Apparently it is my Fault

[Issey]

my ex DH says it is my fault our relationship is over as I always pick on him & monitor him. :banghead:

I have given him every chance for reconciliation and he has repeditively messed up. Including losing his wedding ring as took it off as too tight:devil6: , having a woman's phone number in his wallet and gambling and trying to hide it but....he has done nothing wrong...seems like a lot of bad coincidences.

I still can't help but feel bad inside that I have let my DS down that his Daddy won't be around.

I just feel sad atm :crying:

[mum2my4]

Just wanted to give you some hugs:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

I don't think most men can ever see that they have done somthing wrong.

[*munchkin*]

It takes two to tango...remember that.

And have lots of these :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[catalicious]

heres some fro me too :hugs: :hugs:

You havent let your son down as it will benefit him more to have a happy well-rounded mum than a sad stressed one who fight with his dad....

You will be fine just stay poisitive..
:thumbsup:

[MissBrightside]

Don't worry it's never their fault!:rolleyes:
I still get accused for my exs actions after 18 months of breaking up.
You know it's not your fault so don't let him make you think it is. You haven't let your son down at all so don't ever think that way. He deserves a happy mum and if that means you being a single mum, then so be it!
:hugs: just keep telling yourself you are doing a great job, I know it can be lonely and depressing at times, but it can also be very rewarding.

[Issey]

thanks, i know deep down it is the right thing for us to be apart.

i just wanted a happy family so badly :crying:

he can't take responsibilty for what he does so blames me i think. he says i don't give him a chance but he would then go spend the grocery money etc on bets and say he thought it was his money to spend as was in his account even tho there was an agreement on what money was available for entertainment :banghead: . so many broken promises:o

i am sorry he is so silly in giving up what he could have had i guess. :(

[EskimoMumma]

You can still have a happy family when seperated. Just not a nuclear one i suppose.

It is sooo not your fault, please dont ever think that or let him get to you!

From what I've read from your posts, your one awesome mum and you have absolutely nothing to worry about:hugs:

[jess_live_die]

aww :hugs: :hugs:
i think its a male thing they can never be wrong.
its not ur fault at all

[OneBabyBoy]

God, men suck.
Well, some men. They just really really suck.
:hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs:

[Baby Girl]

Most people can't see when they are in the wrong, male or female. It takes 2 people to make a relationship work and 2 people to cause its breakdown.

Your son will not suffer. He will be better off with 2 happy parents who are not together than 2 unhappy parents that are together.

The best thing you can do is talk to your ex and come to an agreement that nothing is to be said in a derogatory manner about either of you anywhere around your son by anyone, not just you or him. The 2 of you are the adults in this situation so you both need to behave like adults.
If you can work through the emotions and come to an agreement about time spent and how you are going to handle things when it comes to your son it will make the situation much easier in the long run.

It is a really hard thing to go through and it is emotionally draining but you will be as strong as you need to be to get through it. Lean on the people around you if you need to, talk to people and don't question that what you are doing is right or wrong.

Good luck, stay strong and keep your head up.

[Issey]

Thanks for the advice. I am feeling not to bad today, just a little gloomy but nothing serious :gloomy:

ex DH told me to transfer quite a lot of money into his account so I have done it, in hope that he won't get nasty later on.

only 2 days ago i gave him the front door key and now i need to get it back, i am a bit concerned about him having access to the house, not that I think he would do anything bad but just feel uncomfortable about it. i put the money in his account encase he came to take something to pawn for money so i think better to go along with what he wants as long as reasonable.

i feel so emotionally drained, not hungry and getting the flu :(

not sure what my next move should be.

[Mum&bubs]

Hey hun,

How can it all be your fault? Obviously he would have SOME part in it? Males huh? They are hard to work out and understand.

I really don't have much advice for you just wanted to send you some huge hugs :hugs: :hugs: Hope everything gets sorted for you and your gorgeous bub!

[grecksta]

oh debster,:hugs:

I have had man trouble at times on and off i feel so draining..:hugs: I feel you are so doing the right thing and i know you want to have the complete family for your child that is only so natural but it is so much better for the children to have a solid and happy home and not to witness tention and fighting all the time you rock babe:kiss: