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I'm feeling so down that the thought of writing out everything that is going through my head is exhausting.
Suffice to say I am so tired of my MIL and her antics.
I've had a crap week @ work... boss constantly complaining about petty things and making life miserable.
I don't know why I let her (MIL) get to me. I mean, I know what she's like and thought I could deal with all the crap. I thought wrong.
Find out that MIL said to MY mother: "I wanted my son to marry my best friend's daughter but it's too late now. SHE'S (me) pregnant."
Why is this so depressing to me? I keep feel hot and all uptight and my chest hurts everytime I think about it. I feel so miserable and know that I shouldn't let her "beat" me by letting this affect me and being that I am 21 weeks pregnant you'd think she'd be happy and wanting to get along with me but all I get is this steaming pile of manure on top of all the other manure I've had to swallow these past years.
I just want to cry and scream and lots of other unproductive things.
All I can say is it will get better, just hang in there and dont stress too much.
Just keep your chin up and rub your tum for positive thoughts :)
We have all been down in the dumps and feel like its never going to get better....... so dont feel alone.
Im not much help but I dont know what else to say except I like your quote at the bottom of your signature :D very funny!
:( I understand the MIL situation and being pregnant..mine told me she didn't want the grandchild growing up like me a Bstard..And that we had set out to destroy her life by not being married and me being pregnant.......needless to say we didn't talk to her for close to 5 months...
You don't need it you don't have to put up with it but it does get to you, i cried for ages after she said that. I will never ever forget what she said! Anyway think of the positives that helped me, I thought about what I have in life, the baby growing inside of me and learnt to focus on other things.
She is still making the odd comment I really don't give a poo her problem and her issue, if your MIL wants to be miserable let her, you have something wonderful happening in your life!!
The boss situation, can't relate I had a great boss and now I am not working, but is it possible to talk to them?
I like your quote too :D
sounds like you've had a really crap week and things are just piling up on you. Possible for you to plan some sort of treat for yourself? Massage, beauty treatment etc? If other people aren't being good to you - you should be at least!
The problem with people like your MIL is that they get away with saying rude and inappropriate things because no one challenges them. The reason no one challenges them is that most people are polite and like to give the other person the benefit of the doubt (they didn't mean it in a bad way etc.). Well if she has continually made disparaging remarks you, your mother, and especially your partner need to make it clear it is not acceptable. She should start to see that she is the one who needs to change if she wants to play a role in your lives.
Good luck with it all!
Sweetdreams, firstly I'm sending you big (((((cyber hugs))))))
Sounds like you had a rough week with work and obviously your MIL's comments were totally inappropriate - even if this is what she thinks, she should never have said it to your mum!! I hope that your DH/DP and mum challenge her when she comes out with these hurtful comments.
You have a beautiful baby growing inside of you and very soon all of this won't matter as much as loving and caring for your new child.
Work will end soon in a matter of weeks/months and then you'll be having your baby, which is a great break from work, babies, what better distraction?
You MIL is missing out on creating a supportive caring relationship with you the mother of her new grandchild. She should be supportive of you at this special time in your life and if she wants to have a relationship with her grandchild, she needs to have one with you first. I hope your partner can support you and also make it clear to his mum, that she needs to treat you with respect.
Good luck, rub your tummy and hope you feel better soon. Z :)
Sorry about all the cr*p you are dealing with MIL's in general seem to think that being rude & impolite is the way to carry yourself !
I wont go into all the things my MIL has done but she still dreams that my partner & i split im sure of it although she has kept her mouth shut on the ONE matter for awhile now.
Dont let them upset you its not worth it especially with bubs coming into the mix.
Maybe you need to confront you MIL or as someone else has said at least have your partner do so as this is just something that she needs to move on with i think especially if you are all to have a somewhat happy family when bubs arrives !
With the boss situation i again would maybe even have a talk with him/her & discuss that you feel like things are being said that upset you or the likes because maybe it isnt meant to upset you (?) rather you maybe feeling a little distressed due to your MIL taking things the wrong way IYKWIM. We all have been there especially when pregnant ! I was always in tears over things to only find out none of it was ever directed at me etc.
Plus i always feel that if you make the effort to sort things out even if they dont come out the way you want them to that you feel a little better for venting etc.
Hopefully your understanding what i mean & i really hope you have a better ending to you weekend :)
Lots of support coming from me to you! I too am way too concerned what my MIL thinks of me! It is really hard to shake it off. You have my sympathies.
There were some good suggestions in pps about taking some time to really take care of yourself. They are good ideas and I hope you start to feel better soon. Remember that what matters is your relationship with her son, and that if you make him happy she should just butt out. Really, she should just butt out anyway! She is lucky to have you carrying her grandchild, a child she will no doubt love and cherish.
So, be gentle with yourself, especially while you are pregnant.:)
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