View Full Version : Does your DP get up and feed in the night?
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 18:09
Obviously this poll is only aimed at bottlefed babies.
I am wondering if any of your men get up and do a feed?
How do you feel about the topic?
My opinion is they SHOULD. It's their child too. Regardless of if they have to get up and go to 'work' in the morning. I work too. I work 24 hours of the day. There's no knock off time for me. AND I have a baby who DOESN'T sleep during the day so I dont get any downtime. He can go get a coffee, talk on the phone for a while... Not me.
Anyway poll coming!
danielle13
18-06-2007, 18:15
Yep, my DP gets up waaaaaay more than I do :yes:
My DP gets up during the night mostly on weekend nights as he's up at 4am to go to work for a 13 hour day Monday - Friday.... If DD is unsettled for a long time - he also gets up to assist... I am lucky compared to many, and I appreciate his help.
:)
DH always did the night shift. He knew I was exhausted. I was really lucky.
yep. with our little boy who is 20 months old, he has gotten up for every feed since he was born, even though he goes to work every day.
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 18:26
OMG, this is amazing!
Did you ladies have to ask him to do this? How did this happen for you all?
MountainGirl
18-06-2007, 18:26
Sure does! I do the 23:00 and he does the 4am,...
chameleon
18-06-2007, 18:27
No he never has. To be honest I don't mind because I really wanted to breastfeed and hope with future babies I'll be able to, so I treat it just like that.
And he does work from 5.30am till about 7pm, 6 days a week and my days are usually pretty easy so I really don't care. I'd hate for him to go to work tired and fall off a roof or drill through his hand or something!:eek:
Sorry, my DH dosen't lactate :confused:
JessicaKim
18-06-2007, 18:28
For the first few weeks while I tried in vain to breast feed, he snored right thru it but once I started to bottle feed he would feed bub his bedtime feed of a night and on weekends would get up thru the night. When I went back to work we took it in turns thru the week. He doesnt mind doing it. he does better on lack of sleep than I do and he does not like what I become when I am overtired!!!! Suits me fine lol
he is right there with me for our twins too.
i did not ask, he just did it. he is an awesome father.:hugs:
FourAngelKisses
18-06-2007, 18:29
Yep, if he doesn't work the next day, he does. So I get a break 3-4 nights of the week.
Even when I was breastfeeding, he would get up and sit with me which was nice. He thought it was unfair that he got to sleep while I didn't.
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 18:30
Sorry, my DH dosen't lactate :confused:
Yeah I know.. which is why I said in the FIRST post this is obviously aimed at BOTTLEFED babies :o
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 18:31
he is right there with me for our twins too.
i did not ask, he just did it. he is an awesome father.:hugs:
You are really lucky hun!
You are really lucky hun!
I know darl, i tell him everyday how awesome he is.
I was not so lucky with my first son though. :hugs:
Well you can always express in a bottle....
:D
Grizabella
18-06-2007, 18:39
Stu did with Brion - and he will with this little fella too. No way in hell he or I would have it any other way :)
mum2bubba
18-06-2007, 18:41
No he doesn't and I am getting mad about it. Fair enough during the week I can let it slide a little coz he gets up early for work but he doesn't work on the weekend. I asked him the other morning (6am) if he could get a bottle for Skye (he had already been up for 40 minutes and was already showered and dressed) he says "oh, I have to get ready for work" (all he had to do was get his lunch which was a cheese sanga) I mean how hard is it to put a bottle in the microwave for 40 seconds?! :mad: :rolleyes:
One of the reasons I chose to ff was because I was hoping that he would share the load, I mean he won't bath her or change her (shes too small and fragile according to him) the least he could do was get up at 3am some mornings and feed her, he DOES feed her in the evenings IF I tell him but other than that I'm the one doing all the work when it comes to Skye.
Noah_and_Elijah
18-06-2007, 18:48
Yes my DF is more than happy to get up in the night to do the feeds providing it's not during exam time etc. (he is a uni student) which is completely understandable.
I'm lucky. I wouldn't function otherwise.
missie_mack
18-06-2007, 18:48
My DH is just brilliant in this department. I've always made sure he was fed until midnight and afterwards he felt it was his job. He always gets up real quick as so not to wake me. Which occassionally annoys me when he is tired and had a crappy day at work. When I was sick and breastfeeding he would just pop DS on the booby for some boobyjuice like a dreamfeed.
mum2bubba
18-06-2007, 18:50
Oh yeah and what also gets me p!ssed is that he complains that he doesn't get enough sleep but at least he gets to sleep all the way through, I'd love to have 5 or 6 hours of unbroken sleep (keep dreamin'). :rolleyes: :sleeping:
He says that I'm lazy (jokingly of course :rolleyes: ) if I sleep in but as far as I'm concernd if I am up all night attending to 2 kids I have a right to catch up on much needed sleep, at least when he goes to work he can relax or whatever, he can relax at home, as soon as I go to relax dinner needs to be cooked or the kids need to be bathed or SOMETHING comes up.
Sorry to have a whinge.
SamanthaJane
18-06-2007, 19:01
Charlotte stopped needing a night feed spot on 6 weeks. But during the first 6 weeks her dad (if he was here) always got up to do the middle of the night feed. No questions asked :yes:
I'd sometimes wake up at 6 and then omg she hasn't had a feed, but he'd be like - yeah she did. I'd slept through it all. Oops :laughing:
My opinion is they SHOULD. It's their child too. Regardless of if they have to get up and go to 'work' in the morning. I work too. I work 24 hours of the day. There's no knock off time for me. AND I have a baby who DOESN'T sleep during the day so I dont get any downtime. He can go get a coffee, talk on the phone for a while... Not me.
I breastfeed but GOSH, I would love it if DF even just got up to comfort her sometimes at night. DD wakes roughly 10-12 times a night... so I am absolutly exhausted- and like you, she doesnt like to sleep during the day (maybe 20mins if I am lucky)...
He gets full nights of sleep... sure he works, but she is his daughter too... and he doesnt spend much time with her, even when he is at home.
I guess his stance is that anything to do with the house or with DD is MY job, not his. :no:
Little_Toad
18-06-2007, 19:06
My opinion is they SHOULD. It's their child too. Regardless of if they have to get up and go to 'work' in the morning. I work too. I work 24 hours of the day.
Yes.. we "work" but we also get a chance to have naps during the day too if we need to. It would look a little bizarre if my DP took a nap on his desk at work. No travel time either.
On the weekends if I was very tired and needed DP to do a feed he would and during the first 2 weeks he did a few times.
I have a full time business I am running and looking after the toadlet but I'm still more than happy t do the night time feeds.
FourAngelKisses
18-06-2007, 19:09
Yes.. we "work" but we also get a chance to have naps during the day too if we need to.
What's a nap?? lol
Ashleigh<3
18-06-2007, 19:12
Yes, he helps a lot. We usually take turns and he usually has to wake up early for work.
We always did one feed each, or both feeds together :) DH loved feeding the boys. Nas he loved taking them out by himself and seeing the faces on the Mums in the parents rooms as he fed both the boys and read a book at the same time. lol.
He's an AWESOME Dad.. I'm very lucky to have met someone who loves being involved as much as he does.
The way he sees it... they are his kids too... so he should be doing just as much as me. :thumbsup: And he LOVES it... sometimes I think he's a much better parent than me... it just comes so naturally to him.
~Emmylou~
18-06-2007, 19:19
Yes.. we "work" but we also get a chance to have naps during the day too if we need to.
No naps during the day here. I have a two year old who's cut out her day sleep.
So I am up for the day at 6am with her regardless of what sort of night I've had with DS and she doesn't go to bed again until 7pm at night.
I also breastfeed but like Mokar I wish I got more help at night.
DS does take expressed milk from a bottle and I'd be more than happy to let DH give it to him at night. But it's just not worth listening to him moan about the lack of sleep the next day to bother pushing the issue :no:
Never mind the fact that I'm functioning on a few hours sleep a night and looking after two kids around the clock, 7 days a week.
At the moment I FANTASIZE about going back to full time work so I can sit on my @ss all day and have no one whining in my ear.
Sorry vent over :p
♥Heaven Sent♥
18-06-2007, 19:19
Sorry, my DH dosen't lactate :confused:
:laughing: thats exactly what i was going to say
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 19:20
Yes.. we "work" but we also get a chance to have naps during the day too if we need to. It would look a little bizarre if my DP took a nap on his desk at work. No travel time either.
Like I said darl I DONT get to sleep. If you didnt get that pls read my post again.
Thanks :)
SamanthaJane
18-06-2007, 19:23
Sorry, my DH dosen't lactate :confused:
That's why this post is in the bottlefeeding section.
FourAngelKisses
18-06-2007, 19:29
It was in the general chat section before tho.
SamanthaJane
18-06-2007, 19:31
Oops, sorry :D
allysophia
18-06-2007, 19:42
I WISH my DH could lactate! My god! I would send him out screaming, kicking, moaning (I wouldn't care :devil6:) to do ALL the night feeds whilst I.. :sleeping:
Fortunately DS is getting expert at BF at night and just lifts my shirt up, attaches and I can sometimes stay asleep.. Sometimes..
if only men could lactate (lazy ********!) but thats another thread altogether :laughing:
Snuffys Mum
18-06-2007, 19:47
If my husband and I had been together when Connor was born then YES I would definitely have expected him to help with night feeds.
If he didn't get up on his own accord, I would have woken him. :devil6:
OMG, this is amazing!
Did you ladies have to ask him to do this? How did this happen for you all?
He volunteered after he saw how exhausted I was. DS fed 2 hours on the dot. I said it was OK not to, only to have him say "He's my child too, I wanna help you" :D
FourAngelKisses
18-06-2007, 19:54
OMG, this is amazing!
Did you ladies have to ask him to do this? How did this happen for you all?
I didn't ask him :no:, he just felt that it was his responsibility to help raise HIS child, night feeds and all.
If he didn't, I would have kicked him out of bed and told him that seeing as he helped make the baby, could he please help feed it.
RaryGirl
18-06-2007, 20:28
Now DS is bottle feeding I'd love some help through the night - but DH doesn't even wake up! On the week-ends I actually kick him to make sure he's awake and say ..... "your turn!" :rolleyes:
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 20:36
Pls not: I am PMSL at ALL of these posts!
Oh yeah and what also gets me p!ssed is that he complains that he doesn't get enough sleep but at least he gets to sleep all the way through, I'd love to have 5 or 6 hours of unbroken sleep (keep dreamin').
He says that I'm lazy (jokingly of course ) if I sleep in but as far as I'm concernd if I am up all night attending to 2 kids I have a right to catch up on much needed sleep, at least when he goes to work he can relax or whatever, he can relax at home, as soon as I go to relax dinner needs to be cooked or the kids need to be bathed or SOMETHING comes up.
Sorry to have a whinge.
Don't be sorry. I feel the SAME way! Although my partner USE to get up. Not to feed but when Oscar had colic and was constipated if he woke at night DP would get up to him but now it has mysteriously stopped! :detective:
I guess his stance is that anything to do with the house or with DD is MY job, not his. :no:
I hear ya.. and it's a total crock of poo!
At the moment I FANTASIZE about going back to full time work so I can sit on my @ss all day and have no one whining in my ear.
:yes:
I WISH my DH could lactate! My god! I would send him out screaming, kicking, moaning (I wouldn't care ) to do ALL the night feeds whilst I..
Fortunately DS is getting expert at BF at night and just lifts my shirt up, attaches and I can sometimes stay asleep.. Sometimes..
if only men could lactate (lazy ********!) but thats another thread altogether
:laughing: GIRL POWER!
If he didn't, I would have kicked him out of bed and told him that seeing as he helped make the baby, could he please help feed it.
Nice idea. I just dont see why I should have to ASK or TELL. And if I do ask then I feel guilty. WTF!!!!
ifoundmyglory
18-06-2007, 20:36
He did, but now he doesnt because it isnt that often. But he gets the bottle ready & I feed him.
I dont mind though :D
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 20:37
:laughing: thats exactly what i was going to say
It is quotes like these that make me wonder if ppl actually read the question :confused:
Like I said in the very FIRST post...
"this is obviously aimed at bottlefed babies" :detective:
So if this post had to move, how come the breastfeeding question in general gets to stay there?
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 20:49
So if this post had to move, how come the breastfeeding question in general gets to stay there?
Which question are you referring to regarding breastfeeding?
I answered No but I wish he would. DH used to get up and feed DS1 and DS2 at weekends but now you must be joking he hasn't done one yet. I'm going to ask him what his problem is. It's starting to really annoy me that with DS3 he doesn't seem too bothered with him.
Which question are you referring to regarding breastfeeding?
About breastfeeding your 2nd child longer than the 1st.
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 20:59
About breastfeeding your 2nd child longer than the 1st.
Well I think thats probably a question for the mods as that thread has no relevance or relation to this one :thumbsup:
I did originaly post this thread in general chat but the mods moved it to bottlefeeding ;)
ButterflyMama
18-06-2007, 21:12
Chris and I take it in turns every night except Saturday, when he has to leave for work at 5:30 in the morning. For the first two weeks after Scarlett and I got home from hospital after her birth, he did all the feeds for me because I was too sore to get in and out of bed all the time. He is amazing, never heard a complaint.
Sorry, I'm fairly new...thought you might of moved it yourself or something...
Anyhoo, I did both and I never expected dh to get up because my babies did nap during the day and I always figured I could sleep then.
I definately made dh get up on weekends so I could sleep AND make me coffee and breakfast too. That worked for me. lol
Oh durrr I meant 'thread' not 'post'
mumx3littlies
18-06-2007, 21:33
Yes.. we "work" but we also get a chance to have naps during the day too if we need to. It would look a little bizarre if my DP took a nap on his desk at work. No travel time either.
On the weekends if I was very tired and needed DP to do a feed he would and during the first 2 weeks he did a few times.
I have a full time business I am running and looking after the toadlet but I'm still more than happy t do the night time feeds.
:laughing: You might get to have a nap during the day with one child to look after but once you've got 2or3 kids (or more!) daytime rest of any sort is pretty much a bygone thing:rolleyes:
LittleMissMel
18-06-2007, 21:44
HELL NO :mad: :banghead:... and man I wish he did. Many words have been spoken (...at a slightly raised decibel (sp?)) on this topic but 9 1/2 months on nothing has changed.
He has once.... I went out on a girls night. Got home about 3am, DD woke up at 4 and even though I was still a *little* drunk I still got up to her first and started feeding her. But he did come in and take over.... and so he damn well should have.
Apparently it isn't his "job" to get up of a night time.... but it is my job to do everything around the house and the majority of the time to look after her (<--- whole other can of worms... don't go there!!)
Anyway, back on track. I don't expect every night or anything like that. Once a month even would be nice :yes: or even once every 2 months, just more often than once every 9 1/2 months.
Mel xoxo
ps... this is a bit of a touchy topic in this house... you are lucky I didn't type it all in CAPS. lol.
IheartOman
18-06-2007, 22:12
HELL NO :mad: :banghead:... and man I wish he did. Many words have been spoken (...at a slightly raised decibel (sp?)) on this topic but 9 1/2 months on nothing has changed.
He has once.... I went out on a girls night. Got home about 3am, DD woke up at 4 and even though I was still a *little* drunk I still got up to her first and started feeding her. But he did come in and take over.... and so he damn well should have.
Apparently it isn't his "job" to get up of a night time.... but it is my job to do everything around the house and the majority of the time to look after her (<--- whole other can of worms... don't go there!!)
Anyway, back on track. I don't expect every night or anything like that. Once a month even would be nice :yes: or even once every 2 months, just more often than once every 9 1/2 months.
Mel xoxo
ps... this is a bit of a touchy topic in this house... you are lucky I didn't type it all in CAPS. lol.
I hear ya girlfriend.. hence the reason for me starting this thread!
KarniF00l
18-06-2007, 22:17
Every night, twice a night, DH gets up to get D a bottle. Recently I've become a very heavy sleeper, first time in years. He doesn't mind as I was up with her for the first 8 months or so now it's his turn. :D
I guess I am very lucky!
Buddha Bubbas
18-06-2007, 22:23
Not so much during the night anymore.
When Ds was born DP did most of the work.
These days DP takes over and does bath and bottle when he gets home. Then its my turn during the night to get up. If DS wakes early then DP will get up with him. DP will occassionally get up during the night if we had had a few bad nights and I am tired. I always have Friday nights off and usually sleep in the spare room to get a full nights sleep and a sleep in.
This works really well for us. Its nice bonding time for them. I dont see why he shouldn't be involved in all aspects of parenting. Good and bad.
Well my DH doesn't lactate so he couldn't get up to feed DD. However, I only ever asked for help on nights where I was desperate (like I would've have been up all night and it's now 5am and I've had one hour's sleep, I'd wake him so I could get a couple of hours before he went to work). I lived on 4-6 hours of broken sleep a night for 12 1/2 months. I hardly ever had a nap during the day.
DH's work requires his mind to be there and he works much more effeciently if he isn't tired, which means he got home quicker (his job isn't certain hours...it's a 'this is what needs to be done and you stay until it's done type' of job.) No point in us both being tired.
In the early days, when DD had a late bed time (10.30pm was what we knocked it back to after a couple of weeks) I'd feed her and then go to bed while he stayed up with her until she went to sleep and so that way I had a head start on my night. Of a weekend, or a weekday morning where he wasn't ina rush to get to work he'd get up and bring DD in for me to feed her and then he'd stay up with her so I could get a bit more sleep if I need it. That didn't happen often, just on the nights where I was up every hour, not a typical night.
I actually liked that quiet time in the middle of the night, where it was just DD and I. I love getting to sleep right through now, don't get me wrong, but I never really hated having to get up.
LittleMissMel
18-06-2007, 22:24
I hear ya girlfriend.. hence the reason for me starting this thread!
VERY, VERY GOOD THREAD!! Maybe I will print out the ones saying DP/F/H does get up and show him what he should be doing. lol. Still wouldn't change. :rolleyes: Oh well, calmed down a bit now from earlier post. lol. :devil6:
Mel xoxo
Sorry I didn't realise this was in the bottle feeding section....
twolittlegirls
18-06-2007, 22:31
He has a few times. When I ask he does. More so with DD1. When DD2 was born we made a deal that he would get up to DD1 and I'd do DD2. DD2 sleeps through now so I rarely get up. She does have a dream feed at 10.15 and he usually does that so I can go to bed early just in case I'm up at all. Now that DD2 sleeps through, I usually get up to both if needed. He is a great Dad!!
funnyfarm
18-06-2007, 22:31
i voted No, but i wish he would. He is sitting next to me right now and his response was that he has to keep the bed warm for me when i get back in. :eek:
EskimoMumma
18-06-2007, 22:32
Yes my DP does.
Now if only he used the vacuum cleaner too..maybe the lawn mower too.
IheartOman
19-06-2007, 07:45
VERY, VERY GOOD THREAD!! Maybe I will print out the ones saying DP/F/H does get up and show him what he should be doing. lol. Still wouldn't change. Oh well, calmed down a bit now from earlier post. lol.
Mel xoxo
I'm glad you calmed down because I didn't! This thread got me even madder after seeing how many guys actually do get their butt's up in the night so I ended up confronting the'man' last night, it ended in arguements and I made him sleep in the spare room.. why bother sleeping in our room when he just stays in bed when DS wakes.. I may as well enjoy the whole bed to myself! :laughing:
i voted No, but i wish he would. He is sitting next to me right now and his response was that he has to keep the bed warm for me when i get back in. :eek:
Slap him for me! :D
bronny-jane
19-06-2007, 07:52
mine doesnt..neither do i:D zoe's slept through the night from 2 weeks old.... and thats when i stop bf her, and switched to bottle
LittleMissMel
19-06-2007, 07:56
I'm glad you calmed down because I didn't! This thread got me even madder after seeing how many guys actually do get their butt's up in the night so I ended up confronting the'man' last night, it ended in arguements and I made him sleep in the spare room.. why bother sleeping in our room when he just stays in bed when DS wakes.. I may as well enjoy the whole bed to myself! :laughing:
Yeah I know, it's not good. My DP (and I'm not saying all do) thinks that he has the 'hard' job of going to work. Okay yes he has to get up at 4.30am but as I tell him, my 'job' is 24hours a day, 7 days a week and I am always on 'call' even of a night time...
My DP sleeps in the spare room a fair bit because 'he doesn't like getting woken up by Charlotte' HELLO AT LEAST YOU GET TO STAY IN BED, I HAVE TO GET OUT AND TEND TO HER!!!! GGGGRRRRR
:devil6: coming out in me again, better post before i get worse! lol
Mel xoxo
SairBear
19-06-2007, 08:01
i voted yes, but i have to wake him to get him up as hes a deep sleeper and doesnt hear bubs stirring ( so im up anyways , grr ) and hes so dopey when hes finally up he forgets to change bubs nappy etc also. So half the time i just do it to save the hassle.
Its usually his job to feed on his days off, gives me a break and a re-charge. He does ok and is getting better .
~mia&ryan~
19-06-2007, 09:07
We DD was still having night feeds, yep he did get up.. We used to take turns so that one of us was always haveing s decent sleep...:thumbsup:
clgcsmum
19-06-2007, 09:15
I usually go to bed about 8 hubby does the 11 feed then I get up to do the 4 oclock feed as he is a driver and gets up at 5 he cant be falling asleep at the wheel, he gets home at 3 in the afternoon though and will look after and feed bubba while AI go to pick up older kids have a coffee or chat with freinds or go to the shops. On weekends he will help or have the kids anytime so I can go have time for me.:thumbsup:
FourAngelKisses
19-06-2007, 09:19
i voted No, but i wish he would. He is sitting next to me right now and his response was that he has to keep the bed warm for me when i get back in. :eek:
That's what an electric blanket is for.
SammiJane
19-06-2007, 09:35
I voted yes...... He would do it more except i wont let him as i dont want him tired for work the next day.
He doesnt like seeing me tired and grumpy because then i bite his head off lol
But I still have to wake up to wake him up so sometimes its easier if i get up.
He is a wonderful daddy and misses his cuddles if he doesnt get to feed him.
FourAngelKisses
19-06-2007, 09:37
That is so sweet Sam. You have a great father there for your boys.
Nope but hes there in all the other ways, he takes dd when he gets home from work to give me a break and on the weekends he makes up for it spending most of his time with her.
It doesn't bother me at all, Im quite happy to do it. Hes a wonderful Father and thats enough for me.
Anyhow I can get a nap with DD anytime she does, for now, when/if no4 comes along that might change though lol
IheartOman
19-06-2007, 10:18
I've started working one day a week and even then I still have to get up in the night. I don't think it is fair at all :no:
BlakeNatsMum
19-06-2007, 10:21
I'm actually very lucky. Even though my DF works full time, he will get up in the middle of the night to check on our DS and he will then feed our girl the expressed Breast milk that I give him. He waits for me to pump it out and put it in the bottle for him to feed her, while I keep expressing out the other breast as it is uncomfortable for me to sleep with full breasts. He happily feeds her, then hands her back to me for a burp then I re-settle her and put her back into bed. We work as a great "team" and he never complains!.. I am really lucky...!
IheartOman
19-06-2007, 14:05
I'm actually very lucky. Even though my DF works full time, he will get up in the middle of the night to check on our DS and he will then feed our girl the expressed Breast milk that I give him. He waits for me to pump it out and put it in the bottle for him to feed her, while I keep expressing out the other breast as it is uncomfortable for me to sleep with full breasts. He happily feeds her, then hands her back to me for a burp then I re-settle her and put her back into bed. We work as a great "team" and he never complains!.. I am really lucky...!
Very lucky!
pinkandblue
19-06-2007, 14:53
No my DP doesnt get up during the night and do feeds. Maybe once a month he might get the bottle but then he is straight back to sleep. He also doesnt change nappies either.
But when he does get home from work he does play with them until they go to bed.
When bub needed her night feed (not anymore) he used to offer but mostly i liked to do it. But i had no probs with him helping.
:yes: My Dh got up during the night, it was a very much shared responsibility and he was fantastic! Never complained and sometimes wouldnt let me get up! LOL!
He has said this time even if I do succeed at Bfing that he will still get up and bring bub to me and then put bub back to sleep. I love my DH so much!:D
IheartOman
19-06-2007, 20:55
:yes: My Dh got up during the night, it was a very much shared responsibility and he was fantastic! Never complained and sometimes wouldnt let me get up! LOL!
He has said this time even if I do succeed at Bfing that he will still get up and bring bub to me and then put bub back to sleep. I love my DH so much!:D
That is awesome. :)
BrendansMum
20-06-2007, 09:56
Yes he does, almost every night since B started bottle feed (2w old) :thumbsup:
i wish
he rufuses.
not happy jan.
Noah_and_Elijah
21-06-2007, 17:50
mine doesnt..neither do i:D zoe's slept through the night from 2 weeks old.... and thats when i stop bf her, and switched to bottle
Oh yeah, I should have added that Noah has slept through from 5 weeks old (also when starting on formula) so there has only been the very odd time that either of us have had to do a night feed!! :D
when i switched to ff my hubby and i took turns - he would do before midnight and i would do after, however when chloe started waking at 1 or 2 am he still did that feed as she woke for the day at 6.30 and he preferred to stay in bed til 7am :rolleyes: silly twit so i really got the better deal.
she has slept through since she was about 4 months old but he goes in and tucks her in every night at 9.30 and if she ever stirs before 6.30am he will go in..... on weekends he tends to get up and get her up and a bottle and then we snuggle in bed together (well we try and chloe pulls our hair/ears/mouth lol)
i think that each couple and each person has different needs - while some of you defend your husbands for not getting up, others are obviously struggling with the lack of sleep - i think that mothers really need to bond together and not attack each other or "outdo" each other... every situation is different!!!
Hmmmm I don't remember how it was with Bryce I think when I was really tired and beat or sick DH would get up and feed Bryce so I could get some rest. Hopefully the same with the new bub.
our little treasures
21-06-2007, 23:05
I am bf but I thought I would join in. DH always gets up to rock bubs once they have been fed or if they don't need a feed as they can smell the milky.
ICanDream
23-06-2007, 09:20
I fully breastfeed until a few weeks ago when due to my own health I had to stop as I needed treatment for an auto-immune disease I have. Until my DS was maybe 7 months old he fed every 2 hours so I wasn't able to leave him longer than that with anyone as he wouldn't take a bottle full stop.
Anyway, here we are, he is now fully bottlefed at 10 months and my DH has not done one bedtime or dream feed. When it's time to do either feed he will get on the computer or take himself off to bed.
I appreciate that he works but my little cherub has never been a good day sleeper and I haven't much had the luxury of "naps" during the day apart from the odd 20min snooze.
It's hard on everyone as it's all so life changing but I do think DH could step up a little more, especially with me not being 100% healthy.
I am breastfeeding but my dh would get up at night just to pick up our ds and give it to me then put him back to the cot when we've finished. We work as a team.:thumbsup:
The good thing is ds has been sleeping through since 8 weeks old, except the odd occasion when he's teething, sick or in a new environment.
my bubby is 7 months old and doesn't get up for night feeds anymore, but when he a newborn my DF feed him alot during the night as I was still in alot of pain from my c-section & I had trouble gettin up & down. It was a great help.
Even now DF is alot of help with bubz, sometimes helping with washing bottles, feeding, nappy changes...the works!! It definately makes life easier.
mum2blueeyes
25-06-2007, 14:31
We don't do night feeds any more (DS is nearly 1), but earlier on, definitely. I was breastfeeding initally, but then bubs had to go onto a prescription formula because of a health issue, and I have to admit being able to share the load with the night feeds was an absolute blessing. Sleep is so important, and I was actually able to get some once DS had started on the bottle.....
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