Shocked by my family...

[SweetSerenity]

I have not felt so low in such a long time.

As some of you know from my thread earlier today, I have made the decision to move to Wollongong from Penrith next February when my lease runs out.

Its only an hours drive approximately from Penrith, so not that far.

So knowing that it's a definate decision (as I have pondered it about for over a year) I thought I would tell my family and friends.

I rang mum to tell her and after I told her she couldn't get off the phone quick enough. She went all quiet and barely said anything then said goodbye :(

Then I saw my cousin on msn earlier and asked her if she got my message... she said yes. That's it. I asked her what was wrong and she went on to say "It's not a good decision." I asked her why and she just replied with "It's just not!".

How on earth does she know whats a good decision! She's 20yrs old, doesn't have a child, lives at home with her parents and isn't even working at the moment. I'm so mad and hurt.

Why is it I got their unconditional support and love when I fell pregnant at 18, when I got back together with my ex husband last year after a nasty separation... yet the moment I'm going to do something good and positive with my life and I get the cold shoulder.

I haven't even heard from mum since this morning.

I understand why mum's upset as she doesn't want us to go and she won't see peter as much but why can't she be happy for me?

I'm only going to be an hour away.

I'm so hurt by my family and they have never hurt me in my life:gloomy: :crying:

[ButterflyMama]

They just want you near them! They're going to miss you.. that's all it is. I don't really think they are thinking longterm, it's just their initial knee-jerk reaction - don't let it bother you. I'm sure they'll come around soon when they're over the shock and are ready to listen to your real answers and reasons. I think you're fantastic! :hugs:

[missie_mack]

Not to worry. I'm sure they will come around. Its a whole mindset thing. My inlaws live on the South Coast and they carry on like DH moved to Sydney when he moved into my house in Shellharbour (45 minutes away). We always tell them it takes 45 mins to drive to my Mums in the Northern Suburbs but still they don't understand. Just set aside one weekend a month and make sure you visit them and after its established suggest they travel every other month. I'm sure they will come around once they spend some time in the Gong.

[GraceUnhearing]

im in wollongong.
its nice place to bring up a family :D

but why choose here?

theres not to many jobs here unfortunatly :no:


when you move we should meet up for a coffee or something :D

[punkbaby]

i am sure she will come round my mum did the same when i told here we were moving, so much so she literally moved 4 hours away..i was moving 1 hour away.

Maybe she was shocked or maybe they feel that you need them not sure really but do what you feel is right :) you gotta be happy yourself not them

[our little treasures]

I think they will miss you. They also probably feel hurt that they have been there and now your leaving them!!

[SweetSerenity]

im in wollongong.
its not a bad place

but why choose here?

when you move we should meet up for a coffee or something :D


I love wollongong... its always had a special spot in my heart.. sounds corny, but i love everything about it.

You get a chance of a great lifestyle, your kids live near the water and its similar pricing to here in penrith ... I have always wanted to move to the gong :)

And yes when i come we should definately do coffee!

[brooke]

:hugs: I hope your family understand your desire to do your own thing and support you soon. Its hard moving away from your family but like you said.. your only an hr away. Thats how far I am from my mum ATM. Its hard as i was always used to being 5mins from her! But it has also taught me to be more independant and not rely on her so silly things!

[Percy]

I really love Wollongong too. My dear uncle lives there and i had alot of happy trips there on school holidays.

I can understand that your mum wants you to stay close, but i certainly dont think they are being fair on you.

Good on you for taking this big step. If you know its right in your heart, then go with that. Hopefully your family will come around!:hugs:

[the_original_duchess]

:hugs: i hope they come around. they will, it'll just take time.
i had a fight with my mum last night, and i told her i was moving to woywoy, and she did the same thing. just stopped talking to me and then this morning came over and asked me if i was still going.
im not, its not an option atm.
just give them a little time and space and things should be right again soon.
Danielle

[pookiesossige]

Good on you for coming to the decision that's right for you!!
Far out, if we never moved even SLIGHTLY away from our parents, each generation would end up just living on top of each other, never venturing out and making lives in different areas... ugh... boring!! I have heard that the Gong is a great place to live- and I'm no where near there!! So go with your heart and all the best!! :D :hugs: :yelclap:

[Becteria]

Oh, Nat how sad that they cant react positively to your big decision....

Dont be hurt, they are most definately shocked. For me the reaction would make me more determined (pig headed capricornian!)

[SweetSerenity]

Thanks so much everyone:hugs:

Mum is trying to talk me out of it but is slowly accepting my decision... my cousin i havent spoken to since our argument which makes me sad but im not apologising for wanting to better my life.



For me the reaction would make me more determined (pig headed capricornian!)

LOL!

It has done EXACTLY that.:yes: Being the scorpion i am heheh:devil6:

[SassyMummy]

I think it's a perfectly normal reaction.

They love you and your son too... and you moving away might be better for you, but it's not better for THEM. I think it's natural to see how things affect YOU before you think about how they affect someone else... so they're not going to see it as you getting a new start... but rather you leaving them.

Hopefully time will help... but I'm sure they'll always prefer you stayed. That's not a bad thing though - it just means they love you and want to be around you. It would be far worse if they said, "Oh, good," and couldn't wait for you to pack your bags.

They just love you and will no doubt miss you.

[LilShenanigans]

Glad to hear your mum is coming around... Everyone else will follow suit shortly.

Everyone in my family were pretty annoyed I was going to move, I had decided on it months ago. My sister was peeved because she couldn't "kill two birds with one stone" (visiting my dad and me on the same day), my dad was worried for me ( :rolleyes: ) being so far away, and my mother and bestfriend offered to pay my rent to keep me here!! lol
Basically, my sister, mother and bestfriend have realised it's a bloody good excuse for a night or weekend away (they can sleep on the couch during summer ) and my dad visited with family and enjoyed the local RSL club... and is now a member:thumbsup:
Oh and my mother and grandmother should be coming up next week once they decide on which hotel they'd like to try out first :o lol

If it takes a little more coaxing, just tell them it's a cheaper lifestyle (compared to Sydney some of it actually is) and better for childrens health not to be exposed to that much pollution...