help on starting Toilet training

[krispycat]

Hi,
My son is 2 and 3 months and we are starting to look at ways of getting him out of his nappy and toilet trained. Has anyone got any good suggestions and stories on what has worked for you. Thanks

[bigbadbrad]

Our boy is Three and a bit and made the transition from nappies very well but we still put a nappy on him at night. Does anyone have tips on how to get him nappy free 24/7 :confused:

[bubhub]

Hiya

You might get some more info on starting Toilet Training on the following page of the Child & Youth Health (South Australia) website: http://www.cyh.com/cyh/parentopics/usr_index0.stm?topic_id=121

Our boy (who is now 3 and 4 months) didn't show any interest until he was about 2 and 8 months. We kept asking if he wanted to use the potty and he'd just say 'no'. However, when he did say 'yes' he learnt really quickly. We had very few accidents and no problems at all - he was always happy to use the toilet or potty (he prefers the toilet with an insert so that he doesn't 'fall in'!). Other parents that I've spoken to have said that it's best to wait until they are ready - don't worry about other friends having their kids trained at an earlier age - and it makes it much easier for all concerned.

[sixkidlets]

My first son was a breeze to tt. He was just over two and I said thats it, no more nappies (day or night), and he has never had an accident, however, the rest did not follow suit.

They were all just under 3 when they showed intrest, and even then we had a few accidents.

My twins are just 3 and 3months, once they were out of daytime nappies, I refused to let them have night time one as well, as I thought it was too confusing for them (less work for me mind you) They on the rare occasion now, will wet the bed, usually when its freezing!

the first week they wet their bed everynight, the next week about 3 nights (funny they both would do it the same night!) then after that not really anything, maybe once a fortnight.

we put all our kids straight to the BIG toilet, no potties here, and we would also sit the boys on, but backwards till they go balance, and for wees, until they got tall enough to reach LOL.

[kamb]

Hi,
My son is 2 and 3 months and we are starting to look at ways of getting him out of his nappy and toilet trained. Has anyone got any good suggestions and stories on what has worked for you. Thanks


Hi my little girl turned 2 on 18/7/02. I have just started to put her in pull ups. She lets us know when she needs to go no. 2's and we sit her on the potty, but is not letting us know when she has to go for no.1's.
It was suggested to me to try her for a week in pull ups and sit her on every hour.
If after a week she is not telling us she needs the toilet and is still wetting her pull-ups. Then it may be good to start her in the summer, but still keep putting her on the toilet / potty as frequently as you can until the summer and keeping her in nappies also until then.

[muso mama]

I tried and tried to convince my son it might be a good idea. Finally i worked out that putting him back in nappies or pull ups (i dont really see the difference) when he had an accident was my BIG mistake - i just put another pair of dry pants on him. After three pairs in the same morning he got sick of that awful wet feeling and remembered to go BEFORE they got wet. However he VERY occasionally still had accidents( for about 6 mths) and once i asked him why and he said "I can't help it mum - it just goes all by itself!". As a woman i really had no comeback.......... :D
C

[nic]

Hi,
My son is 2 and 3 months and we are starting to look at ways of getting him out of his nappy and toilet trained. Has anyone got any good suggestions and stories on what has worked for you. Thanks

Hi krispycat

Little Tara nearly 3 ,one sunday night decided to go in bed without her nappy, and so she did, she's 4 now and we have no problem. we never pushed her, just wait till the time is right
Cheers
Nic

[mamabear]

hi there,

Don't start too early as they can get stressed and it can take longer.
If you think they are getting stressed don't keep pushing them let them have a break from it.
Try using Pull-Ups before going cold turkey as this seems to ease them into the concept of I'm a big kid now.
Try to never use any negative words or tone if they have an accident (hard i know after a few changes of clothes)
If you have certain rules like you have to try to go to the toilet before you go in the car, to the shops, in the pram then it gives them the opportunity to relieve themself before they get to the point of no return.
Don't be surprised if they don't get the hang of number 2's for a while.

I hope this helps. :)

[G&C]

Hi my little girl turned 2 on 18/7/02. I have just started to put her in pull ups. She lets us know when she needs to go no. 2's and we sit her on the potty, but is not letting us know when she has to go for no.1's.
It was suggested to me to try her for a week in pull ups and sit her on every hour.
If after a week she is not telling us she needs the toilet and is still wetting her pull-ups. Then it may be good to start her in the summer, but still keep putting her on the toilet / potty as frequently as you can until the summer and keeping her in nappies also until then.

I waited to summer with my daughter and put knickers on her at home she soon felt the sensation that wet her knickers and achieved great bladder control very quickly. (I used to put her on the toilet every hour to start) I used pull ups when we went out for a couple of months and she is now totally ok during the day. I think pullups can be a little confusing for kids as its really just a variation on a nappy.

[nyrrek]

I have always started my kids toilet training by putting them on the potty while the bath is running. We all know what the sight and sound of running water does to us. The child will be most likely to go in this environment. The habit can quickly form and kickstart the training process. Good luck. :)

[kamb]

I waited to summer with my daughter and put knickers on her at home she soon felt the sensation that wet her knickers and achieved great bladder control very quickly. (I used to put her on the toilet every hour to start) I used pull ups when we went out for a couple of months and she is now totally ok during the day. I think pullups can be a little confusing for kids as its really just a variation on a nappy.



I tend to agree with you that pullups can be confusing for her as they really are just like nappies. I have converted back to nappies until summer and will try her with knickers. thankyou for sharing

[nyrrek]

Good, old fashioned training pants are the way to go, I think. I found pullups really only worthwhile on long car trips etc. The toweling pants are thick enough to prevent dribbles down the legs, but will let the child feel the wetness. They may be a bit of hard work washing them, but economical in the long run. A hint for mums trying to train through the night. If your child is wetting the bed and you are sick of changing sheets in the middle of the night, 'double make' the bed. I do this even with my babies in case of leaky nappies, vomiting etc. Place a mattress protector (even a flannel backed vinyl tablecloth will do) on the bed and place sheets on top. Then place another mattress protector on top and another layer of sheets. If your child has an accident in the night, just strip off the first layer. This avoids the whole drama of making the bed in the middle of the night.

[krispycat]

Wow. Thanks guys. Some great suggestions.
I have one question though. Is it better to teach a little boy on a potty or to stand on a step and go like dad in the toilet and have a insert in the toilet for pooeys?

[omy]

Hi i had wonderfull results with my daughter she was trained in 4 days for both ones and twos at two years four moths old it was a breeze straight from nappies to undies didnt do the pull up thing it is to expensive if they dont get the hang of it quickly

with my son it is a totally diff story he is nearlly 3 hes got the no. ones down pat but the no. twos we have a big problem with

I was told that it is because he was tought to stand from the very start to do wees and his father does it that way he wanted to do it to but he will not sit on the potty at all and only sit on the toilet when we are out or at someone elses place other wise he will wee on the grass tree fence ect ect and if we are out he will try that option 1st before we got to the toilet so if any ones got any tips to get him to go to the loo for the poos it would be a big help

Of we still use a nappy at night time we are waiting till it is a bit warmer before we push our luck on that one but 1 nappy a day isnt to bad

[Miss_Vicki]

For me it pretty much so easy , about 2 -2 1/2 jaz started watchin me in loo, been brought up to open mindness i didnt see that in harm, not like she could see detail but enoughf to know what mum musta been doin .
Durring the summer months she spend fair bit of time out of clothes an in the pool , an used to go pee in the garden standin up , Guess was when i noticed she was gainin mussle control , id still keep nappies on or off deependin in what she wanted, an some times just asked her , By the time she was only a few months off been 3 she all of a suden just stopped usein nappies an asked for the loo
it kinda like happened over nite, an within a 1week of usein the loo she was completly off nappies not even wettin her bed.. By 3 she was ou of them completly an wasnt havin nite accidents, On a few occionals she wet her bed but it was from the visits she had with her dad (another story) But i think betwen comunitcation with her an listening to her needs we grew an learnt together on loo training, She is just to smart lol

[NicoleBregmen]

HI
My little boy Elijah started on the potty, everyone i know said it was the biggest mistake beacuse you then have to train them to use the toilet, he was amazing, he has been trained for about 9 months and we have had maybe 2 accidents, he moved from potty to the toilet very easily in his own time. I was staying at my Inlaws a few weeks ago and brought a step for Elijah to use to stand up while we went to use the toilet, my Husband and father inlaw told me straight away he was too young to hold and control himself at this age. So he is still sitting down, i have decided he will start standing in his own time. :p

[Hokey Pokey]

Olivia was trained just before her second bday, and night time she wasn't done until 3. She never had a potty or anything or an special pants, pull ups etc.. she just went stright to undies and that was that!

Bella is 21 months and is wanting to sit on the toilet now so we let her, has not done anything yet so here is hoping it may be her time soon too!!

Good Luck with your little one!! They will do it when the time is right for them!!

[shansmum]

I have just discovered this forum and almost fell over with shock when I read Omy talking about her 3yo. FINALLY... someone going through same thing as me!!!

Started training Shan 6 months ago and used a Star Chart for him. Worked really well for wees. Best thing that could have happened was a friend of his who was already toilet trained visited for the day and each time she went, he went too. Lots of stars on chart that day! :) He had the jist of things after that.

Shanon sounds exactly the same as Omy's son - wees ok, but refuses to do no 2s on toilet/potty. Is quite happy to do it in garden or will hold on until nighttime nappy (still uses them for sleeptime as too many accidents). Have tried bribery - everything.

I am thinking of putting him back in nappies for a little while to take the pressure off both of us. I know this is going 'backwards' but I really don't know what else to do.

Does anyone have any suggestions? Please!?! :confused:

[Amy]

Wow. Thanks guys. Some great suggestions.
I have one question though. Is it better to teach a little boy on a potty or to stand on a step and go like dad in the toilet and have a insert in the toilet for pooeys?


HI KRISPYCAT...

I taught my little boy to use the potty first for number one's and number two's.. Once he mastered the potty we slowly started teaching him to go like daddy in the big toilet for wee's but still let him use the potty for number two's.. then we slowly moved him from potty to big toilet for number two's using the insert... I think the big toilet is daunting for little people so i perfer the potty to start with and slowly make the change... Hope this helps... :)

[Xandersmum]

My son was 2 in September 04, and has only really started toilet training in the last month or so. Sometimes he'll ask to go, even if he doesn't need, sometimes we ask, and sometimes he just does it in his nappy. But I'm not overly concerned about getting him out of nappies straight away (although the extra cash would be nice :P)...I know he'll do it in his own time. He's already in the routine of going, wiping (hasn't done a number 2 on the loo yet tho), and flushing, then washing his hands. It's just getting him to go more often.

[Jen]

my eldest son was dry day and night before he was two. I used cloth nappies for him, and he just refused to let me either take them off or put them on. I was pregnant with my second boy (they are 22 mths apart) and toobig to argue,so I just put the potty out (we had 3 storeys) and after a few misses he was picture perfect, potty and toilet and the occasional tree at the park. Then after the baby was born he was fine until MiL came to visit. She and my husband clashed and he picked up onevery cross feeling. His reaction was to poo in his underpants. I tried to keep calm, but after the 20th poo I snapped and put him back into nappies - totally wrong decision, but sometimes you have to make it to the next day withoout losing it! The novelty wore off after a few days once she had gone, but even now if he there is upset between Hubbie and me that is what he uses to annoy us.
Phew, after all that I'd say wait until they are ready (although my son was, just bad timing with new baby and mother in law, but how do you put it off if they are reeady) and once you go, don't turn back, just grit your teeth, do your best not to shout about how disgusting poo everywhere is and don't associate it with good and bad comments. It's also a good idea to keep some of the more gushing friends/family ("oh wow is that a poo, aren't you a clever one") in the picture.... everyone eventually uses a toilet competently, and over exaggeration leads to thhe child realisisng how much this is desired and they can use it as a \power play, especially if they have started once they can really express themselves.
good luck