How do you stop being overprotective?

[Can I?]

Sigh.......I made an idiot out of myself at swimming today. I actually snuck to the edge of the pool to adjust DS's goggles because I could see they were too tight. The teacher looked at me like I was a crazy woman - they specifically ask parents not to interrupt classes which is fair enough. I have never done it before, but I could see signs of panic starting. DS has autism and one of his major issues is hypersensitivity or his scalp and face. Tight goggles would be really painful for him.

I wish I could just leave it sometimes. But it's so hard. Other people just don't realise that if he melts down this morning, it not only makes him difficult for the rest of the day, but it sets him back in swimming for a couple of weeks if he doesn't refuse to get in at all next week.

I guess I will just apologise next week and get on with it. But it's hard to let go.....isn't it?

[westerner]

I wouldnt worry about it.. :hugs:

I think you done the right thing..

If you were interupting the class by pulling silly faces or something equally as silly then thats no good..
But you were simply trying to help fix your sons goggles in order to help him concentrate, have no pain/be uncomfortable and allow him to continue on with the lesson in a relaxed calm manner..

I wouldnt beat yourself up about it.. I mean would they have prefrred your son to have a "moment" instead of you quickly fixing it.. I wouldnt of thought so..

:hugs::hugs: Hugs to you.. You were doing what any loving, caring mother would do..

[nemosmum]

that imo is not being over protective,your just a mum intune with her child:thumbsup:


my son doesnt have autism but he is highly sensitive and i totally get what you mean
he feels things/experiences things much deeper/stronger than others and it effects his behaviour:yes:

:hugs: dont stress you did the right thing for your child!

[SassyDiva]

Dont give yourself a hard time hun, sounds to me like your a beautiful mum.

Explain to the teacher next week cause they need to work with you :thumbsup:

[MamaRabbit]

I think it is great that you are so in tune with your son. My son has special needs, I am his voice, his body and at times I need to anticipate what he is thinking. If I am on top of my game I can prevent lots of disastrous situations and moods!

Don't make too much fuss about it, let the teacher know how things are in your world and I'm sure you will be able to work together in making the swimming lessons enjoyable for him.....after all you know your son best :)

[MountainGirl]

you did the right thing,... after all, if he couldnt concentrate because his goggles were getting constrictive, then what would be the point of the swimming class?

[Can I?]

Thanks everyone. I just felt like a knob when she gave me a huge dirty look.

I have decided not to apologise.....I don't really think I did anything wrong. I will just pretend nothing happened this week - but check his goggles before we leave home to make sure they are the right size.

I feel so protective of my gorgeous boy - sometimes too much I think - but I guess it is my job. He gets a break from me when he is at kindy ;)