Envy

[maiko]

I found out today that our receptionist here at work is pregnant. She's reasonably young, unmarried (but with her fiance), and I just feel a little rock in my chest of envy that she's having a baby when I'm older, married, in a better job and not having one. I know it was our choice and I know it doesn't really have anything to do with her, it just bites because I would have loved to be pregnant right now. I wish I didn't feel this way. :gloomy:

[neostudded]

What has this got to do with terminations?

[maiko]

What has this got to do with terminations?

Because the reason I'm feeling this way is because I had a termination recently.

[EcstaticEm]

Maiko Huge :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: :hugs: I am so sorry you went through this.

[Little Gorilla]

Sorry to hear you are feeling so sad about this.

Whatever your reasons for having the termination was, none of our business, but big :hugs: :hugs: to you.

[neostudded]

Oh Iam so sorry :hugs:

[susmamma]

I just feel a little rock in my chest of envy that she's having a baby when I'm older, married, in a better job and not having one. I know it was our choice and I know it doesn't really have anything to do with her, it just bites because I would have loved to be pregnant right now. I wish I didn't feel this way. :gloomy:

Oh I know that feeling.
What I would do is let that feeling roll over me, I'd let myself breathe in that yucky horrible jealous feeling and let myself just sit with it for a while. You know, instead of trying to squash it down or tell myself to not feel what I was feeling. Then after a few minutes of giving myself complete permission to feel that horrible feeling, I would take a deep breath and let the feeling out. A huge deep sigh....
Then I would think, how amazing it is for that woman to be pregnant and how amazing it will/would be for me when I fall pregnant and how excited I will be when it happens. And remember, we make the best decisions available to us at any given time. Show compassion to the past you, give her a hug.

Failing that, I used to find a good vodka lime and soda did the trick :D

[Little Gorilla]

Oh I know that feeling.
What I would do is let that feeling roll over me, I'd let myself breathe in that yucky horrible jealous feeling and let myself just sit with it for a while. You know, instead of trying to squash it down or tell myself to not feel what I was feeling. Then after a few minutes of giving myself complete permission to feel that horrible feeling, I would take a deep breath and let the feeling out. A huge deep sigh....
Then I would think, how amazing it is for that woman to be pregnant and how amazing it will/would be for me when I fall pregnant and how excited I will be when it happens. And remember, we make the best decisions available to us at any given time. Show compassion to the past you, give her a hug.

Failing that, I used to find a good vodka lime and soda did the trick :D

what great advice!!! especially the vodka part:yes:

[maiko]

Thank you ladies. Essentially it comes down to knowing the right decision was made given the circumstances but wishing the circumstances had been different. :no: Tomorrow will be a better day I'm sure. :yes: