Boundaries with kids

[Tea Lady]

Has anyone used the ideas from this book with their kids? It seems to have alot of useful ideas in it but my baby's only young so I'd value feedback from people with older kids. Thanks :)

[Ky]

I don't know the book, but I think the jist of what almost everyone says is that you set boundries that you think are fair, firm and keep you and your child safe and happy ... make sure that you and your partner are in total agreement and in agreement on how to enforce them and then just get on with it!

The main thing I know is that children are a lot happier when they know where they stand and seem to turn out to be more content adults if brought up this way.

I believe that there are some things that you don't need to turn into a fight or struggle, some things need to be let slide, but other issues need to be kept firm ... ti is up to you and your partner to decided which and then work as a team so that the kids (and they are really clever!!!0 cannot play you off against each other!

Saying this ... there are times where I am really slack with the boundries I have given my kids ... we are never perfect - lol!

much love + boundries = happy child!

[poshBecks]

HI Lucy havn't read Boundaries with kids, but have read Boundaries in marriage. Really GREAT!!! So imagine that it would also be good. Must buy it & have a read too.... :rolleyes:

[Tea Lady]

Thanx girls. Your advice sounds great Kyra - i just have to try to be consistent i guess! Becky I was just thinking I should check out their other books - I got the kids one from the library (cheapskate option as usual!).

[poshBecks]

Dunno if my library has them....:rolleyes: Should check it out!!

[Funkychicken]

Hi there,
I read this book about 6 years ago when our DS#1 was born. Actually i bought the set of three. The other two being Boundaries and Boundaries In Marriage. Fantastic books but I have to be honest, I can't recall a lot of it now. A lot of books have passed through my hands in 6 years! I do remember applying bits and pieces though. Setting boundaries is a fantastic way to give security to children. Without boundaries of sorts they can often flounder in the world and this can be reaaly scary for children. You have jogged my memory a bit and I may even go back and read them again!