no 2s in toilet

[WeThree]

Does anybody know of a sure fire way to convince a toddler who is being toilet trained that doing a poo in the toilet is not a scary thing? my little one will proudly do a wee in the toilet, but when it comes to no 2s he freaks out and will hold it in till he can do it in his pull ups or on the floor somewhere. I have heard that this is quite common yet have received no advice to help him overcome his phobia. Has anyone had any experience with this? if so thanks in advance! :)

[xkwzit]

I'll be keeping an eye on this thread, as our DD1 also waits until her night nappy to do No. 2s. No amount of bribery seems to encourage her. We've tried small immediate treats, huge amounts of praise when she's done the right thing, phoning Daddy or Grandma to tell of the great news, star charts with a promised big reward after a few successes.

We've also told her that we don't like changing her nappy (which WAS news to her, but as she runs a million miles when her little sister has a dirty nappy - I guess she understands :confused: )

Anyway, lets wait for the magic bullet...

[Littlesmum]

We just began toliet trainging our son. I see it as such an exciting time and a time that should be taken as it comes.

I come from a family of 10 and my mum didn't force toilet training upon us, she took the theory that ' I didn't teach you to smile, and you managed to do that eventually, I didn't teach you eat, you managed to do that by your self too, However I encouraged you when you smiled and assisted when you ate.' The same went for potty training, she encouraged and assisted when we were ready.

The only difference she found was that boys took longer and were more lazier with it than girls. But none the less we are all fully grown adults and can all toilet our selves (lucky for us her theory worked) :)

However, you don't want a child to fear it like yours does and the only way we can get around that is to think like a child?? :rolleyes: Go with me here, i'm just putting it out there.... Maybe the sound of it dropping in is scary? Maybe the hole in the toilet is scary?? Has she expressed anything that may indicate why she's scared?

Before I bought anything for the toilet (and this may be to much information) we let him see us go to the toilet and yep, we let him look. He found it fascinating and was asking us to do it within days.

I tried putting my son on the toilet with one of those attachments that they can step up too and a smaller size seat fits under the regular seat. He won't have a bar of it other than to sit on it and pretend to wipe and flush. So I bought him a potty that sits beside the toilet. I let him run around with his nappy off (always in my view of course and only for an hour at a time) and he runs there himself.

Hope that helps somewhat
Regards
Lou :)

[mumof2girls]

I guess I'm a little out of place here as my girls are older (11 & 13) but I also work in childcare.

When it comes to toileting children I have found that all children are individuals and will go at their own pace. If your child likes to do #2's in his pull-up then let him but then take him and empty the pull-up into the toilet (sounds disgusting I know!) and then let them flush etc. Eventually they will feel comfortable knowing what is happening and will be happy to oblige you by using the toilet for # 2's.

It may take some time but it will happen, praise also goes a long way. : :rolleyes:

[WeThree]

thanks ladies :) Kay its funny you mentioned letting him do it in pull ups and then flushing it, because that is what i have been doing, hes still not doing them in the toilet but he likes to take part in this 'ceremony' lol. mumofboys love your idea about letting him sit on the toilet with the pullup on, will definetly be trying that one :)

[camstar]

5 years ago I had this problem and am glad to say it went away. Littlesmum had a point about the sound of it droping in, she hated it. So we put toilet paper in before she hopped on and no scarey plop sound! We also put up pictures of things that interested her (birds and bugs ect.) and that made it comfortable and interesting for her to be in that strange little room. Hope this helps but I know every child's different! Good luck.