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my fiancee is catholic and i am not the slightest bit religious (although i am christened as a luthren)
i know my fiancee wants a church wedding and i would like one too i was wondering if anyone knew where the church stood on marrying people who wernt religious? am i gonna have to pretend i want to be catholic if i want to marry him in a catholic church?
i only ask cause i remember when my god son was christened they (the church) didnt want me to be god mother because i wasnt catholic (mind you this was in a very small town where everyone knew everyones business)
If you have been christened, the priest will ask for a copy of the certificate, and there should be no problem - assuming you are happy with that.
DH is Uniting Church, I am Catholic, we just had to produce his christening certificate.
To marry in a catholic church, they will expect you to attend some pre-marriage sessions usually, and during the ceremony you have to promise to accept children as gifts from God, and that you will bring them up Catholic.
If you get married in the Catholic church then you must take catholic vows. Wouldn't you be contradicting yourself if you did this? I wouldn't see the point if you feel that strongly about it. A priest will have reservations and may decide not to marry you at all if you declare yourself as being atheist...
i'm catholic and my DH is a athiest
we got married in a church, was a all denomination church but the preist we had was catholic, I can' t remember having to do anything special apart from both agreeing that out children will be brought up as catholics
Neither DH nor I are active members of the churches that we "officially" belong to so it wasn't an issue for us. We chose a civil ceremony. Hypothetically though, if he were catholic and me an atheist, then we still would not have been married in a church.
It's just my opinion and the way I feel, but I think it would have been completely hypocritical of me to be married in a faith that I did not share or believe in. Ditto for having our children christened (or agreeing to raise them in a particular faith) or my being a godparent to someone else's child.
I'll be a guardian, but not a godparent. I can't promise to help raise the child and live my life as an example to a faith I don't share.
Yes you can. There is also a ruling (been around for about 8 years or so now), that if one partner is non-Catholic and the other is Catholic, then you can get permission to have a Catholic ceremony somewhere other than a church.
I was brought up Catholic and my Uncle used to be a Priest (was a Priest at the time DH and I were married). I had always wanted to have him conduct the ceremony, even though DH (non-Catholic) and I would have preferred a civil service. But we were able to have him perform the ceremony in a public garden due to this rule. We cut down the ceremony to the minimum religious stuff necessary, and chose readings from wherever we wanted (wherever we could).
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