It can take over a month for colds to do the rounds in our house!

[eternalmaternal]

I hear you 4B2L :yes: I take bubhub breaks now. I have learnt not to worry too much about the negativity. People definately seem to lose inhibitions on the forums. I love this thread :thumbsup:

Wow Monday was a nightmare :hair: Getting everyone organised and back into our routine, today was a little better.

One of the worst things about large famillies is how long it takes to shake off flus etc. Hope you get rid of the bug soon 4B2L and hope everyone else is well too.

[mummyof5]

Hope you are all better soon 4B2L, we had a 24hr bug going through the whole family on the weekend...not much fun at all!!!
We woke up at 8.35 this morning, of course it was a morning when I needed everyone to be on time as I had an appointment at 9.30...always the way, isn't it? Needless to say, I looked like this:hair: by 9.15 when the kids made it to theoffice to get signed in!!
The only bad bit about getting back into the school routine is back into the after school routine...like footy and dancing, and speech, early intervention and stuff through the week days!!! Oh well, I still have MOnday's and Friday's to fill up.:laughing:

I hope this thread keeps going too, makes my day sometimes.:yes:

[eternalmaternal]

VENT WARNING!!!

I have been feeling hurt lately by the population control police :gloomy: . I hate feeling bad for my large family:thumbsdown: . I understand the way forums work and appreciate freedom of speech but the arguement just really upsets me :crying: . I know I should stay away from threads and forums when they make me feel this way but I just can't:banghead: . My babies are my prized possesions and when remarks are made I can't help but be offended. I can't imagine life without dd3 and dd4. Must be rambling now so just want to blow a raspberry at anyone who looks upon us with such criticism and thankyou all once again for the support this thread gives me.

[forbetoel]

Eternalmaternal. what sort of negative things have people on bubhub said to you about having a large family? Some people are just jealous that they are having trouble with 2, and here you are with 4 beautiful girls, and enjoying it. I think the best thing about this thread is the fact that, we didn't let money get in the way of our big, beautiful families, even if some of us have had to go back to work to manage it. I hate when people say "we would love a third, but we just can't afford it" and I know that their husband earns way more than mine! GGGrr!!! Why don't they just say that a third child is not their main priority, why does it always have to be about money. I find it hard on one wage, but I would find it hard even if I only had 2 kids, and I think all you working mums with a large family are amazing, I could not be organized enough! Eternalmaternal, and all you others with big families, "WHAT WE HAVE MONEY CAN'T BUY!!!" And for all their negative comments, we all secretly know that the experience and joys of a large family, and the gift the siblings are to each other, is enough to sometimes make you feel giddy with love!! (but the next second giddy with insanity..LOL) Stay safe everyone!

[mummyof5]

I hate when people say "we would love a third, but we just can't afford it" and I know that their husband earns way more than mine! GGGrr!!! Why don't they just say that a third child is not their main priority, why does it always have to be about money. I find it hard on one wage, but I would find it hard even if I only had 2 kids, and I think all you working mums with a large family are amazing, I could not be organized enough! Eternalmaternal, and all you others with big families, "WHAT WE HAVE MONEY CAN'T BUY!!!"

:yelclap: Couldn't have put it better myself!! If I had more money, I would build a bigger house - so I could add to my family!!!
Chin up ladies, you are all doing a sensational job and have beautiful children who feel loved and wanted, what more can anyone ask?

[MyFab4]

Hi all,
We have the cold thing going around at ATM too.4b2l I know what you mean about some of the nastiness on here. I tend to steer clear of certain topics on here. Fair enough everyone has an opinion and thinks they're doing things the right way, but what they forget is there is more than one right way, its different for everyone. Some people think their way of doing things makes them a better parent than someone else. Some people are just so judgemental of others.
EM I symathize with you, I find it hurtful too. I get little digs even from family. Like how expensive kids are and how 3 is more than enough. They use other people as examples but I'm pretty sure there's a message in there for me. We don't own our home, we are only renting but family is important to me and you get sick of being made to feel irresponsible for having more than 2 kids. Truth is if was all about the money and not affording them than we probably wouldn't have any kids.
Just a few questions for everyone about extended family. How often do your kids see their grandparents? Do they live close by? Just wondering because I feel my parents don't really have alot of time for my kids anymore and they only live about 15 mins from us. Will post more about it later.

[vikki a]

Hi ladies,
I hope everyone is well.:)
I haven't come arcoss any nastiness on here.( As yet,thank goodness) Dont take it to heart, they don't know you and your family... We know whats it's like to have our big beautiful familys, with all the love in it, so thats all that mathers...:hugs:
Anyway, my kids see my DH's parents about once a week. If i need them thier just a phone call away... On my side we see my dad about once week, dont like to go see him much more than that as he is unwell and can't see very well anymore. And the little ones get under his feet. And my mum we can see her once a week to nearly everyday, just depends on whats happing here... Shes on speed dial..HEHE

[mummyof5]

We don't see the IL's that often, as they live 4 hours away, but we see them for longer, as the MIL will come and stay for a week or more, or in the hols she will take some of the kids to her house etc.
My olds both still work full time, so I see my Mum regularly, but only for short visits, sometimes for tea or I pop in to her place or vice versa. Only see Dad every few months as he lives in Sydney and works 3 out of 4 weekends. His wife is very house proud,so we DON"T go near their house if at all possible, not Jock friendly!! Talk to them all regularly though.

[forbetoel]

My parents see my kids every other day, and the kids are always happy there. My mum lets them make cubby houses out of sheets and blankets in the lounge room, and just lets them be kids. They love my mum and dad as much as they love me and DH. On the other hand, DH parents see them every so often, they miss out on a lot, but the kids have the best grandparents in the world in my parents, so I don't really care, it is their loss!

[eternalmaternal]

I was referring to a thread on another forum
atm :rolleyes: But here is a link to the same arguement I have battled on here :thumbsdown:

http://www.bubhub.com.au/community/forums/showthread.php?t=89830

Most comments I don't care about, but this one gets me :gloomy:.

We see my dad 2 times a year. He is in the Blue Mountains and we are near Coffs. He works and has 2 hols a year. He comes here for one and we go there for the other. My mum and her new family live down the road. I see her every other week. Difficult relationship though. Jays parents live near here too. Long story with them aswell. They are genuinely nice people but drive me insane tbh. They love a drama iykwim. They are way more involved with there other grandkids than my kids. I don't think I really fit in. I am not too worried though LOL. I am happy with my bunch of "Environmental vandals"

[MyFab4]

Ah, yes I remember reading that thread now.
We see the in laws a couple of times a year, they live in Sydney, we're in Brisbane. We had a falling out and didn't see them for 5 years. We have been in contact again for about 2 1/2 years and we get along great now, better than ever. The only thing that annoys me with them is they didn't come up to see DD until she was 8 weeks old and spent most of the time staying at BIL's. She will be up as soon as their 2nd bub is born and plans on staying and helping out for a while. I just don't feel our kids are as important as their other son's kids but hubby has spoken to her about it and hopefully things will improve.
My parents on the other hand live in the next suburb and I see them once a week and that is only if I go there. The older 2 are usually at school and Ethan is at Daycare so they only see the baby. THey usually only come and see the others about every 4 weeks. I don't like to take all the kids there at once because I'm always on edge. Don't touch this, don't do that and my kids aren't badly behaved. The last time we went there for dinner was about 3 1/2 years ago, we never get invited. I used to have them over regularly for dinner but am sick of being the host. We used to have Christmas at our house every year and asked if someone else would have a turn, starting last year. So they all went away for xmas and we were on our own. Mothers Day this year we were meant to go to a park for a picnic but it rained. I got a message that morning asking if I knew of somewhere with shelter if not Mum was happt to cancel. They have a great outdoor entertaining area at their place mind you. I'm getting really sick of it and find it abnormal but I couldn't discuss it with Mum without her going off and turning it into an arguement. Will post more later.

[mum2my4]

Evening all :wave:

I haven't really been around here much lately. It seems like I have only missed the usual debates:rolleyes:.

Anyway, large families are beautiful. :yes:

:hugs: to all the large family mum's.

[forbetoel]

eternalmaternal, yes I just read the link, and what a load of cr@p!! I did notice though that the one mum who was so against big families, had lost two little bubs of her own. Just wondering if maybe her views more stem from her not being able to have a big family herself, and so has to justify to herself why it doesn't matter. I really think that when people have such nonsense views, that they're really is a deeper issue going on! Seriously look at big business, and then look at my family, all 4 in one bath, trying to make a tank of petrol last a fortnight, packing their lunch with no wrappings etc, etc. It really is laughable, and even more pathetic that some people want to believe it...but as I said..deeper issues going on!

[Josh]

Hi ladies, I think that i have been told that my family is environmentally draining on here before, but these people forget that my kids are also an asset to the economy, my 2 older girls already work part time, they are very environmentally aware, and they pay tax. Every one makes a decision how many kids to have, some have 1, and others have a dozen every ones choice.:D

jodie and hubby
and the 9 kiddies:D

[camille]

Hi all, I have just found this thread. I am quite amazed that my family is now considered a 'large family'. After my latest was born, I got a letter from Centrelink saying that I now qualified for the 'large family' supplement of around $20 a fortnight - since when has 3 kids been considered a large family? And how is $10 a week supposed to help? I am one of 5 children, I would consider that to be a large family!:laughing: :laughing:

[forbetoel]

It is just a sign of the times, where sadly 3 is no longer the "norm" that it once was. Also the government wants everyone to have at least 3 kids for population replacement in Australia, so I guess they are doing anything to get it. But welcome to this thread :)

[MyFab4]

My parents see my kids every other day, and the kids are always happy there. My mum lets them make cubby houses out of sheets and blankets in the lounge room, and just lets them be kids. They love my mum and dad as much as they love me and DH. On the other hand, DH parents see them every so often, they miss out on a lot, but the kids have the best grandparents in the world in my parents, so I don't really care, it is their loss!
Your kids are really lucky to have grandparents like that.

[forbetoel]

lee-77, I know, and I make sure my kids know how lucky they are too! I don't want them to ever take them for granted, I grew up very close to my grandparents, and I am glad my kids have the same. Life is so short, so the more love the kids get, the better, but I know a lot of kids are not this lucky, but hopefully they have a great mum and dad, which is the most important thing!

[eternalmaternal]

Welcome Camille:wave: , How many kids are you hoping for?

Thanks everyone:hugs: I know it is each to there own(thank goodness) I find the environmental arguement hard I guess I am "green" so to speak and I try really hard to look after our environment. Anyway I already have a large family so I may aswell have another now LOL!

You are really lucky 4B2L. It was my mums birthday today. I took the kids down there for a visit. I think we put them out a bit. Oh well I say. I had 2 very precious grandparents of my own. My mums dad who Josie is named after and my dads mum. Imogen has her name for a middle name. They are both gone now but were wonderful to me. I plan on being an involved and loving grandparent :fingerscrossed: I am around for it.

[forbetoel]

I have seen the beautiful pictures of your girls...You are also very lucky, I think it is quite sad that you feel you put your mum out a bit when you visited, but I think it will only make you more determined to be a great nana yourself one day!

[MyFab4]

I plan on being an involved and loving grandparent :fingerscrossed: I am around for it.

Me too. I know it shouldn't be grandparents responsibility to look after grandkids but you would think they would enjoy spending time with them. My older 2 are always asking mum if they can have a sleep over and she puts them off. When they eventually get to go its only 1 at a time. They are good kids and are now aged 11 and 8 and mum only turned 50 this year so its not like she's too old. I will say her and Dad do look after my brothers 3 1/2 year old child fulltime, my bro lives there too and the mum isn't really involved, but she won't allow any of us to help with her and she doesn't really encourage my bro to do much with her. There is no time left over for the other 5 grandchildren and it makes me sad. I know it is a difficult situation and people may think I'm being selfish but it upsets me that the kids want to spend time with Nan and she doesn't have anytime. I have 4 kids of my own and I still like to spend time with my nieces, I have changed them and fed them and played with them. I see it with my 4 year old, when mum does come over she'll ask him for a cuddle and he usually doesn't give her one he just runs off to play and last time i took him to mum's he had forgotten where her toilet was it had been so long. It just makes me sad:( for my kids, I had one set of grandparents that i was close too growing up and I want the same for my kids. Anyway off to get my kids some lunch now.

[forbetoel]

ETERNALMATERNAL- That thread you were talking about is up and running again! It makes me so angry that a thread like this is even allowed to stay open. How long do you think a thread of "small families breeding spoilt greedy brats" would last. Why do they allow threads that are there only to attack large families? It is not right, it is obviously only there to start heated debate. WRONG WRONG WRONG!!!!

[eternalmaternal]

I guess my link started it up again:banghead: The sad thing is this thread is much kinder and evenly argued than the other one I was talking about:crying: I wouldn't worry so much if I wasn't trying so hard to raise a "green" family iykwim:(. I think if they are so worried they shouldn't have any kids.I guess it is too late for me to worry now that i have already exceeded the limit. I would hate Laura and scarlett to feel there existance is frowned upon by society.

Scarlett is sick poor little thing. Imogen has the cold and has shared with her sister. Immy is nearly better now so hopefully it won't hang around long.

I am FAK atm and then its reading marathon and settle the girls for the night:sleeping:

[camille]

Welcome Camille:wave: , How many kids are you hoping for?

Thanks guys! Its a funny thing for me, I come from a large family (5 kids) and I always said I would never want to have a large family. Even after having my 2 older kids when I was in my early 20's I definately felt I didnt want anymore.

But now, after being married a 2nd time to the most wonderful DH and having my little suprise honeymoon bub 3 months ago, I would love to have more. In fact, at least 1 more!

[forbetoel]

camille- How come you didn't want a large family after coming from one, I am really interested to know, as my reason for wanting 4 was because I was one of 4 and really loved it!
You have obviously changed your mind now though! I think having the right partner can make all the difference on how many kids you are willing to have! Sorry Eternalmaternal, what is FAK, I am not up to date on a lot af the shortened words yet! Hope your girls feel better soon, I have just got rid of it from my household now(fingers crossed!)

[eternalmaternal]

FAK= feeding at keyboard:) I only just worked it out:laughing:

[camille]

camille- How come you didn't want a large family after coming from one, I am really interested to know, as my reason for wanting 4 was because I was one of 4 and really loved it!


There were a few reasons. One included the fact that my mother was abusive and often told us she didnt love any of us and I always thought that if there were less of us she would pay more attention to me and love me. Another was that I was brought up in a very strict Catholic home where we were not encouraged to be friends with our siblings, therefore there was a lot of jealousy and competition. In fact, I dont have a relationship with any of them today, not even my parents.:crying:

After counselling I realised that not all large families hate each other. I was scared of making my family environment the same as what I had when I was a kid. These days I realise of course, that your family is what you make it, the number of kids you have doesnt mean you love any of them any less.

As a result I have always tried extra hard to encourage my kids to have very strong friendships, because at the end of the day, family is ALL that matters.Valentine

[forbetoel]

Camille- Wow... no wonder you were turned off from having a large family. It sounds like your mother would have been like that regardless of how many children she had.
I on the other hand was also brought up Catholic in a very loving home, where each one of us was made to feel important,like we were a kog in the family wheel that wouldn't work without either one of us. We were raised to also look out for each other, and if when we are grown, one is having financial difficulties and another is well off to always help out. My upbringing has left me with a very close knit family, that I can always go to for anything, even money. My sisters and brother would give me their last $20, and I would do the same for them! How unusual to raise you strict Catholics and then abuse her children, do you think that maybe she hid behind religion? Anyway I am telling you about my positive upbringing in the hope that you do really see what an asset a big family is. And I am sure with your wonderful new husband you are well on the way to breaking the cycle. well done! Your kids will thank you for it!!!

[camille]

4boys2love - yes so true, it is her personality and yes she hides behind her religion, as her own parents did, having a son out of wedlock back in the 1940's, but badmouthing anyone else who 'sinned'.

Your family life sounded wonderful, just how I want to bring up my kids!

[MyFab4]

Hi everyone,
How was your weekend? I had my kids sick over the weekend with a virus or something. The older two are off school today still recovering. We have gone through our fair share of panadol. I'm pretty lucky though they don't get sick very often only the occassional cold or sniffle. Hope your weekends were a little better than mine.

[camille]

Lee_77 - I had the same thing, DS1 was sick yesterday with a throat infection, very high temps, vomiting, ergh..... :barf: tough work with a 3month old in the house! He is off school today and maybe tomorrow recovering. The last time DS1 was this sick was when he was 2 with a gastro bug, so we are very lucky -touch wood - they dont get sick often either.

:fingerscrossed: Hopefully he doesnt pass it onto the rest of us!

[forbetoel]

I thought I was over cold and flus, but now number 4 has one again, the 3rd one lately and the poor little thing has only gotten about 5 days rest between each one! Luckily my kids still sleep well when they are sick, they just want more cuddles, which is fine by me. :)

[forbetoel]

Now I have a vomiting 3 year old....oh well, these are the weeks that make you cherish the good times!!!!!

[eternalmaternal]

:hugs::hugs: heaps of hugs 4b2l:hugs: :hugs:

[forbetoel]

My 3 year old is asleep, it is freezing cold outside, and I have to take my 6 year old to Karate?????? I have decided to just take the baby with me, and leave Darcy(the sick one) with my eldest who is almost 8!! I will only be about 5 minutes while I drop him off. Question.... What age would you ladies do the same thing, I know we are all going to say different ages, but for me, my 8 year old is very sensible and knows the rules. He is not allowed out of the play room, cannot answer the door or phone. (I am gone longer to hang the washing on the line.) The reason why I have asked the question here, and not started a seperate thread is because you ladies would understand the logistics of dragging around 3,4,or more kids around all day, and especially when one is sick and it is freezing cold outside. If I posted a new thread I would just get abuse by parents of 1 or 2 who would not understand. I think it's cruel to drag Darcy out again! Anyway I would appreciate your views, even if they are different to mine. Thanks.
Oh and EM, thankyou for the hugs!!

[vikki a]

I think that 8 is a little young, but i do understand what its like with sick ones.. I think really it depends on the child too some 8 yr olds are more mature than say some 10 yr olds...
Anyway hope your little one gets better real soon
:hugs: we had the :barf: on saturday night with DD2...

[Josh]

My 3 year old is asleep, it is freezing cold outside, and I have to take my 6 year old to Karate?????? I have decided to just take the baby with me, and leave Darcy(the sick one) with my eldest who is almost 8!! I will only be about 5 minutes while I drop him off. Question.... What age would you ladies do the same thing, I know we are all going to say different ages, but for me, my 8 year old is very sensible and knows the rules. He is not allowed out of the play room, cannot answer the door or phone. (I am gone longer to hang the washing on the line.) The reason why I have asked the question here, and not started a seperate thread is because you ladies would understand the logistics of dragging around 3,4,or more kids around all day, and especially when one is sick and it is freezing cold outside. If I posted a new thread I would just get abuse by parents of 1 or 2 who would not understand. I think it's cruel to drag Darcy out again! Anyway I would appreciate your views, even if they are different to mine. Thanks.
Oh and EM, thankyou for the hugs!!

I understand 4boys2love, with as many kids that i have i have to leave my kids with just about anyone:laughing:,no seriously , i couldn't leave my younger ones with my 11yr old because he would most certainly hurt them in some way , they fight like crazy, but i have to bring my mum in of a morning just so i can take the 11yr old and 6 and 5 yr olds to school, so i do know how you feel.

jodie:wave:

[forbetoel]

Well I did it, and I timed myself, it was right on 5 minutes, Darcy was still asleep, and my eldest was right next to him. My 8 year old is very advanced in most areas, including school, I know I can trust him for the short time I am gone. I actually asked because a friend of mine has had 4 kids in 6 years (same as me) and will do the same thing if she needs to. If you had asked me 5 years ago what age, I probally would have said 10 years as well, but as Vikki said, some 8 year olds are more mature, as mine is. Anyhow hopefully I won't need to do it again for a while.

[vikki a]

Does any feel like thier drowning in washing some days?? I wash every day, but i rarly see my wash basket empty!! Its like if some one puts in one pair of socks, and 2mins later its gone from that to half a basket full:hair: Its like a never ending story!! Thank god for my dryer!!! The joys of a large family Hey!!!

[forbetoel]

Yes washing is a revolving story, you are never on top of it because by the time the last basket is clean and dry, the dirty clothes basket is full again. I am spending the day on the couch with the flu today, so the dryer is going for it at the moment. I can't even not do washing when I am sick, because then I will never catch up!!!

[vikki a]

I know that feeling,i can't even miss one day!!
Oh and i hope you feel better real soon to, its no fun being sick...

[Mumof6]

4boys2love... like others have said it all depends on the child... I would of left my eldest with a younger sibling at 9 or 10.... but the 2nd eldest is nearly 13 now... and id NEVER leave him LOL... He would destroy everything .

I think people do judge to quick on this subject though... Sometimes you just have to make a judgement call...

((HUGS)) to all the sick families. I hope you all feel better soon.


I also have sick kids... I'm so over this pregnancy. I'm now 11 weeks... Have to go to casualty twice a day every day, drip every 4 days.... I'm so physically and emotionally exhausted and this bub is 100% it for us. My kidneys are playing up, and Ive burnt a hole in my oesophagus from vomiting (sorry TMI)

And... I leave all but the eldest boy at home with eldest DD for these trips. NO WAY I'm taking all 6 kids to casualty ... It can take anything from 10 min to 3 hours!

[camille]

Does any feel like thier drowning in washing some days?? Thank god for my dryer!!! The joys of a large family Hey!!!

Totally agree!! It seems I do at least 3 loads a day, I couldnt do without my dryer - I dont even care about the electricity bill anymore!

[forbetoel]

Mum of 6- what is the problem with this pregnancy, I am exhausted just thinking about you! I am guessing it is from severe morning sickness? Is this number 6 or 7 for you, and what are the sexes. Hop you feel better soon :hugs:

[MyFab4]

Does any feel like thier drowning in washing some days?? I wash every day, but i rarly see my wash basket empty!! Its like if some one puts in one pair of socks, and 2mins later its gone from that to half a basket full:hair: Its like a never ending story!! Thank god for my dryer!!! The joys of a large family Hey!!!
yes we know all about the washing. I always say to DH if we had a bank account that filled up as quick as our washing basket we'd be set for life. It's hard with the water restrictions.

[vikki a]

yes we know all about the washing. I always say to DH if we had a bank account that filled up as quick as our washing basket we'd be set for life. It's hard with the water restrictions.
I have a front loader, so that helps:thumbsup: But it take's longer than a top loader:thumbsdown:

[Mumof6]

washing... i never catch up... hate washing, and hanging.. and getting in... and folding, ironing and putting away! If it wasn't for all of that... Id keep up! lol


Mum of 6- what is the problem with this pregnancy, I am exhausted just thinking about you! I am guessing it is from severe morning sickness? Is this number 6 or 7 for you, and what are the sexes. Hop you feel better soon :hugs:

I have extreme Hyperemesis gravidarum (ms) that medication isn't controlling. (and we are / and have tried everything... That is why I need the drip so often)
We were told after #6 not to have more, cause of how sick I get... so DH had the snip (sad day... but had to be done) 2 years later I fell. I'm telling myself it was meant to be... so we will give it a chance. This is #7 for us :)

I'm happy to have #7... I always wanted 8... But sometimes I think 'at what cost to my health and the other kids' They all suffer from me not coping atm

Oh.. I have g, b, g, b, g, b

[MADmumof5]

Wow mumof6, you are an inspiration!!! Well done! :yelclap:

I have not long ago had #5 and am having all those silly feelings creep back into my head about having another one. DH says "DEFINITELY NO" though which is a really sad, sad thing to hear. Sometimes I just sit and cry knowing that I will never get to be pregnant again. :crying: Silly I know.

Anyway looking forward to chatting with you ladies who also have large families. :thumbsup:

[eternalmaternal]

Welcome MADmumof5:wave:

:hugs: mumof6

Washing is a bugger!!! We don't have a dryer. We try to wash everyday or else we are in deep back log:laughing:

[mummyof5]

My 3 year old is asleep, it is freezing cold outside, and I have to take my 6 year old to Karate?????? I have decided to just take the baby with me, and leave Darcy(the sick one) with my eldest who is almost 8!! I will only be about 5 minutes while I drop him off. Question.... What age would you ladies do the same thing, I know we are all going to say different ages, but for me, my 8 year old is very sensible and knows the rules. He is not allowed out of the play room, cannot answer the door or phone. (I am gone longer to hang the washing on the line.) The reason why I have asked the question here, and not started a seperate thread is because you ladies would understand the logistics of dragging around 3,4,or more kids around all day, and especially when one is sick and it is freezing cold outside. If I posted a new thread I would just get abuse by parents of 1 or 2 who would not understand. I think it's cruel to drag Darcy out again! Anyway I would appreciate your views, even if they are different to mine. Thanks.

I hear you on this one...I am a pseudo single mum when DH is at work, either from MOn-Fri, or months at a time when he is at sea, so I actually leave my kids at home regularly when dropping the older ones to their sport activities on weekday afternoons...so I leave the eldest DD looking after younger ones when dropping eldest boy to footy and vice versa when she has dancing...if I am staying there, then obviously we all go. My younger two are developmentally delayed, and Jock's behaviour can leave alot to be desired depending on the day (he can be an :angel: too when it suits!), so sitting in the car for an hour isn't an option, nor is waiting at dancing or footy as he spends his time whinging to get out of the stroller or running amok if I do let him out, and Bronte isn't much better. Sometimes I am lucky and another parent will bring them home for me, but it's not often.
Having said that, the really fun part is the mad dash while they are at their activities...race back home, feed chooks, grab any washing left on line, put 2 littlies in bath, light fire, start dinner, get kids out of bath, run back up to get child from sport...no wonder I love the weekends!!
Oh and the washing - that's why we bought a 9.5 kilo washing machine, so I can actually get by without washing everyday, but I still wash at least 5 days out of 7...it's never ending!

[MADmumof5]

Wow you ladies are amazing!!!:yelclap:

I'm not game enough to enrol my kids in anything after school as I find it hard to make the only two deadlines I have each day (school at 9am and pick up at 3pm) :o

On another note, those of you that have 6 or more, what type of car do you drive to fit them all in?????:confused:

[tommylu]

ok,now i feel really bad,I only do 2 maybe 3 loads of washing a week ! and there is 6 of us !! we do however have a 7 kilo machine no dryer. oh and I do not and will not iron for 6 ppl. Its just too much work. lol.:rolleyes:

[forbetoel]

tommylu-I have a 7.5 kilo washer and still do 1 to 2 loads a day.... I must be doing something wrong? If you have 4 boys and so do I, our washing should be pretty similar, what is your magic trick? I would love to cut my washing down!

[Josh]

Has anyone seen the story of the dugger family in America, the mum has just had her 17th child, :eek:this family is amazing, and all the kids name starts with J, VERY STRANGE,.... I am losing it with all mine:hair: i don't know how they cope, oh well good luck to them.

jodie the mum of 9.

[soon2bmumof6]

Hi guys i am new to these forums and so glad that i found it. I am currently a pregnant working mum of five with baby six due in December. Every thing that has been mentioned in this thread i can relate to i do five loads of washing a day and still can not keep up.
Cheers Lisa

[forbetoel]

Welcome soon2bmumof6 :D Wow, 6 kids, you will fit in nicely here!!! What do you have, boys girls, both! Hope your pregnancy is going well :hugs:

[soon2bmumof6]

Hi I have 2 boys one is 15 and the other is 12 and three girls 9,5 & 2. My pregnancy is going pretty well except for some quiet strong braxton hicks which have seemed to have gotten worse with each pregnancy. Its nice to have people to talk to that are in the same family situation that we are. Everyone that we know seems to judge us for our large family.

[eternalmaternal]

:wave: soon2bmumof6

You will definately fit in here:thumbsup: How often are you working? I have 4 girls and manage 2 days a week....wish I didn't have to though:no: I just got home from a really crappy shift:( .

[soon2bmumof6]

I am working 3 school hour shifts per week. Work are really good I dont even have to give them notice when i want to go on maternity leave i can just go in and say that i am finishing when i feel the time is right. I think i will finish at the end of this month:smiliedance:. Because with the kids sports and after school activities as well as house work i do more at home than at work.:hair:

[MADmumof5]

Hi soon2bmumof6 :wave: - I wanted to ask you about something you said in an earlier post - about people judging you for your large family.

Why do people do this???? I can only imagine how you feel. :hugs: What type of things do people say to you? I really want another bubba (which would bring me to 6) but I am really concerned about what others will say. I mean I am sick of the snide remarks I get now, so another baby would definitely bring some more comments. :banghead:

Then I think - well bugger them, I'm having the babies, not them.

I think you are wonderful for having so many anyway!!! In fact, I think we are all wonderful for having so many!!!

Anyone else get those rude stupid comments from others????? :confused:

[forbetoel]

MADmumof5, look back through this thread and you will find a link for great comebacks to negative comments, I think it was about 3 weeks ago. They are fantastic. :thumbsup:

[MADmumof5]

Thanks :thumbsup: I love a good one-liner :laughing:

[soon2bmumof6]

Hi Mad Mum
I get comments like how can you afford to feed them. Don't you know what birth control is? how do you cope? Not another one don't you know when enough is enough. Just petty snide remarks like these that really get under my skin. My children are all well mannered an very well socialized children that dont want for a thing. My husband and i decided this was our choice and our path in life and to bad what any one else thought. But the comments still hurt.
I think the fact that we are quite young makes it harder for people to accept that we have 5 nice children. (I am 30 and my husband 29). Well i just finished a 9 hour shift at work so i am going for a nice long bath have a great night everyone. I must check those one liners out so i have a good comment for the next smug remark.
Lisa

[soon2bmumof6]

P.S Hooray to Us

[forbetoel]

Alot of it is just jealousy, they can't cope with 2 so how could anyone have more? Negative comments are just hiding peoples own insecurities :yes: