Help!!!

[Jennifer85]

My son is one on the 8th of july and is a terror.
He slaps me and thinks its a game, at one stage i got to the point i started tapping his hand and saying no, but it was no use he thought once i smacked him it was his turn and would laugh at me. he thinks its a big game.
I dont want to smack him but im so lost at what to try next :crying:

[Seekrit]

Cobey's the same age as your boy.
when he slaps me (or pulls my hair, or pinches etc) I take his hand, I rub my face/arm/hair/whatever with his hand and say "You touch people GENTLY" you have to be pretty consistant but they do get it.

I'm also teaching Cobey the meaning of "Ouch" when he hurts himself I repeat "Ouch" and rub where he hurt, so when he hits/scratches/pulls my hair I say "Ouch!" and rub whereever he hurt me in the hope that he'll associate his hurt (ouch) with mine!

[mumma bear]

OK, i know he is small but have you thought of time out?

Maybe when he hits you take him and put him in his cot for 1 min and tell him you hurt Mummy, we don't hit.

You will have to be very consistent and do it everytime he does it. It is important for you to ignor him after the behaviour so that he doesn't think it is a game.

If you think time out isn't for you, what about putting him straight down and saying something like that hurt Mummy, mummy likes to play gentle and walk away from him and do something else. I am sure he will soon stop.

Like you said at the moment he thinks it is a game because he is getting a reaction from you that he likes, you need to change that to stop the behaviour.

[cwsmum]

I did similar to seekrit with both my kids. If they hurt me I would stop them and show them how to touch softly and say to them 'soft' or 'gentle'...also worked when teaching them not to hit the dog and cat :) If they hit/scratched again straight after I showed them how to be nice then I would sit them away from me and grab a book or something (even the tv guide) and tell them that I will play again when they can be nice.

[the_queen]

We have started singing songs that have lots of cuddly bits in them (that god-awful Barny song... "i love you, you love me, we're a happy family" etc :barf: but he loves it and it has big cuddles in it and it seems to make him go all lovey-dovey LOL)

Or how about something like a "high 5" when he slaps at you? Don't react negatively, just kinda move so you're not in the direct line of fire, put up your hand and say "HIGH 5!" (Borat voice is optional :D) and after 3 or 4 high-5's, he'll get bored and move onto a different activity.

[Seekrit]

I'll second qhat Queenie has said. :) Also when we went through biting.. I'd say "KISSES" as he launched his open mouth at my leg and he'd quickly change his tune :)

[Jennifer85]

thanks it helped heaps... now his gone to headbutting grrr lol.. i guess its just stages he will go through