Help

[Chanelc]

OK my ex wont allow my daughter a passport, wont go to mediation, wont sign consent orders, pays $6 lousy a week in maintenance and basically makes life difficult.
Has anyone got a solution how to ensure parenting decisions are made when the other wont co-operate?

[motherlylove]

Have you rang legal aid?

[Butterflymumma]

I think if Legal Aid can help you thats great, but my experience with them has been dissapointing. I applied to get my ex to attend a conference, they told me that if he declined then it would go further, well he declined and then they wrote to me and said that they couldnt help me any further until i applied again! He's refused meditation as well so...

I've just decided that him refusing to get orders put in place is his loss...without orders in place to say otherwise, as my dd's primary carer i have the right to make all the decisions for her and can refuse him access if need be. that sounds a bit harsh but he's already admitted to me he has mental and emotional problems, so why would i leave my dd alone with him? He's got himself in a pretty sticky situation here because if he wanted to take her away he'd have to take me to court and if he doesnt believe in legal stuff...well..what can he do? I am her primary carer, what ive been told is- it is not illegal to refuse him access unless there are orders in place.

What is the deal with the passport? is there any fine print that gets you out of having him sign? is he on the birth cert?

I wish you luck hun, just remember he has no legal rights until he gets orders in place, until then, use his stubbornness to your advantage :hugs:

[Chanelc]

Thanks spoke to Legal Aid and they said I have to get a solicitor to take it to court as Legal aid can't handle the matter.
As for mediation he has declined to go so it has to be dealt with by a lawyer in the court.
The Minister of Foreign Affairs needs a court document to state I am the sole provider. Some how I will get her a passport - so be it we can't go to Bali but he aint stopping me from travelling with my daughter to places like Dinseyland etc (yes one day I love to take her when I can afford it!)
I can't believe the system allows them to stop such things!

[Chickadee]

Good luck with that Chanel. Even when you do get a passport, be sure you take that court document with you when you go overseas. Or some other evidence that you have sole custody. Some countries (such as Canada and I think the USA) are vigilante about possible parental abduction cases. When I travelled to Canada without DD's father I was supposed to have a letter with me either saying I had custody, or that he had signed approving the trip.

[mooter]

Go to your nearest Magistrates Court. They have a form to allow you to get a passport without the fathers consent. You will have to wait in the court room to have your case heard, however a Magistrate will allow a passport to be issued if there is no suffiecient reason to disallow it.

Good luck

[Chanelc]

Mooter thank you...
god can't believe being a single parent can be so much fun (not!)
At the end of the day I know good wins over evil and he is being plan evil and spiteful as he is not invited!

[Femme-Fetale]

Chanelc. i know our situations are different, and i know your on the right side here and just trying to do right, and make life fun and safe and all that jazz, but i have to say i am glad that the laws govening getting passports are so hard. It slows down any chance of my ex doing a runner to pakistan where there are no extradition laws! :(